Would you leave your child unattended while you go to work?

@ronaldinu (12440)
Malta
February 16, 2009 2:14pm CST
Would you leave your child unattended while you go to work? My friend left her 8 year old son with 103 C fever and his three year old sister with him. Her mother was going to check three hours later to see how they are doing. I was astonished because I would not leave a sick child all alone at home.
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• United States
16 Feb 09
That's pretty disturbing. No child under the age of 13 should be left alone, in my opinion. I'm definitely old shcool, but children need an adult around. I was very blessed, because when I was growing up, it was alomst unheard of that children would be left alone, or would come home from school without an adult to meet them at the door. All children need supervision.
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
I do agree with you Bohemian. What could have happened if the child had convulsions because he had high fever? What if someone got hurt? Worst, what if the child touched something or bumped into something that could cause more damage like fire? These things don't take 3hours to put permanent damage. I guess the mother isn't mature enough. She's unfit to be a mother. As your friend, you should advise her that. Isn't that illegal in your place?
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• China
18 Feb 09
Quite right. I just can't believe that a mother would leave such a young baby alone. Babies are curious about everything around them,no matter it is dangerous or not. If some accidents happen to the bayby,the mother is bound to regret all her life.
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• United States
18 Feb 09
I think as a friend to her I would report her. NO CHILD of that age should be home alone especially with a 3 year old and being sick. This could happen again and something might happen. What does she usually do with her 3 year old while she works. I am assuming the 8 year old was home from school sick. This is why we have Children services in the US. Please either talk to her about it or report her. She didn't only run to the neighbors house for a minute she left them unsupervised for at least a 3 hour span. Not to mention if you told her you didn't like it or she was wrong maybe she just told you she was checking in on them to ease your conserns.
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@jojoba (40)
• Lithuania
16 Feb 09
I wouldn't do that also.. The boy is sick and he has to look after his litlle sister, I think that's too difficult for a 8-year-old child. However, I don't know why she did that thing? May be she had to go to work, because she must earn money for food and medecine and there is no one around to look after her children?
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@alharra (507)
• United States
16 Feb 09
My daughter had a seizure caused by a fever of 101... granted she was less than a year old but still. That child could easily have a seizure. I'm sorry I would report this woman to child services.
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
16 Feb 09
You are right... a high fever could lead to a seizure in children, even an older child... it was a careless move on the mothers part! Shame on her.
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@Amanda81587 (3046)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Wow you have a messed up friend no offense. I would never leave my child alone if they were sick. If the work is extremely important and there is a chance that you could get fired and its your only way for income then I would look for a close relative like a grandma or an aunt, but i would definitly be on call if there were something to happen. But I would definitly now let him alone, and to babysit a younger sibling at that. I am not sure what she was thinking but I would have questioned that as well.
• United States
16 Feb 09
Not leave*
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@SueD823 (371)
• United States
16 Feb 09
This hits on a nerve with me. My ex-husband had my then, 8 year old, and left her with a 104 fever, at home alone. His wife is a Registered Nurse and he is a COP! Pissed me off to no end. I absolutely would not, especially in today's time, not to mention her mind is not mature enough to make decisions about what to do if there is a fire, someone knocks on the door, etc.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
16 Feb 09
8 Years old is just to young to leave alone like that. Yeah if your in the back yard or within yelling distance but never alone. And for one to have such a high fever and leave them is to me pure nuttiness. She should have tried to get a babysitter or family to watch them not just check up on them hours later. In most instances a child has to be 12 or over to be able to be left alone like that. I think that is the age most or some start to babysit. But that all depends on their maturity also. I know 16 years olds that act younger then the 8 year olds at times. She is lucky no one called the children services on her.She would be in deep doo-doo.
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@alharra (507)
• United States
16 Feb 09
With a fever that high the child should have been in the ER!!!!
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@reoko10 (578)
• United States
16 Feb 09
Oh my god you can't do that when your child's fever gets to 103 you need to stay with the child because you don't know if the child's fever could get higher and if it dose you must go to the doctor to make sure every thing is ok. What if the child had started a fire trying to make his self something to eat then what, dose she know she could go to jail just for leaving your child at home alone even if you just walk down the street. I would never do any thing like this I be scared that my older daughter would hurt my younger daughter, I would also be scare that something bad would happen to them like opening the door for the wrong person and being hurt or worst taken, this is bad vary bad.
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
16 Feb 09
no! we canĀ“t do that in germany.if the government knows it they will take your kid out of your hands!because they will call you iresponsible parents!if we thought nobody knows it but there is neighbor and i am sure the are wondering why and what happend
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@alharra (507)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I'm sorry bombshell this woman does not need to have custody of those children. Fevers that high are extremely dangerous- seizures and brain damage are very real possibilities. Leaving a child that sick home alone is irresponsible and to add a 3 year old to that situation just makes it worse!!!
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@nini89 (670)
• India
18 Feb 09
I used to leave my kids with my mom while I am at office. I leave them in the morning to my mom's place while leaving in the morning with all thier food and fruits to eat, their studying materials and dress with mom. In the evening while returning from office i used collect them and come to my house as it was near. If they fell sick on that day I am not able to go to office until I take them to Doctor or they are well. Happy posting and have a nice day.
• India
18 Feb 09
Really the msg while i was reading hurted a lot because the sick child is more imporatnt than the work.we have to take care of our child when child is not feeling well.well my opinion is that we have to postpone the other work and take the child immediately to doctor and see the child recover as quickly as possible. CERTAINLY I WONT LEAVE MY CXHILD IF THE SAME SITUATION ARISES TO ME.
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@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I thought there is some law that they have to be a certain age to stay home by themselves and then older then that to be left with someone younger then them. Shes crazy and if someone would find out I bet social services would be all over her a$$. Maybe you should mention this to her. Poor kids.
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• Philippines
17 Feb 09
I would never leave my child alone and unattended whether he is sick or not. Especially younger than 13 years old. She could have left the child to a trusted neighbor or a friend or relative, but never alone.
• United States
16 Feb 09
No way no how would I even consider that, actually that wouldnt have even been an option in my opinion. That is just crazy... and if he was sick that makes it even worse, that is when he needs her more... oh that is just upsetting to hear, since when does work come first over a sick child. That is just wrong. I hope the kids are ok now.
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@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
16 Feb 09
I know that where I live the law states that you can not leave your kids at home alone until they are the age of 12 at least. I myself would not leave my kid at home alone if they were sick let alone leave them to take care of another child. I am not sure why anyone would leave their kid at home alone at that age.
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• United States
16 Feb 09
I would never do that, especially if they are sick. That is crazy! I think it is illegal to leave children that young home while you go to work. Even worse if they are sick. That is horrible!
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
16 Feb 09
There is no way I would do something like that. I can't even imagine leaving a child of any age home especially an eight year old with a temperature of which you mentioned. There is just no way something like that should ever happen. I don't understand your friend. That scares me to think of something like that.
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 09
Doesn't that get classed as child neglect? I think laws are much stiffer nowadays and I can understand why, they are there for a reason, I dread to think if someone had broken in or knew there were minors alone, it doesn't bare thinking about, what does this person think she is doing? No one leaves their children alone for five minutes let alone three hours, and that's when they are healthy, when they are ill and have a fever, I couldn't believe what I read, that made me go cold, sorry but it stinks personally, how anyone could do that? I know laws are different in other countries but if it was the UK the social services would be taking this up and at worst she could be charged with child neglect and prosecuted, maybe I sound harsh but children have to be put first and never endangered and put at risk and this is clearly what the woman has done!
• United States
16 Feb 09
Your friend's behavior is absolutely shocking and unbelievably irresponsible. As others have mentioned, a fever that high is very dangerous, and for an 8 year old to be left in delirium like that is disgraceful - let alone being left in charge of a 3 year old!!! I have never left my child at home alone - ever - and she is a little older than the child in question. Your friend is lucky that something bad didn't happen to her children while waiting for Grandma to check up on them, or after she left. If she keeps up that behavior she might get a visit from social services some day soon.
@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
16 Feb 09
No way in the world would I leave an 8yo child (sick OR well) alone - particularly not with a 3yo! What is this lady thinking? Maybe she will lose her job if she doesn't go - maybe she has no leave available - we have to walk in another's shoes before we can understand the whole circumstances - but this is asking for trouble! If the little boy's condition worsens, he'll be in dire trouble - and the toddler could do just about anything! I hope your friend finds some other solution and either finds a childminder or stays home from work for the day.
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