Hello stranger!

@Humbug25 (12551)
February 24, 2009 4:10pm CST
As most of you know, I recently went 'home' for a week and I'll tell you about a dilemma I got myself into whilst I was there and wondered what you guys would have done if you were in my position. So I was walking along the coastal path with my kids and I saw a man that I knew. He was my instructor when I was in Sea Cadets at the age of 12 - 15 or so. We then dated for a really short while when I bumped into him in my twenties as he was only 10 years my senior but then I went abroad to work! Anyway he was dressed in casual wear so I don't think he was working at the time and he was walking with someone, a guy, . He looked over at me but the last time he saw me it was 13 years ago, I was childless, had really long hair and I was a lot slimmer! I carried on walking as I didn't think he had recognised me and as I walked past I looked back to see if he did too. So, has this happened to you? What did you do? What would you have done if you were me?
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
24 Feb 09
See here I was thinking that you had scared someone by going up to them, even though you knew them, they had forgotten who you were. lol, well I guess that's not the case. I think I would have gone up to him and been friendly, told him who you were if he had not recognized you and then chatted for a minute before walking away. That's if I were you, if I were me, I would have done the same thing you did, lol!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
24 Feb 09
Hi ya SomeCowGirl Hahaha See I didn't want to go up to him because he was involved in a conversation with someone else and I didn't want to appear rude or embarrass him! I am glad you are just as big a chicken as me! Thanks for your response
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
25 Feb 09
oh okay, yes if he was talking it would have been rude, lol, and if you were to follow him that would be stalking, lol!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
25 Feb 09
I don't think I could have won either way!!
@p1kef1sh (45640)
24 Feb 09
I once saw someone that I used to date in the street in london. We arranged to go for a drink for old times sake. The drink was pleasant enough, but I think that we both remembered why we split up. I've not sen her since and as it was before I got married that makes it about 25 years ago! I'd probably have done what you did and walked on by, but knowing that I knew him.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
24 Feb 09
Hi ya p1kef1sh Wow you were quick off the draw!! LOL Yeah I didn't want to have to explain to my kids who he was on the spare of the moment either! After all it was me that has changed not so much him. He looked a bit older but that was about all! Thanks p1kef1sh
@p1kef1sh (45640)
24 Feb 09
Last year we went to a friend's 50th. One of The Boss's Exs and his wife were there. P1kelet was extremely intrigued t see one of her mother's former boyfriends. He heads an international accountancy firm now, that he founded. So he's rolling in it. She chose me instead. Good taste, but no common sense that woman! LOL.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
24 Feb 09
Aww bless! That is a lovely story though!
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Feb 09
If I was sure it was him and if we had parted on good terms, I would have said hi. If not, just the same as you...
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@Humbug25 (12551)
26 Feb 09
Hi ya dawny Sure we parted on good terms but there was a number of reasons as to why I reacted the way I did! Thanks dawny
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Feb 09
We're all different...
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
25 Feb 09
sounds kind of awkward. I probably would have done the same thing. I hate having to explain it, if they don't recognize me. If he had seemed to catch on, I might have said something. Otherwise, I would have done just what you did.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
25 Feb 09
Hi ya rocketj1 Well he only glanced over for a split second so I don't think it would have even crossed his mind it would have been me especially as he hadn't seen me around for so many years. I don't think the penny dropped that it was me!! LOL Thanks rocket
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Don't think the penny dropped!!
@littleowl (7157)
24 Feb 09
hi humbug being honest i probably would of waved and said hi or gone over and askedhow he was..but thats me i tend to do things like that but then if you know he wouldnt want to talk would just say politely it was good to meet you again and then go on my merry way...hugs littleowl
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@mommaj (22894)
• United States
25 Feb 09
That's the way I would have handled it too. I would have at least said "Hi" because now you are going to be wondering if he recognized you, if he wanted to talk to you,etc. You may have missed an opportunity. If you really want to talk to him maybe you should call him up. If you are single, why not talk to him?
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@Humbug25 (12551)
25 Feb 09
Hi littleowl, Hi mommaj I actually think I would have been too shy and embarrassed in front of my kids to even say hi. I don't think for one minute that he would have ignored me and if I was on my own and he was too I don't think I would have hesitated in speaking to him. Oh well nevermind! Thank you both for your responses
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
7 Mar 09
It happened this to me recently. I took my son the the local sports centre where I saw a lady that I dated when I was a teenager. I was unsure if it was her or not. I don't think she has recognised me. I cannot be sure if she did or not since I did not talk to her. I just kept on walking since I did not want to make an a*s out of me.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
8 Mar 09
Hello ronaldinu Same thing as me then really!! I bet she did recognise you. I have just recently joined Facebook putting a recent photo of myself and everyone I knew when I was at school has told me that I haven't changed a bit even though I think I really have! Thanks for your response ronaldinu
@online_jon (1478)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
As my experience, when i got loss i always as a question to a stranger, in order for me to know where should i go to know my route. But when i was you, my parents always tell me that if someone talk to you and you didnt know who is that don't talk to them. In short what my parents mean is dont ever talk to stranger. But now that i have a right mind to think what is correct and wrong. In my age, i knjow who is a bad stranger and a good stranger. The bad stranger is the one who is making you focus in other and suddenly will backstab you and get your things. Then last is the good stranger is the one who helps you amd give the right answer to your question. Then after that the good stranger will ask for a friend. Well that's all my response to your forum topic discussion entitled " hello stranger". Happy earning and happy posting and good luck to our earning career in this site mylot. Than you! Godbless! ! ! Have a nice day to you my co-mylotters! ! ! "don't talk to stranger"
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@Humbug25 (12551)
26 Feb 09
Hi there online_jon Thanks for the reminder! Thank you for your response too and happy mylotting
@mansha (6301)
• India
25 Feb 09
It happens a lot to me but not with someone I had dated but just friends so usually I say hello and ask the other person, if we have met previously. In your case as you had dated for sometime ,may be it was okay to keep on walking but then may eb if you had good relationship with him why didn't you just smiled or say hello. This "What if " would not have been so killing then.
@Humbug25 (12551)
26 Feb 09
Hi ya mansha Well the fact that we dated I think makes it that little bit more awkward. When he glanced over I did smile at him but I think he looked away before he really saw me. I think he was so engrossed in his conversation that he simply didn't notice me. Don't worry I am not losing any sleep over what happened, I am not that bothered! Thanks for your response
@tea512 (687)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Cool topic, I think you made right the call. It nice to catch up and i am sure they would have remembered you once you pushed. If you walked by I think you would have had an awareness if he did have recognition. Some people would have pressed the issue but if there was no spark to communicate you made the right call.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
25 Feb 09
Hi there tea512 I am glad you like my discussion, maybe you should check out some of my others you might find them of interest to you too!! . I am happy with the decision I made, I think it was meant to be that way or else I would have bumped into him when he and I were on our own! Thanks for your response and happy mylotting
@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I probably would have done the same thing.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
25 Feb 09
Hey there Polly1 Yeah me too hahahaha Thanks for your response
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
It also happened to me. There are people who good in memory and poor in memory. I usually look at them but never talked,I doubt if they also recognize me or not.I only look at them the they look at me.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
25 Feb 09
Hi ya reckon21 Sometimes you wonder why someone keeps looking at you and then you realise later that it was someone you knew!! Thanks for your response
• China
25 Feb 09
Maybe I would heard to talk with him. An old friend need to be cherished!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
25 Feb 09
Hi there happycoffee and welcome to myLot Yes maybe you are right! Thanks for your response and happy mylotting
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Hello Humbug25! Maybe your instructor recognized you too but he's not sure about it. I occured to me too and if I were in your position, I would do what you did. I am the type of girl who won't gre you first unless you won't greet me. Unless you're my very close friend. I am scared to be rejected.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
25 Feb 09
Hi ya aisaellis22 I am not scared of rejection just scared of embarrassment!! Thanks aisa
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
25 Feb 09
i would have spoken to him & if i had to told him who i was. if you had done that u woudn't be thinking what if now. can't be bashful, girl. lol
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@Humbug25 (12551)
25 Feb 09
Hi ya ANTIQUELADY I have no doubt in my mind that if I had been standing in front of him for long enough he would have known it was me! I really didn't want to interupt his conversation either and it was kinda awkward because I was kinda coming down a path to the side of him not actually walking past him if that makes sense. Thanks for the response
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
Just the other day someone bumped into me who was sure he knew me and somehow expected me to remember him too. Fact of the matter is I drew a complete blank and only remembered when he had gone. Cheers!!
@Humbug25 (12551)
25 Feb 09
Hi ya underdogtoo . I think the worst thing someone could do is make out that they remember someone when they don't because it does become obvious to the other person that you don't recognise them and someone is left feeling foolish! I do hope you bump into them again soon and you can go up to them and greet them as you would have wished to the last time! Thanks underdogtoo