Does anyone out there truly know the meaning of compassion?
By bellaofchaos
@bellaofchaos (11538)
United States
February 22, 2009 4:50pm CST
Ok this week I have seem to have come across discussion after discussion that it seems that people want to tear others down and not even offer them a shred of compassion.. What is up with that.. Does anyone know the definition..?
com·pas·sion /k?m'pæ??n/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [kuhm-pash-uhn] Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering
You know I've have always been the nuturing mothering type. I'll go out of my way to help others if it's in my realm of possibiliies. To be compassionate and to build others up should be how we operate here on the lot as a community and most of the time we really are a cohesive unit of compassion and help..
Unfortunately this doesn't always happen. It's a shame that some people go out of their way to be snide and scruel and to hurt others. In my almost two yrs of being here I have tried to be helpful and build up others, I have not hestitated to stand up for those who were in need. I am by no means a saint but at least I have compassion and try to live by the one rule if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all.
So how many of you have shown compassion to others?
How many of you have seen people tear down others?
How do you feel about compassion should we be a cohesive and compassionate unit or should it be a free for all?
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8 responses
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
24 Feb 09
and that is truly the way to look at it hun. but most people just don't and I wish that these people could step back and look at what they are doing to others.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
24 Feb 09
hmmm would duck tape and toothpicks work to keep them still and eyes open and mouth shut while the watch the effects. Or will I need to give them a straight jacket.
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@Darkwing (21583)
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23 Feb 09
Hear! hear! I understand the word, and I hope I'm able to show compassion because I surely try. I also hope I don't "fake it". I try to be honest and open in everything I say and do, and if somebody tries to tear me down, I try to walk away. However, at times, this is not possible. They continue to snide at you behind your back as you're trying to avoid hurting them back. Then... it takes a while to get me riled, but when I do, compassion goes out of the window, I'm afraid!
Brightest Blessings, my friend.
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
25 Feb 09
that is so very true, I just wish it wasn't at times.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
24 Feb 09
true that!!! there is only so much a person can take before they decide to throw compassion out the window!!! I really try to be very polite to every one sometimes I fail.. Sometimes I don't .. I just try my best...
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
23 Feb 09
I can not stand for anyone, especially one who doesn't know the whole story, to butt in and give their two cents by dogging the person left and right and still think they're in their right to do so. It angers me to no end!! Like you, I'm full of compassion for others that it's to a fault but a fault that I do not want to change. I wasn't shown any compassion when I was growing up and I was so misunderstood which has taught me a huge lesson to never ever treat people the way I was treated. Treating people bad makes the person look bad and they don't even know it. They're trying their best to make themselves look good when it does the opposite. Some day these people will learn the hard way and when they do, I still don't expect a change in their behavior because they're too dumb to see how their actions have done them in.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
23 Feb 09
as you see in one conversation in a discussion I have no tolerations for people that would rather tear down their fellow human being rather than build them up... grrr... This frustrates me to no end. I guess I would have to say my compassion come from my life experiences also..Don't get me wrong it has bitten me in the butt, but I still am of the opinion to be nice and help all. CatsandDogs I think that you are absolutely an awesome person and I'm privedged and nlessed to know you...
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
23 Feb 09
Wow! Deg gone!! lol Thanks for the compliment!! lol I don't know what I did to get it but THANKS anyway!! lol It's taken to the heart with a big ole smile!! Hugs to you Bella!!
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
24 Feb 09
Does answering tech questions and helping people with other issues count for compassion? I've occupied my comeback doing that, and it feels nice. I'd hate to see the discussions that prompted this particular discussion Bella, I'm probably better off not seeing it. The only thing I can say about compassion is to at least try it, but remember that with some people they can only give so much and focus, time, attention on a certain number of discussions/issues. Some other discussions are bound to be missed, but its not intentional. Then there is also the point that some people might be unable to say anything positive about the issue or topic, that happens too. I have to wonder though, who exactly is tearing people down and how bad is it?
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
12 Apr 09
Hey progamer, maybe you can step in my discussion about trying to get into my gmail? You are so supportive and empathetic of other mylotters I think its great. Your mom is likely very proud!
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
24 Feb 09
Trust me You don't want to know the discussions it happened in but it was done on two members that I have never seen a heated or mean thing come from... grrrr. But yes answering tech questions and helpining is definitely compassion... If you must know the discussions that prompted this pm me and I'll tell you which ones they were. I will say I was uncharistically not myself and I have to say it was partially I was in pain and not in a good mood to begin with.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
23 Feb 09
People without compassion are people without a soul, without an understanding of what it means to love your fellow man. They should all be taken out and shot!
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
23 Feb 09
I have two that need shot right off the top of my head. He he he he!!!
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
22 Feb 09
I always give my compassion to all. Yet through my experiences here, I've come across many who have misread or assumed too quickly to see past my compassion. There are some who are obviously here to just simply bug people and those people really don't care about anything. And some people are so protective of themselves that they can't even see the compassion when it waves at them.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
23 Feb 09
Hi lore,
I understand that completely .. thanks for your response and maybe I'll see ya around on the lot.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
25 Feb 09
I read a discussion the other day and one of the responses was commented upon by the author and then another member also left a comment, quoting a line from the response and asking "Are you stupid?"
I felt as though I had been hit, such was my shock. There was nothing wrong with the responder's opinion and it was wrong for this person to be so rude and horrid. I really wanted to say something about there being no need for that kind of comment but realised that this person would probably not see my comment but now I wish I had said something to the responder to offset any bad feeling this person caused.
I don't get why others just comment with the intention of tearing down someone. If they have a point ...make it in a civilised fashion without belittling the person.
There are times however when some attention seeking members need putting in their place and it's hard to come off with a friendly tone and so this is when we need to bite our tongue and move on.
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
25 Feb 09
How true that is. I really have been of the mind that we are a community and we're here to help and part of helping is to build up your fellow mylotter. So I always try to be civilized even when I don't agree with a point made and I always try to have supporting documentation to prove and points I have. LOL!! But I do agree with you...
