Why do we put people down who are diffrent than us?

@magikrose (5423)
United States
November 9, 2006 11:02pm CST
I see it all the time. Especially in the schools. Just because some looks diffrent, or wears diffrent clothes they get picked on. Even people of diffrent religins get picked on and for what reason. Just because we dont understand them? Please shed some light on this for me.
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@becnusoon (212)
• United States
16 Nov 06
Sister....this is what makes us strong. Not in those who put us down...but in our understanding that they are works yet incomplete and many a fiery trial must they yet endure to see the light of a better path. The path that tells us "An It Harm None ... Do What Thy Will" Blessed Be
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@magikrose (5423)
• United States
16 Nov 06
Blessed Be - belssed be
Thank you. Surprisingly I undersand and totally agree. You get a + and best response. Thank you Merry Meet
@harish4u (1393)
• India
16 Nov 06
i havent seen such cases in schools where r u from can i know pls
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
16 Nov 06
I livei n connecticut USA and when I drop my kids off at school I can sometimes hear comments from other kids about how someone looks funny because there shirt is a bit big or someone couldent afford a new backpack sothey had to use lastyears and kids were making fun of that. It is wrong to Judge someone just because they cant afford things or just because they look diffrent. It really breaks my heart that thos kids parents are not teachingthem to be nice to every one no matter what.
@chalmette69 (3010)
• United States
16 Nov 06
I think to alot of people the unknown is scary, especially with kids, I think kids want to be excepted, so sometimes they pick on others to draw attention away from themselves, it is mean and should not be done, but they do it alot, I even see grown ups doing it and they should know better and try to set examples for younger ones.
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
16 Nov 06
I agree with you. The unknown can be scary especially to kids. The thing is as parents we need to teach and teach and teach untill we turn blue that it is not ok to treat someone bad just because they look diffrent or talk diffrent. Every time 1 of my kids says something about someone diffrent I tell them that was wrong and just because they look diffrent dosnt mean they are not nice people and I make my child say sorry to me for being rude and if the person heard them then my child has to say sorry to the person. I will not tollerate it at all. Slowly my kids are learning that.
@gabi1203 (578)
• Canada
15 Nov 06
unfortunate it's not just something in schools, it's the state of the whole world. Wars are fought because people cannot accept differences
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
16 Nov 06
It is very unfortunate that it it happening all over the world. But we have to start with our children to change the future otherwise we really wont have a piecefull future.
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
14 Nov 06
I think it is learned behaviour. When children are small they do not see any differences in their playmates whether they are black, white, Chinese Mexican or other. However at home and from other children who have been radicalized they hear and see bad behaviour and acquire prejudices. If you teach a child that all people are equal and all religions should be respected they will grow up to be much more tolerant. Adults often are fearful and insecure. Sometimes they believe and repeat stereotypes that certain people are lazy, dishonest, moneygrubbing et. etc. Most people feel just comfortable with their own kind and have no interest to learn anything about others. So in their ignorance they have to put down all those who are different. Sometimes their religious leaders foster this and encourage them not to socialize with anyone that is different.
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
16 Nov 06
I totally agree with you 100%. We do try to teach that everyone is equal but yet when they go out whether it is with you or anyone they see how other people react to anyone diffrent and they learn that behavior. I also agree that within religin that the preacher or pastor say that anyone who is not like them and believes in what they believe in are evil and should not be acknowledged is WRONG. We are all HUMANS and should be treated with respece no matter what. Thank you for responding.
@nichjake (523)
• United States
14 Nov 06
I think it has to do with fear of the unknown. People don't know about something or something is different and different can feel threatening so people try to supress the people that are different out of fear.
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
16 Nov 06
I agree that fear is part of it, but I also believe that it is learned by society.
@emisle (3823)
• Ireland
14 Nov 06
Some people just get a kick out of putting others down. It's quite sad and you'd wonder about their parents...
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
14 Nov 06
You are right. I do wonder if there parents ever tought them how to treat others. The sad thing is that kids learn what they see and hear, and if they see and hear there parents being judgemental twards someone then they think it is ok and do it them selves.
@ladysun (635)
• United States
14 Nov 06
Obviously a flaw in the bullies makeup.. I mean if you can only feel better about yourself in some perverse way, by downing others who are around you...I mean that is really screwed up when you think about it. They can't seem to "get" that they need to focus inward and work on improving who they, themselves are, rather than trying to shoot down all those around them.
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
14 Nov 06
You are very right. I can see where you are coming from. And I agree it is demented and very sad. Thank you for responding.
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
14 Nov 06
I'm sorry I can not shed any light on this for you. It saddens me too how people are treated differently due to appearance and even religion. I have felt both because I am Wiccan and I have blue or purple hair at times. But when a person gets to know me, they realize I am not what they judged me to be. If fact, the blue or purple hair even solidifies my personality. I have even lost friendships do to beliefs/religion. But it does not make me want to change. In fact, it makes me less judgmental. I have become more tolerant of others because I know they just lack understanding. There are times some my be receptive to knowledge and other times some are not. With those who choose to not see what is different and judge me, I have learned to hold my tongue. And even with that, I have been a saner person.
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
14 Nov 06
It is really sad that in our society people still judge you by appearance and not personality. At the same time it hurts too. Thank you for responding.
@rmuxagirl (7560)
• United States
24 Nov 06
I think it is because we don't understand them. Things that are different forces us to think about that difference and I think that scares some people. In my high school, some people were looked down on because we didn't have the money they did. Its almost like the fear of the unknown. They don't want to spend time to get to know others because they are afraid that they actually like someone who is completely different then they are.
@fl0urish (5386)
• India
16 Nov 06
it does happen in our country also..this should be avoided
@luskas (3429)
• Portugal
16 Nov 06
Yeah i thing it´s a human fact... Dont find any awnser better than this one... Everyone of us someplace somewhere do the same thing...
@moneyseeker (1024)
16 Nov 06
I think it's beacause we fear what we don't know or understand. I try hard never to do this though, because underneath we are all the same.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
16 Nov 06
this is a hard thing to shed light on because different people make fun of different things for different reasons..And some see others doing and to be with the gang they also do it and it keeps adding and adding i was picked on when i was younger in school and if you didn't do anything about it it just get worse and alot of people don't want to deal with it and let things go if they would either tell someone or try to deal with it themselves then people would see they won't take it and leave them alone or not depends on the person...I dont have a problem with others and their different religions but others think anything different than what they are doing is wrong.. My brother in law won't let my husbands niece go to my mothers church because they speak in tongues ocassionally and makes an awful fit about it slandering but it states in the bible that they spoke in tongues ..but to answer your question ..they do this because they are ignorant of certain things..
@ngty69 (974)
• India
16 Nov 06
Yes, you are right. People should learn to respect each other. And there will be happiness in the world.
@arjyadas (121)
• India
16 Nov 06
supress - Hungry people are usually supressed
We supress people who are different than us becoz they dont say yes to all your replies