Help Please For Potty Training

@Mickie30 (2633)
February 23, 2009 8:47pm CST
O.k I have a dilema. My daughter is 3 years 2 months old and is a smart little girl. She is probably cleverer than a lot of 3 year olds because she can count, do jigsawa, draw and knows her right from her left. However when it comes to potty training we are struggling. The thing is we are not consistant. We have tried her with a lot of success, but then we want to go out for the day and put a nappy on her because we are afraid she will wet herself whilst we are out and it just isn't happening. Does anyone have any advice because it just seems like we are never going to get her out of nappies and she should be at her age. Please help any advice would be appreciated thanks.
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I've been right where you are. We did exactly as you are doing, not wanting the inconvience of accidents when we had other things going on. I think you already know the answer..... I did. Just do it! You will be surprised at how few accidents there will be. Just always have a change of clothes. Bottom line, we were sending our son mixed signals. Once he learned that we believed he could do it, he believed he could do it. And he did.
@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Take her on short trips where there is a bathroom you can get to easily. If she is wanting to wear the nappys, maybe she just thinks that that is what she is suppose to do when she goes out. Start with short trips, even just walks... and go before you leave and first thing when you get back and ask several times while gone. Kids figure things out in their own time, not ours..she'll figure it..just give her the tools she needs to do so!
25 Feb 09
I say, don't sweat it. If she is as smart as you say (and I have no doubt that she is!) your training will kick in in its own time. I have seen that oftentimes the children who are wizzes at the tough stuff, are a little slower on the so called easy stuff. My bet is that one day soon your daughter will just start using the potty and won't turn back.
• United States
24 Feb 09
My daughter is a little of 2 years of age and she is to the point where she can sleep through the night with out trainning pants and when she does where them out she tells me when she has to use the potty.It took a while but I just kept asking her while we were out if she had to use the potty and on her own after a while she just stared telling me on her own! We also do a Pee Pee in the potty dance which is really fun for her cheer and clap for her ! Good luck
@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
hi mickie! wow that is some struggle indeed. i am an expectant mom so i have not experienced this first hand. my nephew though is already 3 years old now. what they are training him to do right now, is to keep him from wetting the bed at night. and they seem to be successful in doing so. but during the day, i think they have done it a long time ago, probably when he was a little more than 2 years old. it was training him to say it when he needs to go. and he does that. now, that he is 3, he goes to the toilet by himself and pees. i think it is wonderful how they did this. it is the same when he needs to poop. he just tells his mom or whoever the adult he is with. your daughter is smart and i know she is responsible. talk to her and trust her. take care and God bless you! happy mylotting!
@misskyla (40)
• United States
24 Feb 09
Be patient with her, it will come, but you do have to be more consistent. With my last child we also were afraid of getting stuck while out and about. We would just ask him if he needed to use the potty whenever we encountered a public bathroom. It did not take long before he would ask to go while out. He had books about "going potty". I have also heard it is good to give the child a doll that they can teach how to use the potty as it reinforces what they have learned. The experts say you should only worry if the child is not potty trained by the age of 5. Good luck to you!!
@myralmedo (815)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
hi mickie30 :) before that's my dilemma too i have a son and turning 3 this May, i keep on thinking on this area coz most of my co-mommy friends their child is nappy free already.. i bought a potty training for my son at first his dada/daddy always accompanied him everytime he'll pee until he used to it, (if it's your daughter try to join her in the rest room and show how to pee in a bowl)... every morning he just have his undies and we keep on telling him that if he feels like it's a pee time he'll just call us and we will pee in his potty... it's a matter of patience hehe yes it took so long- months i think..now nappy free in pee time but in poo-poo he wants to have a nappy but step by step we introduce him how to poo-poo in his potty and show him everytime me or hubby or buy a vcd/dvd with pottry training topic so that she will learn that every one needs to use the rest room and not for life she'll be using a nappy :D hope this helps! :) regards to your lil angel!;) Godabless!0=)
@rsa101 (16718)
• Quezon City, Philippines
24 Feb 09
Well I guess your doing good in your daughter. I guess this is a challenge for every parent to train them to use the potty when they do pee and poops. First things first your daughter is resisting change because of fear in new things to do. She finds comfort in wearing this diapers and finds it practical to just pee in it whenever it comes. So the solution to that is push that fear away from her and show her that there is nothing to fear in making poo and pee in the potty. Show her the disadvantage of doing it in the diaper. Slowly but surely you will be able to convince her. In my case, I did started by showing my son how I pee and we would go to the toilet every now and then and let him see how I do it as a man. Don't worry about it much since this kids are not yet full of malice and they do not have that yet in them. Just constantly show them that and hope that eventually he would mimic that as time goes by. When it come to pooing I guess he just realized. I did not actually showed him the actual thing but I showed him how he can do it and one day he actually volunteered to sit there and have it a try. We cheered him up for doing so and eventually brainwashed him out how yucky making poops in the diaper. Eventually he let go of it and he was potty trained at that age 3+ years.
@aprilten (1966)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
I suggest you take it easy with her. She's just 3 years old. When my kids were that age I still put a nappy on them when we go out to avoid having to rush to the comfort room when nature calls. What's important is that you don't need to put a nappy on her at home, she doesn't poo just anywhere at home, and that she doesn't wet the bed at night.