something need to be changed

@adrico (204)
China
February 27, 2009 2:17am CST
hello my friend. i got a new job in a company .this is my first time to feel the culture of the office. but to tell the turth i really don't like these feeling .i just find the environoment arrounds me is lack of communication.yeah maybe something is wrong in myself. i just can't talk with them easily. so can any body give some tips for me to change these situation. it must be helpful to me . and i will extremely grateful to you . wish you ideas. have a nice day.
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13 responses
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
Since you are new to the company, you have to do the first move. Be ready with your smiles to everyone. Don't wait for them to talk to you. A simple hello will do. Join them while they are discussing something with short favorable comments. Show to them that you are easy to get along with or you're willing to get along well with them. It's alright to be friendly with officemates as you may need each other's help incase there's little problems occuring within your works.
@adrico (204)
• China
4 Mar 09
thanks bing .aftering reading the ideas that you share in mylot .i really agree with you ..and now i get well with them .i think i have adress the issues. have a nice day
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
you are welcome adrico, nice to hear you're getting along well with them now. Best regards, God bless...
@zhpshql (693)
• China
3 Mar 09
hello,my friend, maybe you can change the situation,they are just waiting for you,so trust yourself.
@adrico (204)
• China
4 Mar 09
yeah .my friend . i have changed this situation .lol i get well with them now .. have a good time .
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
since you have said that this is your first time to feel the culture of the office and I'm not really sure if this were your first job, I suggest that you hang on for a while and try to get used to the environment. Knowing and becoming close to co-workers come naturally most of the time. After sometimes and you still feel the same way, I think it's about time to ask yourself if this is the type of job and environment you prefer. Some people are more comfortable working at home, like I do, if so try to find a job that suits your character.
@adrico (204)
• China
4 Mar 09
thanks my friend for you replying .yeah this is my frist job.i think this culture that i met first is really different from the school .but now i get well with them . i think i've address the problem.lol have a nice day
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
28 Feb 09
Break up the silence and be yourself. Keep in mind that you can get along with the colleagues well after you start to open your mind and willing to communicate with them.
@adrico (204)
• China
4 Mar 09
yeah ..thanks my friend. for you sharing the idea . i think i have address this issue. have a nice day .
@ljbinkop (744)
• United States
27 Feb 09
It seems to me from your post that you might be from another country, but I wonder is this new office you are in, is it in your country? If you have a barrier because of culture, it may be part of your problem. In any case, it is hard to make new friends, and you have to learn how to trust a few people. In most office settings it is a bit tough in the beginning, but usually the people you work closest with will start to become part of your family. You can start conversations by talking about work, as it is common ground for conversation... Good luck, and I hope it all works out for you!
@adrico (204)
• China
4 Mar 09
thanks LJ ..i should say it is not the problem of culture..i am not in a foreign country. now i've been here for a week .everything is more common to me .i think the problem that i have is changing! i sure it will be better..and really thank you for your ideas. have a nice day!
@tea512 (687)
• United States
27 Feb 09
it takes time to build realtionships at a new job. You d onot know why you are there and how you can help and your coworkers do not either. As you fit in make friends and work on projects together you will see this change. I will give you advice be careful who you friend and what you say. There is always a chance the person has an agenda of their own. so keep a tight lip and only say nice things about everyone. Like the old adage if you do not have something nice to say do not say anything it all. It swont be long before you know who you can trust and who you should not. Good Luck hang in there it will only get better.
@adrico (204)
• China
4 Mar 09
thanks tea. my friend. i wil have a try when i am in trouble .. they are good ideas.thanks for sharing .lol have a nice day
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
way to go for you have your star already. reach for the 200 post and you can use all the cute smileys you see around. since you are new in the office just give yourself more time to adjust. slowly reach out to other members in the office or one by one be friendly with them. you cant let the office adjust for you but you adjust for the office. slowly you will know that it is a place that you are looking forward to go every morning. goodluck
@adrico (204)
• China
2 Mar 09
thanks friends.really great ideas.i sure i got the idea of teamwork .i sure i can get well soon and make a lot friends there ..have a nice day
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Well, are there reasons for lack of communication, such as people don't seem to like each other, or just don't seem to care? Also, who has lack of communication in the office? Is it everyone, just a few people, just you, everyone except management, etc? How long have you worked there? Maybe you just need to feel more comfortable with time, give it a few weeks. It is something new to you, as you yourself stated. You can try to suggest a potluck dinner where everyone brings in some food, and maybe that will help everyone get to know each other a little and bond. You can find other ways, start talking with someone new each day. After awhile, hopefully everything will get better and you'll be more comfortable, then you can address the lack of communication issue.
@adrico (204)
• China
4 Mar 09
thanks bethany .i've be in this office for one week .just like you said everyting to me is new .lol maybe it is really a time problem,i sure i can address this issue.thanks for your ideas .have a nice day best wish!
@tudors (1556)
• China
27 Feb 09
Go over to people and chat to them, don't wait for them to begin a conversation with you. Just be yourself really, it's no good pretending to be who you aren't, nobody will like you if you do.
@adrico (204)
• China
4 Mar 09
yeah nice idea ..lol i will have a try .thanks for sharing have a nice day
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
27 Feb 09
There is nothing wrong with you, its quite normal to feel that way in the beginning. You have to be more cheerful, approachable and confident. Since you are new you can ask around for help with your work and ask for advices. People love giving advices. Sometimes you have to cook something up even if you know how to do it and appreciate the help. Build a rapport with them by talking on general things that interest them, maybe a nice place to eat around your office or something like that. Also you could ask them about their family and sport that they like. Don't get too personal but be humourous and friendly. You could also give them a small gift when you have known them well and when you have the right opportunity. Have a nice day!
@adrico (204)
• China
4 Mar 09
yeah i am really greatful to get the ideas that you share in mylot. i think these ideas are really great ..i will use these tips when i met the problem and i sure they are useful .. have a nice day
@SmilyQin (179)
• China
27 Feb 09
Oh,when I first went to my office last summer,I had the same situation,I don't how to talk to them,how to deal with them,thanks to my kind manager and my efforts,I went through all of this.Now I am familar with such things,say "good morning" to everyone in the morning,focuse on your own business,but when you are free,you can help others.If you have some great jokes or funny things,you can tell others,and make us laugh,coz it is very boring to sit here all the day! Good luck to you,you can observe others,follow what they do at first,as time goes on,you will one of them,trust me!
@adrico (204)
• China
3 Mar 09
thanks smilyqin for your sharing the feelings to me and some other friends who maybe in the same trouble .yeah,i've get in trouble in talking with others when i first come into the office.but now i feel better and more at ease with other .just as you said "i will one of them ".i really trust you . have a nice day !
• China
27 Feb 09
the question is easy to solve,first ,you should know your chraricteristic,if you r too slient ,you should change yourself to become open,and greeting to others on your own,"Everthing is related each other",so if you smile to the others,the other s will be friendsly to you,just try it.hope you well soon
@adrico (204)
• China
2 Mar 09
yeah you're right .everthing is relate each other .to tell u the turth my character is a little slient .but i sure i will make myself more open.evermoring i just said to myslfe before the shadow 'don't be shy .you can have a good friendship in the workplace ' now i just find my character is really changing everyday. everyday is really nice. wish you have a happy life
@Alien2 (5)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Well if you are in a job were you have trouble talking to people yet communication is something that is necessary I suggest these few Tips. 1. If your having trouble talking to your superiors try to schedule an hour or two when you and said person have time off to go and have lunch to get to know them better. 2. If you feel that your co workers and yourself aren't communicating enough and that more communication would benefit the working environment try to Email a superior in charge of your Department/Office/Facility with reasons why you feel there is a lack of communication and teamwork with your co workers. And try to suggest team meetings or activities in which communication and teamwork can grow explain how you feel it will benefit the business and I'm sure you will not receive a bad reply. 3. Try to get to know your co workers better invite them over for dinner. Invite them to go Paint Balling, to play Football try to find out your co workers interests and join them in the activities building a better communication between you and your co workers. 4 A very easy step in achieving better communication is to greet your co workers when you get to work and to say good bye when you are leaving. A simple Good Morning John, have a good day today? Compliment your co workers on jobs they did well. Like Hey Tim great job on that Report yesterday. Or Hi Vanessa I like nice shoes your wearing today. If someone does something out of teh ordinary comment them on that and tell them you like it like a new hair cut or something of the sort. That sort of reaching attitude will open up the doors in your workspace. I hope this helps. Sincerely Alex
@adrico (204)
• China
2 Mar 09
Alex thanks a lot for your tips.i am really sorry for my delate reply because of busy work .and i should say these tips really helpful and valube to me .i sure i can benifit a lot from your idea.lol i will invite my co workers tonight to know them better,i really want to invite you to enjoy us . have a nice day