How do you choose a person as you best friend?

India
February 16, 2009 1:42pm CST
In our life we come across so many people, but all of them are not our friends. A few only become friends. We will have so many friends in our life, but all cannot be our best friends. What does best friend mean to you? How do you judge a person as your best friend? How many do you have?
7 responses
• United States
16 Feb 09
I don't really judge people or choose them as my best friends, it just kind of happens when you get close to someone over time. If you are compatible to be a really good friend to someone, it happens. I have a few best friends, my mother, my friend Beth, and my boyfriend. They mean a lot to me because I can really have good conversations with them and they will not judge me, but they will relate to me and understand what is going on in my life. Those are very good things to have in a friendship. There are other people I can consider friends, but they do not have the same importance to me.
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• United States
16 Feb 09
Sugarplum got it right! A best friend just happens with time. It's someone that you really connect with , more then others. You love your best friend as family. A best friend is someone you can tell anything to and they will listen without judging you. Usually it's hard to just sit in silence with a friend and not say anything at all, but you can do this with a best friend and not feel uncomfortable. There are different types of friends , some closer then others, and some come and go quickly. A best friend dosen't come along often, and when they do they are with you through all lifes ups and down.
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@uath13 (8207)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Only kids CHOSE a best friend. It's just the person your closest to.
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@ROYALG333 (126)
• United States
16 Feb 09
like many people have said here, i don't think you "choose" a best friend. I posted this percentage on another discussion but it will work well with this one so I will post it again 25% of people you meet will hate you no matter how hard you try 25% of people you meet will hate you but come around to liking you 25% of people you meet will like you but one day turn their back on you 25% of people you meet will stick by you through and through
• India
16 Feb 09
The percentage you said is wrong in my case only.
• United States
16 Feb 09
well its an estimation. no % is ever going to be perfect.
@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I don't think you choose your best friend. I believe life chooses them for you!!! There are people that you meet that you just connect with. Loyalty is one of the determining factors. I have 2 best friends...one female & one male!!! The female & I have been friends for 57 years. The male & I only 7 months.
• India
16 Feb 09
You have one best friends in 7 months and one for 57 years. What are the qualities you see in best friend?
• United States
16 Feb 09
That is very true we do come into contact with many people during our lifetime and although we may develop relationships with some of them they don't all have to be grouped in the Friend category. My definition of a best friend is someone who knows me inside out, who is there for me through thick and thin, who will tell me when I'm wrong, who will tell me things that I NEED to hear and not what I want to hear. A best friend is someone who loves me and won't judge me. Won't be envious of me and always has my best interest at heart. Someone who does something about a situation in my life if able rather than to critize me and do nothing. A best friend is someone who feels your pain even if its not related to them. A best friend is someone who understands that you're busy and can't talk to them like you once did in the past, they understand that you have goals and when you don't they try to inspire you to get some then help you to acheive them. And most importantly to me they pray with and for you. And after looking at all the things that I've been through in my life I can honestly say that I have four best friends. These girls have been there for me, have called me out, and have taken up for me in ways one can't imagine. I love them and they truly love me! They're my sisters!!!!
@1corner (744)
• Canada
16 Feb 09
Through shared values and interests mostly; also, dependability, ability to become a close confidante are my criteria for choosing friends. A BEST friend however, is a little hard to define. It takes TIME to find this out (and I believe, very rare), but certainly someone who'll be with you through thick and thin qualifies as one.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
16 Feb 09
My best friend is my best friend because out of all my friends she is the one who has been there for me through so much. She comes to me with problems and I go to her with problems I may have. We just grew to be best friends after we met, it wasn't like a conscience decision or anything like that.