Have You Ever Been in a Relationship With Someone With a Disability?

United States
February 19, 2009 10:52am CST
It is very hard to have a boyfrend or girlfrend with a disabbility. Have you ever been in a realtionship with someone with a disability? What disability did they have? I am in a realtionship now and have been with him for almost two years. He means so much to me and i wouldnt change it for anything. He has seizures on and off almost 3 to 4 a month. He was just put on medication a week ago. His doctors apointment was today to have his dilatin level checked and to get precription for more dilatin since it was prescribed to him in the hospital. Its hard to live with a disability he has been rejected from jobs and also the service. He would like to live a normal life, his body is always hurting he is loosing weight and always complianing about something not being right with him. He cant let the bad things in his life get to his head because it will stress him out to have a seizure. His seizures only happen at night or when he wakes up. He can wake up in the middle of the night with twitching and then after that he cant go back to bed and that is awfull so he explained that to the doctor today so the doctor might pescribe him a higher dose of dilatin to stop that from ahppening and he cant get a full night of sleep.
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I was once in a relationship with a disabled guy. He had been in a car accident leaving him to walk with a cane and have trouble walking. At the time I dated him he had no job and was living with his mom. It didn't last long. It was nothing to do with his disability! He turned out to be a jerk and used me! That is why I dumped him! Men will be jerks if they don't have a disability or do! That is what I leaned out that relationship!
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@littleone3 (2065)
19 Feb 09
My current partner has a disability he has no feeling below his right knee which means he has constant pins and needles in his leg, due to an op that went wrong. If anything just brushes his leg it is painful for him. He is in pain 24/7 which has caused serve depression. He is on the highest dose painkillers there is but they do not kill the pain. Which means that he has been signed off from work for life. He does fall over a lot as he does not know when he is standing on his right foot. But he always trys to look on the bright side of life and uses his sense of humour to get through the day. I agree it is very hard as you never know what the day is going to bring.
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@TLChimes (4845)
• United States
19 Feb 09
My husband and several of the kids have brain based disabilities and my youngest has physical disabilites. They don't like to hire my husband because even though he's done his job for 20 years he has a hard time reading. All of the companies he was with before had him for long periods of time. They either went under or sold the company and him with it. But where we life his type of work is in trouble because of the auto industries troubles. The hardest part for me is not being able to fix it all for them. I hurt when they do and want to make it better.
@TLChimes (4845)
• United States
14 Mar 09
Thank you!
• United States
14 Mar 09
My husband has a hearing loss that is progressively getting worse over the years, as well as a service related disability that sometimes is so bad he cannot walk. We've known each other for 10 years, and have been married for 3 coming up later this month. It's been a difficult road on some days when I can do nothing to aleviate his pain. However, we're both learning sign language and teaching our children so that if it does go completely we'll be able to communicate. It helps us now to communicate in public places though. I wouldn't change it though. My husband is my best friend and has been for the last 10 years. Namaste-Anora