straight back to work from child-birth

@oyenkai (4398)
Philippines
February 18, 2009 10:12pm CST
Would you do it? Wouldn't you want to spend more time with your new born child? Is life THAT hard? I read about accounts where the career-mother went right back to work after a few days of a c-section. I guess that if the mother is really that happy with work, then she's more than entitled to - but I'm not a mom and I don't know the needs of a new born babe, would this greatly affect gratification of a child's needs?
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@JFinley (44)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Well personally, I would not feel good at all sending a newborn to a daycare center. First of all theres all the germs and sickness that other children would bring into the center, and secondly, you can probably find a story every day about someone being negligent at daycare places. A newborn should stay with their mother for as long as possible.
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• United States
19 Feb 09
While I agree that babies should be with mom as long as possible, I have to say that doing your research on Day Care Centers is essential. I found one that was called Granny's Infant Care. They only took babies up to age 3, so you didn't have to worry about the older kids walking all over the babies. It was three retired ladies who spent their day rocking babies. They were a little more expensive, but they were wonderful with my girls. If you have to go back to work, look around, if you feel the slightest bit concerned about a day care, go check out the next one.
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• United States
19 Feb 09
Thats true, but personally I'd be nervous taking a newborn anywhere new. It may be more uncomfortable for me because I am a first time mom. My baby's only 2 months.
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@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
I wasn't aware that there are actually Day Care Centers for any kid younger than 3yo...
• China
22 Feb 09
in my city, according to law, every career woman may enjoy 4-month leave with salary after baby-bearing. I was lucky enough having nearly 8 months to stay full-time with my daughter then. 4 month leave plus nearly 4 months of summer vacation as a univesity teacher. Yes, I feel every day with a newborn will be valuable, you may learn more of the baby, and make gradual and better adjustment to be a mother day by day. It means much more than job things.
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@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
22 Feb 09
That's very lucky of you. It's not mandatory for companies here in the Philippines to provide paid leave for new moms here in the Philippines.
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
19 Feb 09
Sadly, I have bben there. My second child was born on a Saturday morning, I got out of the hospital on Sunday, and returned to work on Monday. This was almost 11 years ago now, but it was what I had to do. I was the only one working and had babies to feed. My job had no beneits, and only paid minimum wage. Sadly, five weeksa after I returned to work, my son passed away. I have always felt that I missed his entire short life, even though I had my special time with him and my oldest son each day after work. I didn't get to spend every minute if hislife with him. I know that times are really hard right now for many of us, but I would have to say that nothing compares to those first few weeks of a baby's life. Ater my son passed, and I got pregnant again, I never rushed back to work again. It didn't matter to m how hard things were at the time, I knew God would helkp e through it. What mattered to me was being home with my kids. I would really urge any one who is getting ready to have a baby to take that time off of work to enjoy your little one in his/her first weeks of life. If you must go back to work, wait until the very last minute to do so. Nothing can replace those first weeks of life.
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@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
I hope more new mothers can read your sharing. It would help them settle their minds to be with their child instead of striving to work when work wouldn't matter much if the fruit of your being were to leave... Thank you so much.
@SukiSmiles (1998)
• United States
19 Feb 09
With my mom, I did not go back to work for a year, but I had also just moved to a really rural area and didn't have a job. After my daughter was born, I went back after three weeks. By then I had a job and projects that I was working on. Not the the projects were more important than my daughter, but I had responsibilities and I don't take those lightly. My husband and I were able to work out a schedule where one of us were with the kids 95-99% of the time.
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@ellen_mom (174)
• United States
19 Feb 09
I went back to work 5 weeks after my daughter was born because we could not afford for me to be out of work. If I had my choice, I would not go back to work until they have graduated from high school. A newborn who is nurtured and has thier needs met will be okay if it is the mom, dad, grandma, nanny, or day care center.
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• United States
19 Feb 09
I did that with only one of my children. I generally took off a few weeks. This time around though I've been home with both of them, and still am. I am enjoying their young periods. I think it's ok for both trains of thought though. A child can be just as loved by a working mom as by a stay at home mom. Namaste-Anora
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