Do you keep your problems to yourself...

@sammy14 (834)
Philippines
February 24, 2009 2:59am CST
If you have problems do you keep it to yourself... or you look for somebody to share it with or you spill it out to somebody... This spilling out to somebody or to a friend is therapeutic and can solve your problems... but the possibility of it spreading to wrong people specially when the problem is scandalous is high.. for me i keep it to myself.. how about you... Is this right..
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@Chevee (5905)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I keep my problems to myself. This can be the wrong thing to do because if your family and friends don't know that you have this probably they can't help you with it. It might be a problem that can be solved by one of the love ones. This is what they always tell me. I have a problem with asking for help.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
24 Feb 09
One doesn't really have to ASK for help with problems. One can just drop it into normal conversations. Keeping them bottles up inside can casue many problems mentally, emotionally, as well as physically. I learned this the hard way and now I share problems with friends and family to avoid stress, and other health issues from keeping it inside me. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@hershiez (464)
24 Feb 09
Heya sammy14! ^_^ If I have problems, I keep some of it to myself but, most of the time, I share it with my friends, best friends, and with my boyfriend. It's really therapeutic and it's up to you if you are goin' to follow their advices. We have our own cells and hormones, anyways! Hahahaha..^_^v
@kidjuwee (611)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
It depends on the problem. Sometimes I have problems that I just keep to myself simply because i know that I'm the only person who can understand and solve it. Sometimes I just get discourage if I hear a lot of people's comments or advices and would just make things worst.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I use to keep it to myself until I discovered mylot It seems since I have found this, evertime I have shared a problem I was having I felt so much better so much faster. You get so much help and so much advice that it is just easier to deal with your problem or even easier to solve! It is never good to keep a problem to yourself, it will only bring you down. learn to share and we can always help!
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• United States
24 Feb 09
I do keep my problems to my self. I usually just write down my feeling and problems in my journal. My mom and some family members when they talk to or see me can tell when something is going on but I almost never spill the beans. Its hard for me to open up about personal issues because in my family and in my close circle of friends im always the one that they come to for help. My mom and all my aunts air all there problems and emotions on me. They want my input and help. So its hard for me to talk to them about my issues because I always have to be the strong one. I feel like I can't break down in front of them. I know that they would help me and listen but I've been in this role for so long its hard to change.
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• India
13 Nov 09
hi sammy, It depends on the problem. Sometimes I have problems that I just keep to myself simply because i know that I'm the only person who can understand and solve it. Sometimes I just get discourage if I hear a lot of people's comments or advices and would just make things worst.
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
Yeah, i guess, we have the same point of view. I have a problem now a days that it seems it will be scandalous if im going to tell it to anybody. So, i tried to keep it with myself. Cry alone and feel the pain all alone. But some problems that i have that it can be shared and thinking it will help me release it, so i decided to share this with my close friends and family.
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
25 Feb 09
It depends on what kind of problem it is. When I can handle it to myself or that problem is not that convenient for others to know, I will keep it to myself. If it is beyond my capacity and I will feel better, I share it with my best friend. That's what friends are for. And I am grateful to that.
@pooh923 (94)
• Philippines
19 May 09
we all do have probs and i do also have. sharing your problems to a confidant --- this means someone whose been close to you for a long time, whose trust and loyalty tested through time, and someone who doesn't give you advices that will just harm you and the other person involved in the prob/matter. if your prob is scandalous--as how you stated it, it is best not to divulge it to just anyone or even to one of your closest pals. not only will you harm your reputation, you will also risk yourself of embarrassment and that could only affect your life. though this doesn't that your life would end there. there''s always a time to stand up from every fall. before you decide to share your problems, first clear your mind, try to analyze the situation of the prob, the gravity of the prob, and think of ways you can solve it. if everything else doesn't work try to go to someone whose matured and can keep a secret of yours if not seek medical help or to a psychologist who can advice you better.
@chalee68 (73)
• South Korea
26 Feb 09
Sometimes it depends of the situatuion...in terms of money i will tell to other person especially to my hubby^^ but most of the time i keep it in myself...happy mylotting
@vzihan (145)
• China
27 Feb 09
Hi, it deponds.something is personal,so I just keep it in my heart and nobody can know them;something is related to my family,and sometimes I will share it with my parents and my sister,and they can help me trying their beat;something is suit for telling my friends,and I can feel free to tell them;sometimes I will seek my answer from music and book,for some valuable thing hiding in music and book and they can give me inspiration;last,something is special that I can only share it with my girl.When the problem coming,I can have my choice,which is a interesting game.
• China
26 Feb 09
That depends on what kind of problems. Some of them are solved by myself, and others by sharing with my friends. Cause Sharing joy is double joy, sharing sorrow is half sorrow.
• Chile
25 Feb 09
Its very variable but usually I preferto share my problem, because the opinion of a good friend its always welcome, and you never know if they can help you to solve the problem. Also you make stronger the trust in your friend. If someone knows the real disvantages of sharing the problems should post it here.
@elysium (169)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I tend to keep my problems to myself. I do not like letting others know about my problems because I do not want them to worry about me. I also do not want to add on to any problems they have. Of course, my boyfriend always knows if I have a problem. So, he always forces me to tell him. In a way, I keep my problems to myself and my boyfriend.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
24 Feb 09
It all depends on wat the problem is. No matter what, I try to solve it myself before sharing with anybody, but there are times when I really feel that someone ele's point of view could be helpful and I will ask for advice. I do not like having to ask, but I am not afraid to either.
• India
24 Feb 09
well it depends sometimes I jsut wanna keep em to me or sometiems I tell them/share with ppl I trust alot its all depends on wht the thing is happy lotting and have a nice day! :D
@uicbear (1900)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I usually keep my problems to myself these days. I used to go to my oldest sister with my problems. She was a good sounding board and always made me feel that there was a solution and that everything would be alright. She passed away just about 5 years ago and I have been pretty much on my own. I do talk to friends or other family occasionally, but it's no where near the support my sister used to give me.
• China
25 Feb 09
If i have problem, i will tell my friends, sometimes the best friend. They always tel me the way to solve. Sammy, i think if you keep the peoblem yourself. maybe it wil not solve properly, sometimes it will worry you.
• United States
25 Feb 09
well, first of all it depends on the problem. then it depends where i am at, and third, it depends who i am with.. lots of factors go into if and when i spill to someone. if something happens at work, i have a few people that i go to, that i can trust with anything that i tell them no matter what. if im at home, and it's not a problem wit my hubby, but from somewhere else, i tell him. sometimes, i just tell my sister or my mom... they are the best and most reliable people to talk to on just about anything at all. you do have to watch who you tell what, because, if they decide to spill to someone else, your words could get misconstrued and will come out sounded like something you really didn't say. sometimes, things are just better kept to yourself, even tho it's getting to you and you NEED to tell someone just to vent.
@itsme_cha (504)
• United States
24 Feb 09
it really depends of what problems you have because i believe that there are some problems that you cant share to anybody. but most of the problem you can ask for help from your friends, i do share most of my problem to my close friends as i know they will always there for me to help me and support me. happy mylotting.