do you lash out at myLot?
February 19, 2009 8:43am CST
when you're having a bad day and you want to wring someone's neck, do you find yourself going to myLot and lashing out before you know it? i've been peeking at other people's discussions and i've seen people agree on one issue, then suddenly the gears shift and one person makes a u-turn. on more than one occasion, i have seen people transform on myLot as if they were drinking dr jekyll's secret potion. i feel like they suddenly change their minds and argue for the sake of argument. like they actually WANTED to argue with someone. are you one of those people who, at one point in their lives, have somehow vented their anger on myLot discussions? i was asking my boyfriend why people suddenly start to rant despite a seemingly calm and innocent discussion. i can smell a fight brewing in some posts, and i often see posts that, to me, seem to say "i'm in a bad mood and looking to lock horns with someone." hmmm... now, be honest. catharsis can be a good thing for your health. ^_^
20 Feb 09
I've seen those discussions too! I have seen some that appear to have been written on impulse while the writer is hurt or upset such as "everyone here hates so goodbye! I'm deleting my account, do you guys hear me? I am deleting it now...Anybody? Hello?" (LOL) I have felt, shall we say, passionate about a topic or two and I have responded in anger but fortunately I had the good sense to preview my response and think again before submitting because I don't want to be here to fight with people; that would really ruin my day. I do enjoy a good, civil debate though and gladly contribute my thoughts. I usually like to know my facts before I argue so impulsive replies for me are not a good idea. I guess if you are not in the best place on any given day and someone starts a discussion about say, adultery and you just found out yesterday that your partner cheated on you that may well bring a different reaction than if your personal circumstances were different. Having said though, we are all different and sometimes if a MyLotter is spilling his or her emotions by being upset it can be okay because there may be a very good reason for it and one of us may even be able to help. That's life with its ups and its downs and MyLot is no different.
20 Feb 09
haha yes, i've seen those discussions. i think it's alright to be passionate about one issue. i just find it weird when they member posting the response is sudden;y attacking the member who started the discussion, specifically if the discussion (say, about adultery) didn't necessarily say the one who started the thread is FOR it. sometimes, when people read the title and it hits a nerve (like when the topic is about atheism or abortion), they immediately assume that whoever started it is immediately a staunch believer of the topic. they say stuff like, "how dare you believe in atheism!" when nowhere in your discussion did you post that you were. people should really learn to READ the discussion, and not merely the title. lol ^_^ although it's alright to be in any mood while posting, i find it more fun to read posts from emotionally stable people. i've read a lot of messages from members who passionately believe in one cause or another, yet the messages are never hostile and the message never contains "huh! huh! you see? you're wrong!" overall, people are people. if they can't control their emotions in real life, chances are they won't be able to control them here. and perhaps that's what adds spice to myLot. ^_^
19 Feb 09
I certainly try not to lash out at people. I'm here for interesting discussions, and I hope that's what others are here for, too. Sometimes I do get irritated by the comments other people have left, but I try to focus on the good and interesting comments/discussions and stay away from the arguments. Usually, if one person lashes out, then another one retaliates, then someone else "comes to the rescue" - well, then it just ends up being a mess. :) I may rant verbally at the computer screen, but I try not to actually post my rant!
19 Feb 09
hahaha, yes, i find those "threeway" discussions very interesting. they're fighting online! but i know it can't be fun for them, so i try to restrain my laughter. after all, someone may want to argue with me and i don't want others to laugh at me, too... lol like you, sometimes i rant like crazy in front of my laptop. i even bring in my family and friends to look at certain ridiculous posts. then when i've regained my composure, i try hard to ignore the parts of those posts that make me wanna grow gray hairs, then i try to focus on the good points, too. and if there are no good points... well, i scream out an expletive (and remain silent online), then i read the next post. hard to avoid hypertension, huh? lol