Looking back..

@stacyv81 (5906)
United States
February 25, 2009 1:55pm CST
Looking back on your life, say around 18-20, the thoughts, the path you had set for your life? Did you follow it or do you ever say to yourself. "wow, this is my life(!)(?)(.) Not asking if you regret it, or not, but whats the difference between what you thought & whats become?
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@TLChimes (4845)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I was 2 years into my path by the time I turned 18. I am Mother. It's that simple and that complicated. Long story but to sum it up, this is what I am and what I was meant to be. The only thing I thought I would have done was finish that book I keep writing. Maybe I still will, maybe not. But the story of my family is well written and everything I could have wanted for my life.
@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
26 Feb 09
me too...i believe i was always meant to be a mother =) I finished writing my book, but now what do i do? lol
@TLChimes (4845)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Write another?
@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
26 Feb 09
lol. I am half way into another...lol, but I mean how do you get them published? Do you know? i have tried a couple of online things, but they only want a part of it and I dont think you can truly decide if you like a book or not by the first few sentences, it doesnt tell you what it is about, ya know?
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
Hi stacyv! haha..There's a big difference in terms of career path. I have been career oriented and now I am a plain housewife with a few small business activities/ventures on the side. Looking back when I was around 18-20, I have a different set of goals then and I am very ambitious and goal-driven. I have set a high standard for myself and always followed a career path that will lead me to success. But then, I fell in love and everything changed slowly. I made compromises but still pushed with my goals however, over the years I found myself walking another road which lead me to where I am now. The mistakes I made, the decisions that I have chosen and all those in betweens that happened unexpectedly were all part of how my character and personality was built and molded. Oh, I do have some regrets here and there but I don't lose sleep because of that. Maybe they are just wishful thinking of how I should had done that, done this and not this and that but looking at my life now, I am content yet lacking. haha..I am very much contented with my family and friends but I do admit I am lacking some financial security. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith
@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
26 Feb 09
yeah I am a stay at home mom too & not many people understand the financial risk that goes with that...It is difficult to let go of some sort of what if money...ya know?
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
yes, that is so true! lovelots..faith
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
26 Feb 09
My life has done a full 360 since that age! I did start to follow my dream but that changed after I tried my dream! My dream wasn't what I thought it would be and I didn't like it! Now I'm in a career I like and will stay in until I retire! I think back and I think I had to try to find out what was my dream job would be like! If I didn't I wouldn't be where I am now! I'm happier and that I made the switch!
• United States
26 Feb 09
Stacy- I got married as soon as I turned 18, to what ended up being the wrong man. I wouldn't take back the four wonderful children I had with him. I had 3 miscarriages when we were first married which made life to start a living nightmare just because of some family issues on his side of the family. A lot of comments like "See, you're too young to have children". I had my first daughter when I was 20 and it was a ray of sunshine that her name reflects that. I had already been in college, but in a degree program that I wasn't happy with. At 18 I didn't know what I wanted to be in life so I bounced from one thing to another. I really was idealistic and romantic. I thought my life would be something like Jane Eyre or Sense & Sensibility. I did get them, but my life gave me more respect for what Jane really went through. I ended in a very abusive first marriage, story in itself. However, I think it shaped me and how I think today. I think I'm still a romantic and idealist, yet with a shade of reserve. I think it taught me to temper my flare for life with a healthy dose of reality. Namaste-Anora
• India
25 Feb 09
well it might have been different but we'd never kwn how it might have turned out cuz no oen can predict the future happy lottin and have a nice day