Should a guy always be the person to pay?

United States
February 17, 2009 9:08pm CST
Okay, if a guy in pursuing a love of a girl, the guy must pay everytime they go out? He must show his side of gentleman, pay for the meals, the movie tickets, shopping, etc....... what do you say about this?
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12 responses
@neha2k94u (408)
• India
18 Feb 09
No matter whoever pays for that, it shouldn't be like everytime your bf has to pay for that, Everything is mutual then why all this. ya but atleast when my brother is with me I never used to pay for the bills even when its my treat. Isn't that just great.
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• India
18 Feb 09
That's not done. Even if your brother have an unlimited pocket money, you should pay for your self and certainly for your treats you should be the one spending and not your brother, no matter which one you are talking about.
• India
18 Feb 09
ok I have got your message buddy... I wont do it in future. Thanks to show me the way...
@nmw2005 (1197)
• United States
18 Feb 09
I don't think the guy should be the only person to pay for thing. When I was dating my now husband, I would pay for movie tickets, dinner and so on.
@Porcospino (19703)
• Denmark
18 Feb 09
I don't think that the guy has to pay every time, going Dutch seems more fair to me, and I wouldn't expect a guy to pay for my meals or tickets. I am engaged now, so I don't go on dates, but when I was still dating different people I would always offer to pay half of the bill. In the past I have dated 3 kinds of men: The ones who insisted on paying the entire bill, the ones who wanted to go Dutch and the ones who didn't have any money and insisted that I pay the entire bill!
• China
18 Feb 09
hi,clorissa123!i think at the beginning,he should pay for the spending on both them two.if it comes to shopping ,the girl should pay it herself. when their relationship develops deeper, they can have a negotiation about it. But in the real life, there are many guys who just pay everything actively .they think it's the way to show their gentle or charm subcousciously,or they just do as others do,or something else.it's not work to all the girls,and more girls think it's unfair.
@Unah08 (671)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
I see nothing wrong with this gesture especially when a guy is courting a girl and wants to impress that girl. Yes this is a sign of being gentlemen when the guy/s asked a girl to go out he should at least pay for everything because the guy is the one who asked the girl for a date. This is a normal scenario seen in our culture, showing how sweet the guys are and this is mostly appreciated by the ladies. The ladies usually consider men who are thoughtful. However, if the courting relationship of a girl and a guy move up to another level and they form a committment then that is another story. Doing anything in excess is not good that's why when one enter a relationship the couples do share evrything with each other including expenses for whatever plans they want to do together. This is what we call sharing and sometimes termed as give and take relationship. Compromising with each other is a very important factor for a relationship to last and having a one way committment where the guy is always the one who have to do everything for the girl or pay for everything the girl wants or vice versa will just ruin the relationship between a couples. ^-^
@coolmailraj (2461)
• India
18 Feb 09
Not always but if he is paying most of the times then it doesn't sound that bad to me.
@coolmailraj (2461)
• India
18 Feb 09
Not always but if he is paying most of the times then it doesn't sound that bad to me.
@rmuxagirl (7561)
• United States
18 Feb 09
My ex used to pay for everything even clothes for me and that did start to bother me. It was sweet and romantic that he wanted to take care of me and pay for dinner and movies and what not, but when it was things I wanted or needed and I had the money for it did bother me that he bought them. I have tried to pay for things when we dated, but he wouldn't have it. Now my current boyfriend does pay for dinners and stuff, but I also try to insisit on buying things but he insists on buying somethings for me, so we compromised and we are working as a team now, the way we would as if we were married and it works better. Especially since we live in two different towns I don't want him to fly here for a weekend and him pay for dinner and stuff that would be worng.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
18 Feb 09
I would never want a guy to pay for me and for EVERYTHING!!!! That is not how the world works. Go dutch I say. You pay sometimes and so does he. That is how my fiance and I have been since the very beginning and that is how it should be. You do not need to rely on a guy to pay for your meal, movie tickets, shopping etc. I don't think that is fair at all.
@ericajoyce (1748)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
Hello clorissa. We all know that guys should pay when he and his girlfriend go out, but nowadays they much prefer if the girls should also contribute to the date.
@JanMags (726)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
i was once given an assignment to write about dating and i learned that men don't always have to pay. girls can sometimes offer to split the bill or even offer to pay entirely if they were the ones who invited the guys. i am a girl. in my case, i always feel awkward when the time comes to pay. but i guess this is because i don't have a lot of experience going out with guys. i am now married so most of the time, i'm the one who pays cause i always ask for part of my hubby's salary anyway. hahaha
• Canada
18 Feb 09
I dont know if im a modern girl or what but I absolutly hate when men pay for things for me. Especially when I have money on me to pay! I had a guy that I dated a few times and he knew that I didnt have much money. We went to a movie and he said oh let me pay cause i know you dont have much money! ahhhh I could have screamed. I told him after the movie NEVER to embarass me again like that. Then it backfired He never bought me anything again. I dont like when they pay for everything when were out. I think it should be half and half. I do like it when i guy surprises me with something like a single carnation. I hate roses rather carnations.