Do you want to be alone sometimes?

Lithuania
February 23, 2009 5:33am CST
Today is one of those days when I want too be alone.Every single call or message from my friends makes me angry.I don't want to see anyone, just want some silence, some peace of mind.I don't want to hear their voices, nothing. It's not because I'm depressed, I'm just mentally tired.How could I explain this to my friends so they wouldn't think I don't care about them anymore?
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@angelia286 (2029)
• Singapore
23 Feb 09
Welcome to the club! Many of us experience this sort of feelings every now and then. Even I! Sometimes, we just need our space and break free from the restrictions that held us down. That includes the commitments and relationships (friendships, cousins, family) around us. We just yearn to break free of all of them and just enjoy some 'me' time! Though when my friends SMS or call me when I am in those 'wanting to be alone' sort of mood, I don't get angry. Haha rather I just go 'Missing-in-Action' (MIA) and ignore all their calls and messages. Over days, they will soon get the hint and well, leave me alone till I contact them. And during those 'me' times, I won't even come onto Mylot to chat (even though I love it to bits!). I would just well, enjoy time by myself! I will just sit down on my bed, switch on the television and read my books. When the time comes to eat or sleep, I would go ahead and do so, with no restrictions and no boundaries to what I want to do at my own conditions. That's what I love. And when the time comes to meet civillisation again, I know in my heart I will just have to pick up that phone and start messaging away! It's like having the best of two worlds! Well, I can understand where you are coming from on this. If they are your friends, perhapes you might want to consider just being frank and tell them as it is. No frills but just brute honesty. Friends will understand and back off giving you the space that you need. Why not try the honest approach? I discover through the hard way that honesty is still the best policy in whatever we do. Well take care and I hope that you will be able to get that personal space that you so yearn for! Happy mylottinG!!
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• Lithuania
23 Feb 09
I see you've become an expert of "my time".:) I wonder why I didn't use the honesty policy which would deliberate me from that stupid and completely unnecessary feeling of guilt. And thank you for sincerity and warmth in your words.
• Singapore
23 Feb 09
[i]"I see you've become an expert of "my time".:) I wonder why I didn't use the honesty policy which would deliberate me from that stupid and completely unnecessary feeling of guilt. And thank you for sincerity and warmth in your words."[/i] Silvercoin -- Well it's never too late to do something. Better late than never right? It's really true that once in a while we ought to be selfish and think for ourselves rather than trying to please everybody else and not please ourself. However, the suggestion given by the respondent below your response is good if one can complement both ideas together. In a way, it does not offend anybody else? Take care and may you have a successful 'me' time soon!
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
24 Feb 09
DancingRedFeather, true friends wont forget each other even as time passed by ^_^ True frenz will stand by us no matter how long we have not contact each other ^_^ And the reason they can be true frenz, is because both of them needs what each other needs and they are more glad to help them achieve it, rather than adding on to their 'burden', at that time ^_^
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
Yeah, those days always come. The days where I want to be alone and not bothered but they seldom happen nowadays. When I was in high school, I want my sunday to always be like that. A day of peace and tranquility and just me myself and I. I usually do that because I'm deciding on what course to take on college that's why a youngster like me want to be alone but I don't get mad at people if they do talk to me...I just make the conversation short and say good bye to end the conversation immediately and spend the whole day alone... I usually end up sleeping though hahaha. Happy earning my friend!
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• Canada
23 Feb 09
I take the Sabbath, the Lord's day on Saturday. My friends know this, that I talk the Lord's Day to rest, read, listen to a sermon, read my Bible, pray to the Lord as I must give Him time also. We tend to forget Him don't we.
@JHEZ924 (119)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
Same here... I also want to be alone right now... I think its normal that anybody feels this that a moment in their life they want to be alone. For whatever reason, time comes that we have to be alone. In my case, I feel so tired thinking of many things... most of them are problems that I really don't know how to solve. I can't give attention to anybody right now so I rather be alone. One thing I never forgot to do when I want to be alone is to advised the people around me that I don't want to be disturb for I have something important to attend to. In that case, my intention to be alone happens without hurting anyone.
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• Philippines
23 Feb 09
I feel the same way today, too. I don't like to reply to my husband's text messages. I was trying to make a conversation with him this morning about how I feel but I think he's too busy to listen. He keeps on saying he's not feeling well, or he's in a meeting, or in a training. In the end, he didn't know what my problem really is. So now, I'm closing up from anyone. I easily get irritated to my sister, or even to my husband's messages. They don't know what's up with me and I don't want to talk to them anymore, either. But I also don't want them to think I'm being selfish or anything, too. I just want to be left alone. I guess, they just have to understand that we also need some space and be left alone. That's one thing that they should also respect if they really care for us.
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• Canada
23 Feb 09
It does happen, so what you do is this. You unplug your phone, you don't answer any e-mails. You take a nice bubble bath with lavander bath salts or oil. That will relax you brain and burn lavander inscence. Go outside and raise your palms to the sky and pray to the Lord to take all the mental anguish..go for a walk, go for a coffee and a glazed donut..sweets is good for the brain and the coffee will stimulate and take the tiredness out. You can tell your friends that you are taking a SPA DAY and will talk to them the next day. Send them all a e-mail saying exactly what you have written on here. Now..the question is..why are you angry? There is more going on than mental fatique.
• Lithuania
23 Feb 09
It's more, you right.I guess I choose people who are too different from me.I'm tired, I'm stressing over bills,I'm exhausted,I talk on the phone with relatives who complain about their daily problems and here comes one of my friends and says:"Don't be so dull,there'll be a good party on Saturday." Yeah right.A party.He sleeps 5 hours more than me, he earns twice as much as me.He spends more on cocktails than he does on clothes.How come I choose childish friends who don't know the value of money,and the bitterness of life. I think here's what this anger comes from.
• Lithuania
23 Feb 09
And I'm misspelling the words, so I'm really not well today. I'm going to make me a hot bath. Thank you so much, you're very kind to me.
• Canada
23 Feb 09
Well my dear you are being judgmental. How he lives or spends his money is none of your concern. Why should you be angry at him? It's not your money he is spending is it? hahaha. Why would you be angry at his life style? Actually, why don't you change yours? Sit back, think of what your life is..write down what you want to change..set a goal and put it on the fridge and everytime one is reached..cross it out. That is what I did this year..am 65..cared fore everyone but myself ..gave up the limelight and what did I get for it!! nothing but God's appreciation. So I decided..let go, cut the amblical cord to everyone..set them free..get rid of all the vampires of emotions, tell all the relatives to complain to someone else and call me only to talk something positive..and I started to do a home business online which is contantly rising money-wise. I set a vision of a pipeline in my mind and have the $$$ flow to me instead of me being a pail water carrier to a boss or clients. I quit doing immigration counselling and doing just my online business. Now, I get no more calls from those who were just calling me to dump their problems..horrrrrrrrrahhhhhhhh... You will know who are truly your friends and only the true ones will stay. Of all..I have just one true friend..left. Don't be shy..they are not with you so why should you endure their fake friendship..you are just a emotional dumpster..they feel good and leave u feeling sad. so to heck with vampiers of emotion..put garlic on your receiver and blow it back to them hahahaha.
@jaymeeliz (506)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
Everybody needs some time alone sometimes. Even couples need their own time and space. It seems like you are the type of person who wants to be for your friends all the time and that is very nice but remember that you owe yourself some time too. I think your friends will understand if you tell them nicely that you are just tired and need some time for yourself. I don't think they will think that you don't care about them anymore. have a good rest! Tc!^__^
• Lithuania
23 Feb 09
Yes, I'm that type of person.I'm afraid to loose friends sometimes who need me, but being honest with myself, I don't need them.I give, they take.I need some changes,really.
• Canada
23 Feb 09
ah ha..I see what you are doing..you see you are only giving and not receiving, therefore the energy flow is not equal. You can't say you don't need them because if you didn't, you wouldn't be helping them. YOu see when you help someone it is because you have a need to give, otherwise you wouldn't. Maybe also you are giving the fish all the time instead of the fishing pole.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
23 Feb 09
All of at one or the other juncture of our lives prefer largely to remain lonesome.All the din and buzzle of modern life instill in us the need for serene and peaceful existence devoid of all the maddening experiences of modern existence.
• Lithuania
23 Feb 09
yes, i wish I was in desert now or elsewhere, but not here.
• Canada
23 Feb 09
You know what? I got an idea..why don't you look in the newspaper or on the internet in your city where you might have a special on one day of pampering, facial, body massage, hot tub. But also, you must look at what is making you this way, relax and get rid of whatever is making feel this way..mental fatique is also mild drepression and can get worse if you don't take care of whatever is making you this way.
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
23 Feb 09
Yes, there are times that i wanted to be alone.. i don't want other people to see me depressed most especially my family.. i'd rather be alone than see my family affected with my present situation.. i've been sick and there times that i just wanted to give up...
• Lithuania
23 Feb 09
You have the same problem as me - we have to learn to love ourselves more than we do know.And to make others care bout US sometimes.
@Shawchert (1040)
• United States
23 Feb 09
just tell them you need a little "you"/alone time. and that you would call them when you feel mentally refreshed. I feel that way often. hope things work out for you!
• Lithuania
23 Feb 09
Thank you! :)
@littleowl (7157)
26 Feb 09
Hi silver, everyone likes their own space sometimes..I do it is lovely to have just peace and quiet no-one disturbing you...there is no harm in telling your friends that you need your friends I am sure they will understand...littleowl
• Hong Kong
24 Feb 09
yes, i need to be alone sometimes, i need to clam down when i am angry and be alone to think something through =]
@sadiq007 (334)
• India
24 Feb 09
I always like to be alone...... I feel peace when i am alone.... I am enjoy myself when i am alone.....
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
most of the time we really need to be alone, not because we really wanted to but it is because it's an innate feeling to everyone... i am positive that your friends will understand,(it might not be now but in the long run, yes!) because they will experience that themselves as well... that's what we call loving "myself" day... good day!!! c",)
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
24 Feb 09
There are quite a times when we need to be all alone in life. Today is your day and some time back it was my day. Few days back I wanted to be all alone in life and now things have changed so I have come out of that stage and ready to face the world.
@rowe0525 (677)
• China
24 Feb 09
yeah sometimes we really want to be alone and be quite ,,thinking ourself in our dailly life ,,when we are alone,,we can know that we need friends,,and we are ambious to our life we need alone sometimes,,indeed,, god bless you
@vicky30 (4777)
• India
24 Feb 09
Yes i too like to be alone sometimes.It too keeps my mind at peace.When i am alone sometimes at home i fell very nice.Even if i am angry i like to be alone as i take time to cool the anger.You can tell your friends that give me some time and i will speak to you later.They will accept it and speak after some time.Even in a train if i have a group i like to sit alone.
@salonga (28016)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
Well sometimes we really need some time to be alone in order to rest. I also do have moments like that. But I don't get to the extent of getting angry when someone calls. I just screen calls by asking our telephone operator to deny calls for me unless it comes from either my husband or son. If I am really stressed I normally go out of town with my husband to find a perfect hideaway where no one could disturb me.
• United States
24 Feb 09
Here's what I do on days like that: leave my myspace and facebook status' as 'suuuper busy today! no interuptions please :)' and that usually knocks off a few people. Then the rest of the people who still bother calling me will find that my cell is off. Then I do whatever I want without interuptoions- think, read, meditate, blah blah. Then the next day I feel refreshed and go back to talking to people. If no one can ask you if 'you're mad at them' there are no reasons for explinations :)
• Malaysia
24 Feb 09
those day will come...i feel that way most of the time. i just turn on off my phone so no one call me. i just stay in my room and not answering anybody who call me. after that i just turn to them and apologies..i feel guilty sometimes but they will understand i guess.
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
24 Feb 09
Hi, if you are tired then you should get more rest... turn off your phone for over night or some period of time then you won't hear any phone ring to make you headache either. Sometimes, you are on stress and need to be alone for minutes... I use to have that feeling too but I can't be quiet alone cuz my kids need me all the time, I mean ALL THE TIME. Take a hot bath or shower, drink milk and eat your favorite meal and watch tv... I think you should be release. I hope you feel better soon... Oh, drink some Tea ok, it helps you.