A wedding without music!

India
February 20, 2009 9:38pm CST
On the 19th of this month, I went to Chandigarh to a marriage and I must say most of the things there were quite nice. The arrangements were great, the food was amazing and the crowd was beautiful but all the while I felt that there is something that is missing big time and at the end of it all it came to me that there is no music around! This was the first wedding that I have attended in which the DJ was standing still and a people were just roaming and chatting and not dancing. I asked why is is so from some of the local guests and they told me that in Chandigarh you are not allowed to play music loud after half past 10 in the night. So, what would have been a great party attended by me turned into a hollow feeling colorful night out. All this made me realized that music is a real component of parties and other gatherings.
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32 responses
@Mathurin (491)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
true, so true, a gathering should have a music, it stimulates the atmosphere... you play fast and loud songs during celebrations and festivities you play solemn ones on ceremonies pretty sad not to be able to play anything, to make the moment more enjoyable
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
21 Feb 09
That is odd. You would think that they could have at least had some quiet background music. And why couldn't they play louder music before half past 10? Why even have a DJ there, just to look pretty? Oh well, look at the bright side. It got you out of the hostel for a while, right?
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• India
21 Feb 09
Yes I was out of the hostel for a day or so as Chandigarh is a bit far away from here. But I said after half past 10, not before that
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
21 Feb 09
You never said there was any music earlier at the wedding. You said that "all the while you noticed something missing" and "at the end of it (I assume after the wedding) it came to you that there was no music". If you missed the music "all the while", how could it have been playing earlier? Maybe I just misunderstood you...
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• India
22 Feb 09
I guess my description of the whole scenario lacked few key features.... by the way, it was nice of you to drop by and respond.. thanks.
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@my125125 (822)
• Malaysia
21 Feb 09
Hi CoolMailRaj, here in my country, they always have there wedding dinner in restaurant or in hotel, so it would be nice that you can play your music as you like, because it won't disturb others people. But If you are prepare the wedding dinner at outsite of your house, then you would be think about your neighbours, 10pm or 10:30 pm will be the time to turn low the volume, for hotel, may be you can set the time you want. I had been attend a dance party untill 3am in the morning, so you can enjoy party as fun.
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• India
21 Feb 09
Here in India a wedding is much more then anything else. It is just not an occasion but the biggest festival of ones life and the amount of people that come in these wedding ceremonies are hard to contain in restaurants or hotels. If not more there were 500 guests invited by both sides each.
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@my125125 (822)
• Malaysia
23 Feb 09
Wow, 500 guests are big party, for me, chinese always get hotel or restaurant to be their wedding dinner party places, because hotel, they have banquet for us to rent a night, so more than 500 guests is not a problem.
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@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
21 Feb 09
Well I cannot imagine a wedding without some party music and people dancing, IT would have something missing. However there are traditions of different countries, and if the couple is happy in having a wedding without music then all guests must be happy. it is their special day, and if they are enjoying it them guests will sure have fun chatting with each other.
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• India
22 Feb 09
That is exactly what we did. Thanks for your response.
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• Philippines
21 Feb 09
I wonder what it looks like if the wedding has no music as background or so. Anyway what is important is that the newly wed is happy that they are now together. I know that in different cultures, in every wedding they celebrate it with festivities and different ways, really happy to see an environment of one who is getting married. Anyway if their place has a restriction of not playing music at that time, they are at least obeying the law. If ever the wedding was morning, i am sure that it would be a livelier one.
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• India
22 Feb 09
Can't agree with you more. Seeing the two, it seemed that they are well knit together, hope it remains this way for ever. Thanks for your response.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
21 Feb 09
We live in a time when music can and usually is a large part of our life. Didn't they dance at the wedding? Maybe they don't believe in dancing or music? Some Christian religions don't allow these.
• India
22 Feb 09
They are Hindus and we all love dancing and music, that is precisely why it was a bit strange for me. They even have a few good dancers in their family. I have seen them moving on beats a couple of times before.
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• India
21 Feb 09
Is it true? i feel very bored with out music in any party.
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• India
22 Feb 09
Thanks for your response.
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@academic2 (7011)
• Uganda
21 Feb 09
That was indeed a uniquie wedding! I note your shock because even here in Uganda, any wedding without Music would be considered absolutely strange and the happiness in that wedding would be put to doubt. Weddings are moments of joy and joy is usually expressed through music!
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• India
21 Feb 09
But the smiles there never allowed us to doubt the happiness around, it was just the fact that music was absent and I agree with most of what you have said.
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• China
21 Feb 09
Your ideas are right .No music is so unbearable!But I do't like too loud music ,and it too unbearable.Enjoy my side of cooking while listening to music.
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• India
21 Feb 09
Never tried music while cooking....actually never tried cooking..lol. But i got your point, I too keep my players running while working most of the household chores. happy mylotting.
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• India
21 Feb 09
I am surprised to came from your discussion that no music were played due to their rules. anyway, i am least happy, they follow and obey the rules.. moreover, celebrating in a silent manner is also not a bad thing.. that will be a different way of enjoyment which also gives a little practice in that moment to remain same & static even in joy.. Thanks for sharing this information.. Have a nice time!
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• India
21 Feb 09
I am kind of surprised to hear that people can celebrate without music. It is not like I am a party animal and like hard music but this was indeed my first time in attending a function without music. We people love to dance and have colors around when we celebrate.
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• United States
21 Feb 09
It is odd that they did not have the music playing softly in the background. Music is important to many of us. I know myself if I have a difficult or distasteful chore to do, when I have on 'praise' music I find it much easier to do what I have to do.
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• India
21 Feb 09
indeed it is so with me also. At most of the time when I am accessing net I hear to music and while jogging or traveling too, one om players is always running.
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• United States
21 Feb 09
Wow. I can't imagine there being a party without any music whatsoever.
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• India
21 Feb 09
I too wish I never attend any such party again.
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• Australia
21 Feb 09
Well, I love music and if I was in your spot I would also feel a bit upset because a wedding or any celebration needs music so we can all be happy and dance, let our hair go out and go crazy. hahaha. That sucks that you can't play loud music after 10:30, If there gonna make that rule, they should change the time to 11:30, as that's not too bad.
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• India
21 Feb 09
I agree with you, 11:30 is not bad at all.
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@zhuhuifen46 (3486)
• China
21 Feb 09
It is really a pitty there was no music and dancing at the wedding. Maybe they did not arrange the event at other venues like in the garden or park at an earlier time of the day, for lack of financial resources. Though a pity, we'll have to accept with understanding attitude. Nevertheless, it is a good rule to avoid bothering neighbors with loud noises. Although we do not have such rules down here, people have same expectation. For instance, home decoration with loud drilling noises are not accepted after eight in the evening, and teenager gatherings usually will calm down after something like ten.
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• India
21 Feb 09
Here to, at my home town there are no restrictions on late night parties and loud music and seeing the arrangements and families of the wedding couple I don't think they are a single bit financially challenged.
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@salonga (27969)
• Philippines
21 Feb 09
A wedding without music would be very boring. Music is necessary in a sweet and memorable ceremony such as wedding so if this is absent, then it will be very incomplete. It is just like a food full of all the necessary ingredients but lacks salt and hence tastes bland. Music is like salt. Without music in a wedding it will be pale and colorless no matter how beautiful the decorations are.
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• India
21 Feb 09
That was why I felt tasteless too... Happy mylotting
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@nanayangel (7691)
• Philippines
21 Feb 09
Hi there! Well, I would feel the same if I was there. I think that music is a very important in life. I like listening to music everyday and I think that I wouldn't want to celebrate a special occasion without any music playing in the background. I understand the rule about preventing noise that would keep the neighbors from getting a good night's sleep but they could've play some music in low volume.
• India
21 Feb 09
That was what they did, they placed 10 speakers at different points on low volume but the whisper of the crowd over did the sound of the speakers.
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• United States
21 Feb 09
why did they hire a dj then? a party or wedding with out music is just sad!! and boring!!
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• India
21 Feb 09
For a playback of an hour from half past 9 to half past 10 but the program started at quarter past 10 itself.
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• India
1 Mar 09
A ceremony without music that is hard to comprehend even.
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I cannot imagine a gathering of any kind without music! Music is such an integral part of our lives from cleaning house to formal rituals. Usually when the music ends it means the party is over. It is so unusual to not even have soft music playing in the background. Also, I am sure the people who planned the wedding new about the noise ordinance. It would seem if this is a rule that you plan your celebration earlier in the day, at least that is what I would have done.
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• India
24 Feb 09
Oh yes, you are very correct. Indian weddings are very colourful with songs and dance and music to liven it all up. However, loud recorded music with live DJs have become more of a fashion and show of wealth these days. Earlier, the women of the house used to sing and dance among themselves and the very rich would hire shehnai players to play live at the weddings. I have not been to many weddings outside my community (Bengali) but I think traditionally north-Indian weddings are more loud and exuberant than south-Indian weddings. As for Bengali weddings, it’s a very muted affair with the women singing folksongs during the various ceremonies….nowadays even that does not happen and frankly speaking most of our generation don’t even know the lyrics of typical wedding songs in Bengali. Music is a must though and is provided by recorded shehnai which is played all through the evening.
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