Would you ever change your religion because your significant other wants you to?

@davido (1624)
Canada
February 20, 2009 7:59am CST
Hello wanted to know if you will ever change your religion because your significant other or important partner wanted you to?
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@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
20 Feb 09
Absolutely not. Some have a religion, I have a relationship; with my creator and savior. Asking me to change would be like asking me swap out my kids or something. What I have is personal and intimate with my Father in heaven, and it really isn't any of my husband's business. (he wouldn't ask me to do that anyway) People that want their significant other to 'change' probably doesn't have anything to start with or they would know better.
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@davido (1624)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
hummm, hard talk from a her...(lol) intimate with God...noted!
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
23 Feb 09
lol, I guess when folks hear the word intimate we kind of lean toward the more physical. In this case I mean it as, Most private or personal, very close or familiar, deep and thorough, intimate friend as per Webster's New World Dictionary.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
21 Feb 09
I have a problem in that I think the religious people have it wrong. They feel sorry for me that I do not say the magic words that will get me into heaven so I will therefore go to hell. So there I am thinking they are wrong and here they are thinking I am wrong. I am sort of a live and let live kind of guy so it never really bothered me. Unfortunately I had a serious relationship that broke up probably because of this, I could not pretend to be religous and she could not bear the thought of being "unequally yoked". I guess what I should have done is go through the motions as I was brought up Christian so I know how to act like one, but it is not in my nature to deceive my feeling like so many do so I lost out.
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@davido (1624)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Hmmmm, I think you yourself need to have a rethink and be a bit focused with your life cause we are all spiritual being even in hell which you will rather go they are spiritually conscious. Take time to really know the vacuum in you...if you need help maybe go to a prison in Nigeria for a year in a confinement, you will discover yourself and have a reason to be...You may even become the president of your country afterward because all that went to prison there have a good post to hold! (lol)
@Galena (9123)
20 Feb 09
of course I wouldn't. and no one that loved me would want me to. when you love someone, you respect them enough to allow them to follow whatever spiritual path calls out to them. and if he couldn't accept that I am Pagan, then he couldn't accept ME as who I am.
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
21 Feb 09
and no one that loved me would want me to I agree! and i would question that persons love for me on ALL levels if they wanted me to convert or even just walk away from my path...
@ellen_mom (174)
• United States
20 Feb 09
If it was important to my spouse, I would look into it, read the literature, etc. However, the final decision has to be between you and God. If you go to a specific church because someone wants you to, and you don't beleive it, you are only hurting yourself. On the other hand, if you refuse to even look into it, you could be missing out on a good thing.
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@davido (1624)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Yes, you are right a lot of things has to be considered...Thanks
@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I know some people do this. I would not though. Especially, if my significant other's religion was radically different from mine. So far, I have never been asked to change my religion for anyone.
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@davido (1624)
• Canada
21 Feb 09
okay supposing he/she is saying it with body language and the other partner is not even taking it serious or not paying attention?
@murderistic (2280)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I can't imagine what it would take for someone to expect their lover to change their religion for them. You cannot just switch religions. You can pretend, which I think is an even greater insult to God than following the wrong religion. That's why I don't get why people put pressure on people to convert. At least if you believe in your religion your entire relationship with God isn't a fake.
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@1hopefulman (26173)
• Canada
20 Feb 09
No, my religion and religious beliefs are too important to me, to change for another human, no matter how significant they may be. God comes first, I come second, and everyone else is third.
@davido (1624)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Yes but read the response on Disvachic response. Thanks
@1hopefulman (26173)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Each one has to decide for themselves. As you attest, problems already exist. So you'll have to see as to what you want to do. We cannot tell you what to do. For myself, the beliefs that I have have come after a lot of searching and examination. Personally I would want to marry someone whose beliefs were somewhat similar to mine. I wish you success!
@disvachic (10123)
• United States
20 Feb 09
I really would not and really I prefer to date someone that believes in God as well.That is my preference.Have a great day my friend and good question!
@davido (1624)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Thanks friends, but an African guy a Christian, now dating an Hindu lady, but there is this friction of faith, as an African unless the guy is converted the wife follows him to church, so their seems to be a sort of friction as i think the lady is ready to accept the religion of the guy if they get married but the friends and brother of this lady seems to be causing the friction asking if the guy is ready to follow them to...wherever they go to worship! which the guy cannot...so what happens? This is a recent case.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
20 Feb 09
OMG NO!! I walk the road I do because its something that has a huge positive impact on my life so why would I turn my back on it just to please someone else? Following a religion or spiritual path for the sake of others is a HUGE mistake as far as I'm concerned...not only is it making a mockery of that faith, the other persons beliefs etc but its betraying yourself and I'm SO not about that stuff..
@davido (1624)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Nice, its has to do with personnal conviction. thanks
• United States
20 Feb 09
no I would not! my SO should accept me for who/what i am just as I do them if they dont accept me then they dont need to be with me I have a personal relationship with my deity and if anyone thinks they can come between me and my deity they are sadly mistaken
@davido (1624)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Hoho!...so something would have been sorted out before reaching that level?. Thanks
• United States
20 Feb 09
I would be willing to attend religious ceremonies with them and to marry according to their customs but I would continue to attend my own religious activities as well (hopefully they would come with me) and would not convert to any other religion. I also want my children to be exposed to many different religions not just the religion of myself and my significant other.
@davido (1624)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
Thats more of an adventurer....lol, to see the intresting and funny things could be an intrest on its own. Thanks
@AMOORA04 (115)
• United States
24 Feb 09
No, I wouldn't change my religion because of my significant other. I believe strongly in my religion and there fore I wouldn't put myself in a position to have to choose between religion and an significant other. But I am married so I don't have to worry about that. Actually my husband is more religious then me. I would say that faith in god should come before you emotional feelings because people come and go but if you believe in heaven, you only have this one life to build up the deeds you need to get there.
• United States
22 Feb 09
No, I wouldn't, religion is a personal choice for everybody, it wouldn't make sense to change it for someone else. You don't have to be the same religion to be with somebody either, nobody should try to change anyone's religious beliefs. It is okay to talk about it with people, but people should try to respect everyone's own religions by not trying to convert them into a different one.
@crigal (105)
• United States
21 Feb 09
NO! I am and will always be a Roman Catholic! If she wants to change, by all means she can but not me!
@liquorice (3901)
21 Feb 09
No, I would never take on a religion for another person. I think that your religion and spirituality should by your decision and yours alone. If somebody loves you enought to be with you then they should accept all of you, including your beliefs, as that's part of you too. It's too much to expect somebody to change what they believe in just to fit in with them and their lives. I know that two people can live in harmony believing in different things and even attending different places of worship. This is quite a common occurrence.