maybe we won't marry
February 23, 2009 3:56am CST
My boyfried made me cried many times,I felt very tied for him,there are many reasons.This one is because of our families. In this CNY i went his home, his family maybe richer than my family,although his family members like me very much,I felt very sad for his mother said to his son that my famliy is not as good as theirs'(I knew it from my friends).yes,my family is poor for my parents are very tied to grow me,my brother and my sister up.I felt his family would look up down my family in further.Although my career is better than my boyfriend,and my salary is higher than him,I still usually feel inferior only for my family. Now I am very contradictory,I don't know whether I will feel happy in future if i marry him.. How can i do!
23 Feb 09
hey, dont be so upset... i am currently in the same position as i am in.. except that the reason is not tht my family is less wealthier... but because i am not from his state and coz i am not of the same religion... Anyways i know it hurts and that you are filkled with enough anger to break stuff around you.. its totally understandable.. But think about it... even if you convince your BF to marry you, his family would always remind u of the fact that you aint from a wealthy family and would try to say mean stuff to you.. Do you really wanna spend the rest of your lives with him like that? And if a guy doesnt have the guts to stand for the woman he loves, then maybe he should have a woman in his life.. i suggest you break off with your boyfriend before things become worse...
24 Feb 09
but i have been with him for five years,i tried to leave from him,you know,it's really difficult to leave a sweet heart who get along with me so long time.maybe it's a habit ,i have been used to him as my BF,I don't know if I really leave him ,i will become who i am!And i know he treat me very well,maybe he value me.i can't put him down!And i think maybe i can't fine a person who treat me so well,at least i havn't fount a suitable person who will be my future husband.
25 Feb 09
my opinion about your case : don't think it is inferios your family.no wrong from your parents ,it is big problems from your bf's family.how could they judge you from your family?are they sure their son will marry a wealthy girl? let kids choose their marriage!
• United States
24 Feb 09
That's so sad to hear about that. Did you talk to your boyfriend about this incident? What does he think? We have a saying in Chinese is kinda like If you love your spouse, you should love their parents too, I know it sounds different in your case, and I'm saying it should be useful in parents' posistion too, if they love their children, they should accept the spouse their children like too.