Why do we always have to say please??

India
February 21, 2009 10:25pm CST
Yes, I know that it’s polite, but what is its purpose? Why isn’t asking for something enough? How long have people said please? What’s its history? Also, why tell people your welcome after you’ve been thanked? Shouldn’t these words just be assumed? Why has it evolved that you must say these things or you’re considered inconsiderate?
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@moondancer (7434)
• United States
22 Feb 09
I don't know how they got started as I was taught all of my young life that's what we must do. It shows respect. It also acknowledges something, if someone gives you something ...you say thank you. It's shows that you appreciate what was given to you. Or if someone helped you do something you also say thank you...for the same reasons. Saying your welcome acknowledges that you heard them say thank you. It's just respectful.
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• India
22 Feb 09
and everyone likes to be respected... Thanks for your response.
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@mscott (1924)
• United States
22 Feb 09
I would think that if a person shows consideration they are much more likely to have people actually do things for them and want to help them out in the future. If one is just demanding and acting like it his or her right to have something then others will probably treat you worse.
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• China
23 Feb 09
that's just one way of "please",but most of them should be polite,if someone really want to shout at you and with very ugly words,can you accept that?of corse most of people will choose the second one ,please.
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@forslahiri (1042)
• India
22 Feb 09
Hi, The ORIGIN is Latin, meaning"to be acceptable/approved of". Rest U,Pleeeeeeeease! Please give Peace a Chance!Pleeeeease!!! =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
• India
22 Feb 09
Sorry but I can't make out what you actually mean.. Can you please explain it a bit.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
22 Feb 09
I'm not sure of its origin but by saying please it's not only good manners but you come across more appreciative of the other person compared with just asking which can be perceived as a bit arrogant or bossy. I think you are more likely to get what you want if you say please!
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• India
22 Feb 09
If it is so, won't a simple smile will do!
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@quinnkl (1668)
• United States
23 Feb 09
It comes original from the french I believe meaning Pleasure, meaning would you LIKE to do something. It was used when asking someone to do something or for something, to show that they should do so ONLY if they would like to do so, but not if they did not want to. So it has just become a common phrase of courtesy when asking for or to do something. And why don't/wouldn't you want to take less than a second to say that and be courteous?
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23 Feb 09
Hi coolmailraj, In this day and age, people take things for granted and young people don't say these things so it is having good manners and to teach young people to be polite to others, that why we say please and thank you and you'r welcome. Tamara
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@youless (92271)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Feb 09
In the past there is a story about a little boy. People don't want to help him. And one day he met an old man and this man shared him a secret. That is no matter what, he should say please at first. Then people would be happy to help him. I think this is the answer for this discussion:) I love China
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• Chile
23 Feb 09
You have to say please because its a way to show respect for the time of the other person. When you ask something to someone that person spends a little or a big time doing that, and you know that in life the time is the most valuable thing, because it cant be recovered.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
23 Feb 09
The real question is why has so-called society "evolved" to where there is a need for a discussion on why being polite is important. This is about way more than being nice and/or showing respect. How you present yourself to the world, including how you communicate says volumes and since being polite is an action and actions speak louder than words... well, need I say more? However for the sake of argument, let us say that the reason for using the word please is to be persuasive. After all almost everything in life comes down to negotiation anyway, right?
@elysium (169)
• United States
23 Feb 09
I do not always say please. I only say please and your welcome to the people that I do not know. To my friends and family, I just ask without the please and do not say your welcome. If you do not want to say please or your welcome, you do not have to say it.
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
23 Feb 09
Well, I think these things are self explanatory. Everybody is not force to say please or you are welcome or thank you but.. it is a great feeling when some ask you with a please than just saying.. GIVE ME THAT ONE!!!... it is just like commanding right? When there is a word PLEASE, it is a request,, not a command. so, which do you prefer? you will be commanded to do things or will be requested? for me, I would prefer a request than a command.
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
23 Feb 09
It is part of good manners and used if you want something that is out of your reach or that someone else has or knows. This is not unique in the English language only. In French you say "s'il vous plait" (if it pleases you) and in German you say "Bitte" (I beg you). Also when someone thanks you it is polite to acknowledge that you have received the thanks, that is why you say you are welcome. In French you would say "de rien "(it is nothing) or in French Canada you could say "bien venu" (you are welcome) In German you would also acknowledge the thanks with "Bitte" again. That is a bit puzzling. I don't know if these conventions exist in other languages. What do you say in Hindi?
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
22 Feb 09
it is polite to say these things it is respect, it is custom, words can be said without being polite but they also offend some people as it is considered bad manners.
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@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
22 Feb 09
i dont mind it i like to be polite and say thank you and your welcome or could you please help me and thank you i consider it a way to show someone that you appreciate their effort and what's the harm in saying please or telling someone thank you consider it more a way of showing appreciation instead of just being polite or saying something because you think you have to i always try to be nice to people open doors and i appreciate it when someone thanks me for being nice nothing wrong with that
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@jeseravi (338)
22 Feb 09
It's a measure of respect to distinguish less mature people from more mature people. You'll find it in any language or culture, and it's only showing one's 'niceness' and such. Same reason goes for why people thank others. It's the "English" culture.
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• United States
22 Feb 09
Well, if you're going to contemplate the meanings behind words, why not inquire about the origins of curse words? Who said that those certain words were "bad?" It's one of those things in language that nobody can really define a specific origin behind it, it just developed as time progressed.
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@neha2k94u (408)
• India
22 Feb 09
I dont know much about its history...but at least I know one thing... It costs nothing... Have a nice time...
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@huxen69 (118)
• India
22 Feb 09
It is a polite word, but NOT saying it doesn't make you unpolite either. I don't usually use the word "please" and very rarely i use it. The way you ask, people will understand if you are saying in a rude way or just simply and nicely asking.and when people assk me for something and not say please, i don't mind because i know they aren't being rude or something, guess that's whats all
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
22 Feb 09
Custom, it's called custom and when in Rome do as the Romans. I don't know when this started but I would guess maybe the Victorians started it. The English have always judged a person's class by their speech and so it probably came from them.
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
22 Feb 09
well its part of good manners, and its not necessary to use every now and then, but when you know that you are asking from a person for a thing which you think that he/she will hardly give you or its difficult for her/him to give but you need it badly so naturally you will have to use it. Otherwise your chances to get it will be very little ....for thank you also, it depends, if you really want the other person to welcome, or you are very happy to help him/her, then only u should say' u r welcome' or else you can say...its ok..the listner will understand that it was hard for u to help this time, and he is very rarely expected next time.... live life without any rules...as u want...let people think what they want...this is what i think...i do just what i think is right.
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