You miss out when you don't respond

@TLChimes (4842)
United States
February 24, 2009 8:24pm CST
It is my understanding that when you post a discussion, you make money when you answer the people who respond to it. I know not everyone is here for money. I know not everyone here agrees with everyone else. I understand that some people respond in ways that can be really annoying. BUT you upset people when you ignore their effort, that makes them not read or respond to you, you then lose out. You can't make cash or friends that way. Even those who just shoot you an "I agree" earn you money and readers when you say "Thanks for responding" back at them. Do YOU respond to those who post on your Discussions? If you don't answer everyone, why not? If you do, can you tell others why you do?
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14 responses
• United States
26 Feb 09
i heard it doesnt make you anymore money BUT it will bring your discussion to more recent to where it might get seen better! so its a win win.. plus i think its rude if you dont reply to the people that responded to where they may feel ignored or that you didnt care if they even responded
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I've heard different things in the cent department. But I think I earn more because of answering. If nothing else... it's win win like you say because people know you start discussions to honestly see what people have to say, that it matters to have responders. I've seen people who ignore well thought out replies but answer three others.
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• United States
26 Feb 09
i try to reply to my replies but if i get a lot of them then some times i do skip some and replies to others.. sometimes people give great responses but they are the exact same as others so unless i repeat myself to each one i have nothing to add lol
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@mysdianait (64082)
• Italy
25 Feb 09
We earn by discussing right? We start a discussion which gets attention with each response. Then if inside each response we comment and enlarge the topic giving the opportunity for further discussion,not only will users feel gratified by the owner of the discussion for having given them attention, but they will also notice, to their surprise, that their earnings both in friendship and cents will increase. I comment back to all the responders hoping they will come back and some do, over and over again, making it fun for all concerned
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Thank you for all of your posts on here today. I totally agree that it is very cool when not only our cents but our friendships grow. I really think the more we share the better off we all are. In many ways.
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@mysdianait (64082)
• Italy
26 Feb 09
Just goes to show that making sense makes cents here on myLot
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@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I try to respond to everyone! I love discussions that are actual discussions and not post reply's... But then again some people make it impossible to say anything back..lol.. I think that it is against the rules to only say thanks for responding...I am not sure, but I think it is. I wish everyone responded back to discussions, after all it is a Discussion forum, not a posting forum..lol =)
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@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Also, it is a better way to build friendships with people on here by responding and re responding to discussions/
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I try to come up with something different for each responder. That way they know I read what they wrote. I pick up something that stands out and respond to that. I like to have discussions too... or when I learn from others or can help them learn... does that make sense? And you're right... it's a great way to get to know people and make friends. You can really get a feel for who you are talking to by the back and fourths that happen in the discussions. Thanks for all your responses today...
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@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
I just want to make it clear that I got these guidelines from mylot tab just below then headings: - Start discussions asking for one word answers like “Yes or No”. - Thank everyone that responds or comments on your discussion. This will not increase your earnings. So I guess everyone here in mylot must be wise enough to know the rules. I also hate those people who responds in an annoying way. They should not be here. I just want a friendly activity and discussions. I also want educational debates. I don't want enemies and I never go down to their level. I only respond to discussions that suits my interest and if I have something to share or I know about that particular topic. To all mylotters please be very careful and just have fun but know what you are typing. Think enough before saying annoying or words that could hurt. Peace to all!
@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
The guidelines say NOT to do those things right? But I don't just thank the people, I answer them... I don't think that's the same. Thank you for responding.
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@mysdianait (64082)
• Italy
25 Feb 09
We are here to discuss. In a discussion normally it is not usual to say 'thankyou' and leave it at that and I feel that is what the rules are asking not to do. A comment in the form of another question calls for more discussion while thanking at the same time.
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@livewyre (2455)
25 Feb 09
Whether is earns money or not, it's just darned polite to answer someone who takes part in your discussion - Let's even say it's darned rude not to...! I always respond to pretty much every answer if I post a question - and I do get disappointed if my answers don't even elicit a response. I hate it when answers either side of mine have responses, and mine has none - even if the questioner doesn't agree, they can put their point of view can't they?? GRRR
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
You nailed it right on the head. I at least thank the responder for taking the time to write. I don't have to agree with everyone. I even take the time to respond to those rude folks... though I would be likely to sneak a bit of impolite in there. I just think it's the fair and just thing to do... acknowledge each person.
@mysdianait (64082)
• Italy
25 Feb 09
Brilliant livewyre! Amen!
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@livewyre (2455)
26 Feb 09
Thanks - look I even respond to responses... I guess I just like to try and have the last word..
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@Jae2619 (1485)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Though I have not been here but about a month, I have responded to every person who has posted on my discussions. I also check my mail for new comments on discussions I've already posted on. I look for them to ask a question or just for them to say thank you. It's called respect. I have posted on some that the poster of the discussion just commented on their friends or just one or two. I understand everyone has an outside life from here but I feel everyone should at least take a few minuts to acknowledge all the repsonses.
@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
It's always a good idea to check back because people answer you after you respond back to them and MyLot doesn't let you know. It's the right thing to do to let them know you read them and what you thought. It looks like you and I agree. Thanks!
@Jae2619 (1485)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I do wish that myLot did have that function, because it would save me alot of time on alot of days.
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@mysdianait (64082)
• Italy
25 Feb 09
*Tip* Above the discussion here are some tabs. One is 'started' and another is 'responded' Under each you will find the discussions you started and those on which you responded. I keep both open and check the name of the last user who posted on the discussions. When it alters I then check the discussion to see if they responded or commented to me and act accordingly
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• United States
25 Feb 09
I do not say thanks to every response as that is against the myLot guidelines: Dont ..Thank everyone that responds or comments on your discussion. This will not increase your earnings. http://www.mylot.com/o/guidelines.aspx
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
But do you repond to people who put out an effort to respond in a thoughtful well thought out way? And another responder posted an oppisite type of guideline on page 2 of this discussion. MyLot does have some different thoughts on some things. Hmmmm.... I think I will continue to answer everyone because it's my way of letting people know I read what they took the time to post, even if it doesn't help my bottom line.
• United States
25 Feb 09
Of course I comment when I have more to say than just thank you and have contributed more than just "I agree"
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@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
26 Feb 09
When I start a discussion, I try to check it often for responses. Then I respond to those. Some times this is what will trigger a true discussion of a topic. In order to discuss a topic, there must be some sort of back and forth interaction. Logical!!! I may not answer everyone but I do try to interact with those who respond. I also try to go through my discussions and pick a best response.
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I haven't worked out the when of the best response. I have been doing it when it comes up as two or three weeks with no one posting on it. I figure that gives it plenty of time for someone to find it the MyLot basement. LOL Thanks for responding!
• United States
25 Feb 09
Hi TLChimes, You are right. When you post a discussion you make money when you answer the people who respond. And it is also true that not everyone is here for the money, although most are, unlike me. I'm here to help by commenting in a way that sheds some like on their situation. Often times when we are close to a situation we can't see things in their proper perspective. I for one do try to respond to the posts on my discussions, but I don't have a lot of time to devote to mylot, so it may take me a little longer to respond than my friends may like. But, I do eventually respond. I'm certain that there are many who are in the same boat as I am. On the other hand, I have seen many discussions started that receive many responses with no comments at all made to those responses. I just think that the person who starts discussions without commenting on the responses thinks that they make more money starting discussions then commenting on the responses. Maybe they see that their numbers next to their name doesn't go up when they comment to responses, so they think their comments don't count at all. It really is important that we take the time to comment on the responses we get to our discussions. Not only for the money, but also so that the people who responded in the first place keep responding to future discussions. If you constantly start discussions without commenting on your responses you will eventually stop getting responses because people will not take you seriously and will see you as just someone who starts discussions for the money, and not for the well thought out responses we take the time go produce. I hope I answered your question intelligently (I'm very tired right now), and take care
@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
Sleep well, and know you said what you wanted very well. I don't mind those who are later to respond. I understand that there things that happen to keep us away from mylot. I Take no issue with that. It's more those who ignore some responses (and not just the single sentence ones) but answer others. Even if they don't agree, why not at least acknowledge the effort? Thank you so much for such a great response. It seems we are on the same page.
• United States
25 Feb 09
I definitely responde, that is what I started the discussion to begin with, I want to hear what they say, and I want to interact and either learn from there input and definitely thank them for the response... it is just common courtesy but it is fun also I think. happy mylotting.
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
You have shown me through several of your posts, the way you do things. I really think you enjoy things just as you say you do. And you're right, it's just good manners to respond to everyone. Even if it's just a bit. Thanks!
@timhinyy (1653)
• United States
25 Feb 09
i try to respond to any posts to my discussions that way you can either start the conversation or keep it going seems like more fun to me that way as far as im concerned the money is just a bonus
@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I agree... a nice bonus but still just a side note to many other things. I love watching discussions grow and the sharing of information and thoughts. I don't understand those who pick and choose who to respond to, often ignoring folks that took real time and thought in their responces. Thank you for your time!
• India
25 Feb 09
hello there, i make it a point to comment on every response that i get for my discussions.....i like to respond to those who have posted answers for me........in fact when i respond to someones discussions, i like to get response from them too... i think that makes it more interactive and more fun. have a nice day.
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
You got that right. And the more you see of some faces, the more you get to know them and who they are by the posts you share with them. I love the back and forth and the community feel. Thank you for stopping by!
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I try to respond to those people who post on my discussions but there are a few where I can't respond because they don't give me enough to respond to. I know that doing every little thing on here helps make money and my fiance and I need that money. However I am also trying not to make so much as to pay taxes on it. I try to answer everyone, but those I don't I try to respond to their discussions.
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
At the rate I'm going taxes will not be an issue for me. LOL but I see your point. I just hate when someone has put out an honest effort and then gets nothing to show for it. I know what it's like to encounter those who do nothing to help you give a response. I really don't understand their thinking either. Guess you can only get what you give, right? Thank you so much for responding!
• United States
25 Feb 09
I try to respond to everyone that posts in my threads, or responds to me in another thread. Of course, if someone is being negative, or down right nasty I tend to not respond as it is not worth my energy if they are not here to give helpful input. However, I tend to always respond with something. Namaste-Anora
@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
25 Feb 09
In most cases I've seen you respond very well and with great respect. I have enjoyed reading you in other peoples discussions also. You are very good about going back and following up. All things that make for a great MyLotter. Be well.
• United States
25 Feb 09
I try, though I'll be the first to admit I do miss some from time to time that I find later in reading lol. I think that's the truth for most people on something like this. They are trying to respond, trying to make posts, friends, and they have lives outside of here. So, finding that balance as well as a system for doing things is important. Once they do, then things begin to flow smoother. Also, there are times when there are things that are so well said that even I'm not sure of Mylot's policies on writing short sayings like "Wow, I couldn't have said it better" that I'll not respond so that I do not break Mylot's policies. Of course, I'm new and still learning. I tend to watch what people do who have been around for ages and go with the flow. Happy mylotting. Anora
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