Have you ever been jealous?

@Alex18 (169)
United States
February 21, 2009 10:49pm CST
Hi, hope you are all having a fantastic day :) Have you ever been jealous of a friends relationship? Have you ever been so jealous that you tried to sabotage that persons relationship?
9 responses
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
22 Feb 09
No, I haven't been jealous of a friend's relationship. That's a nice question to ponder on... I can't remember that I was ever jealous about them having a relationship while I was single. Maybe because most of my friends special someone's are also my friends or maybe because at the time they are in a relationship, I also have one of my own...
@Alex18 (169)
• United States
22 Feb 09
I've never been jealous either, but Im in a long distance relationship with a girl from the philippines who I love more than anything in the world. Last monday morning, I woke up and saw some messages from my gf. I never expected to see what I saw in those messages. They said, I need to tell you the truth, i do already have a bf and am engaged. I was so shocked to read that, I never in a million years thought I would see her say that. It was a horrible week, I had never felt worse before in my life. I was trying so hard to not let it affect me, I was doing a good job, keeping myself busy, today we had a basketball game, and one of my friends friends came up to visit him at college so we hung out today and then we were eating dinner tonight and I got a message from my gf. It said "hi baby." I didnt know what to think at that point, my heart started to race like never before, i didnt know what to say back to her. I said hi to her, and she asked how I was and I said ok. Then I told her that she sent me messages on monday saying she ended our relationship, and that she was engaged. I had talked to a former co-worker of hers all week about it and she had kept telling me that my gf didnt love me and I should just give it up, she doesnt want me. but my gf is the kind of person that trusts easily sometimes and she shared her password with a couple other people. She always told me not to trust anything from her profile unless I saw her on cam, i found out a couple of hours ago that it was her former co-worker that sent me those messages pretending to be my gf. She was jealous of our relationship and she was trying to sabotage me and my gf's relationship by saying that she was engaged. My gf didnt know what to say when i told her about the messages i got from her, she was as shocked as I was. One thing it made me realize is just how much I love her and how much she means to my life. But I cant believe that girl tried to do that to us, it was the worst feeling of my life when I saw those messages. I would have never sabotaged anyones relationship before, but now I would never ever even think about it. Now that I know how bad it feels. Thanks for the response. God Bless.
• Brazil
23 Feb 09
I can't say I was jealous, but I have a good story involving a friend and her relationship...We were in high school, in Boston, and we were in the bilingual class, I speak english fine but my friend didn't, and she was always whistling to the guys in the school, and I was the shy one, so this one day she caught this guys attention, and he came to talk to her but she didn't speak english, they managed to exchange phone numbers. So she asks me to call him and talk to him pretending it was her so I did it, I call him and talked to him for like 3 hours!! The next day they met and hooked up, this went on for about 2 weeks I would call him every night and talk to him pretending it was her, funny thing is he never noticed it wasn't her and how she didn't speak english when she was with him! I became friends with him, we would go out as friends me and him, but I started liking him, because we had so much in common and we talked on the phone so much without him knowing it, lol. Well one day when we were out he kissed me!! And I didn't hold back I kissed him too, then I asked him if he never noticed anything when he talked to my friend on the phone, he said no, then I told him the whole story, and he was shocked!! Well we started going out, and my friend got mad at me, but she got over it, and we are still friends, I know it wasn't a nice thing for me to have done but I couldn't help myself...
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
22 Feb 09
Yes I have been jealous over friends relationships! I also have been with my siblings relationships! I was because I wanted to be like them! My friends and my siblings made it look so easy finding someone! I wanted to have someone but it has never been easy for me! I never find the right one and that is ok! I stop feeling jealous when I saw the bad side of my friends and siblings relationships! I never been jealous since!
@ddfreedie (690)
• India
22 Feb 09
not that am being jealous over this issue...but apart from friendship there are many things that ive been jealous...
@annierose (18021)
• Philippines
22 Feb 09
hi alex, When I was still in high school, I have this 3 school mate who I considers my very best friend. They are like real sisters to me.One of them is quiet and humble, the other is nice and sensitive, and the last one is talkative and practical. The only common thing on them is that they are all true friends to me. After graduation in high school, we all separate ways. We took different courses but still, the friendship is there. Thanks to technology because it makes communication easy for each of us.Once, one of us want a gathering, we just communicate through mobile phones and then will say what time and where. But because college is somewhat difficult, we rarely had a get together. Then, one time, one of them got a boyfriend. I can say that we really got jealous. It is because before that she not met him, her time is with us but as of now, she is spending time with her boyfriend. Sometimes we tell her that how we wish, we are her boyfriend so she can have time with us.Whenever I want to meet that friend of mine and she will say that she in unavailable because she has a date with her boyfriend, I really got irritated and jealous. Our other friends have same sentiments also. But despite of our jealousy, we never try to sabotage the relationship. For us, as long as she is happy, we can try to understand.Then, the time comes that I,myself got a boyfriend also. And that was the moment I understand the situation. I just realized that we had that attitude before because we are single and don't have a love life . As of now, what I am trying to tell my friend before, is the one that my other friends keep telling on me also. They telling me how they wish that how they wish they are my boyfriend so I can have time with them .. I just hope that they will have soon their boyfriend also, so there will be no more jealousy
• India
22 Feb 09
Yes, I am jealous when my closest friend or when my partner wants to be close or infact moves close with others. If i feel that they are moving close though that might not be true i get very jealous and i cannot tolerate at all. I dont do anything, but i cant be calm either, when i have to burst on my partner i will and vent my anger. i do know jealousy is bad but then, am jealous by nature what to do?
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
22 Feb 09
No, I can't say that I have.I would not be much of a friend if I tried to ruin a relationship of a friend.
@dandit (132)
• Indonesia
22 Feb 09
Jealous? Of course, and even often. But do try to sabotage, not likely. I don't have the desire to do that.
@sunita64 (6473)
• India
22 Feb 09
Yes at times I have been jealous, but never ever tried to sabotage anyone's relationship, instead tried my best to get over the fealing of jealousy and do something good for the other.