hey all the ladys out there are you treat like a maid or wife???

United States
February 24, 2009 2:17am CST
Does your boyfriend or husband treat you like a maid or a housekeeper instead of treating like a wife?An does he act like you dont have a lick of brains in your head?
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8 responses
@zhuhuifen46 (3401)
• China
24 Feb 09
There is a saying, you are as old as you think of yourself. And likewise, what you feel yourself to be has a lot to do with grace or disgrace. The concrete chores are there to do, either by yourself or jointly by both. A positive attitude helps to enjoy the work. The issue is some guys are so lazy, picky, inconsiderate, and lack sense of humor. In this case, complaint adds to your depression. In stead rather empower share of the chores, and express anticipation in an acceptable way. Show appreciation of any improvement made and be patient in giving assistance. The most important part is to initiate something light to lure double care. Whether for wife working or not working, home making is something to be highly valued as no less contribution to the family, esp. when there are children to care about.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18124)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I agree with your response zhuhuifen46. You put that exactly right.
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• United States
24 Feb 09
Your right on the money honey and thank you very much on your comment. god bliiss you
• United States
24 Feb 09
Thank you !you are right on the money honey,I told him if i have to do it by myself then i dont need him.If he isnt going to put anything into the marrage then why stay together,he doesnt even try.God bless you and keep you
@mtdewgurl74 (18124)
• United States
24 Feb 09
In some places Wife means that you houseclean,cook, and do other small task. But it is always nicer when things are shared. W..washer of clothes,dishes,backs and kids..etc.. I. Irons,intercepts fights, interprets mixed messages hubby sends. F. fixes breakfast,lunch and supper,flushes toilets,fixes things around the house she has been after hubby for 6 months to do.,follows behind to pick up laundry everyone forgets to put in the hamper. E. Eats,sleep and does housework. Everything else..
• United States
24 Feb 09
HI MTDEWGURL74, i KNOW WHAT A WIFE DUTY IS ,i mean beside that.Like you might be trying to do something and he isn't doing any thing and he say GO GET ME A GLASS OF WATER,now why do i have to stop what i am doing to wait on him?
@mtdewgurl74 (18124)
• United States
24 Feb 09
My husband rarely ask me to ever get him a cup of coffee or a glass of water he usually gets up and gets it himself. I have a smart solution..You have a table that is against the wall and their is a plug on the wall why not plug up the coffee pot on the table and move the toaster to where the coffee pot was?? That is how I would solve the problem of that. Or if I got up to use the restroom just go and get him water/drink after I went so he wouldn't wait till I sit back down to ask me. Well, nothing can do about the back scratching/massaging because I know him nothing works like the real thing for him.. You pampered him to much when you first met him and spoiled him with things like that well now he just expects it. Mine ask me if I will do it and I usually do but when my hands start hurting I let him know and he gets up which since I am a crocheter it doesn't take long for my hands to hurt..He needs to see a masseuse..
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• United States
24 Feb 09
Hi mtdewgurl74.Sorry it doesnt work about the table and coffee pot been ther did that .he was setting right there next to it he still yell for me to do it.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I swear sometimes he treats me as if I was one of the kids, and they are grown, married and gone. It just seems the longer we are married, he has to ask stupid questions, if he would only think about what he was going to say, before he opens his mouth. It gets quite annoying at times. If I take the car to town, later he will ask where I took the car. Duh, I said I was going to town. LOL. Men you can't live with them, and you can't live with out them. For some this would be true. Hugs Mary
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• United States
24 Feb 09
AMEN TO THAT SISTER!!!!If only they WOULD think before they speak or do any thing.THANK YOU FOR YOUR COMMENTS HOPE YOU A GOOD NIGHT
@mtdewgurl74 (18124)
• United States
24 Feb 09
Using capital letters is considered yelling and is frowned upon by some people. Some use caps to make a point or get one across but to much of it is a no no..
• United States
24 Feb 09
You are very welcome Wildcat, You hit a subject that many of us can relate to. Maybe we should use some duck tape. LOL You have a good night too. Couldn't sleep, so am back up. Hugs Mary
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@ekimflow (121)
• United States
4 Jun 09
some guys do treat their other half like, that but they don't understand that it's a give and take, i don't mean she always gives and he always takes.you must share on things,sometimes you might want something your way but you must give in and let them have it their way and then things will work out better.
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• United States
4 Jun 09
i thank a marriage should be 100%from both,and i do believe it take two to make a marriage work,but we do things for you guys because we love you .but some of you guys treat us like we are nothing to you but a maid,housekeeper,cook.not a loving wife.i dont think you guys would like it if we treat you like you guys treat us.thank you for your comment
@dawnald (84125)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Jun 09
He KNOWS I'm smarter than he is. But sometimes I get the "why didn't you serve me" treatment. Usually I let him live...
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• United States
3 Jun 09
i tell him if you want a maid or someone to serve you then your going to pay me to do it . i clean house and cook and put it on the table.that should be enough,but no honey bring it to me ,honey get me a glass of milk.this one my daughter get mad about .he walk past the tv and go set down and yell for me to turn the tv on.i have to let him live but one of these day,i am going to dump his food over his head
@Thoroughrob (11771)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I would have to say to goes both ways. There are days, I think that I am considered a maid. There are more days when I am treated like a wife.
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• United States
24 Feb 09
Hi sweetthing!yes i can see your point of veiw to i think a marriage should be 100 % from both sides,you cant just give 50% if you want it to work.B. olderUT he is 10 yrs than me ,that might be what wrong , mebe he is to old?
@xhaimacoy (115)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
He's treating me like a queen.. :) and guess i deserved that kind of treatment.. haha!! All i can say is love the one who loves you more and marry a guy you can call a man rather a boy.. :) Happy myLotting guys..
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• United States
24 Feb 09
xhaimacoy,your dreaming right now just wait you 'll wake up and smell the coffee give it time.because thats how we were to but after 26 yrs. i guess he think some one should wait on him.he has be this way since he start going to churchbut i hope you never wake up from your dream
• United States
24 Feb 09
My boyfriend teats me like a partner...we split up the house hold chores...the ONLY thing that is a specified one is he takes out the trash on garbage night in the winter ... only because I hate the cold. Other than that he relies on me to act as his brain hahaha He definately does NOT treat me like a maid...I work harder than he does and he knows it
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• United States
24 Feb 09
That you for your response .I am glad you have nice boyfriend.My husband just started acting this lately really bad,It is making me kind of mad .H gets up in the morings goes right past the coffee pot sits down at the table arm lengh of the coffee pot yells for me to get him a cup coffee,i am in the front room or some where else ,he wants me to stop or drop any thing i am doing to wait on him. sometimes i feel like dumping the pot of coffee on his head. lo lo I might be seting down reading the news paper and stead of asking me to do his back he just come over sits down on my lap tearing paper in all.