Should I give money to this beggar again?

@tjsally (287)
China
February 28, 2009 8:12am CST
On my way to my office or back to home, i often saw a beggar just like 50 years old. One day when i was waiting for the traffic light, he came and knocked the window of my car, so i give a little money to him, he said thanks and went away. But after several days, i saw him again on this road, "very fortunately" he knocked my window again, this time i ignore him. What's your opinion on this matter, should i give money to this beggar again?
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@1corner (744)
• Canada
28 Feb 09
You know, this situation is always a judgment call for me. I don't always give alms, but it's more due to my inability to give. Plus, I also look at the person asking, if they look like they're able to work, yet are not, I tend to not give. In your case, however, the man's old, did he look mentally stable, frail, or homeless? I probably would, and if time permits (I know you're on the road when he comes over), I'll ask more about him. If you know about some charities/non-profit groups that may be able to aid him, you could help him out that way.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
28 Feb 09
Just wanted to add about an experience a long time ago. I was at a fast food restaurant, and was done with my meal, when this homeless young man, dirty and feet unshod, came in. I had some leftover fries that I planned to take home, but just gave it to him before leaving. If I'd known someone like him would come in, I'd have not finished my meal & drink, and would've just given these to him. He didn't utter a word of thanks, nor looked at me - he was rummaging the garbage bin for leftovers - when we crossed paths. But somehow I thought he was grateful for that. It was definitely one of those times when I wished I had more money to buy him a meal with.
• China
28 Feb 09
Hi, my friend, i think you should not give money to the beggar,maybe he is a cheat, if you give him ,maybe everyday, you stoped there, he will knock your car, and at that time, what do you do? if you ignore him, maybe next time he will not troble you. In these society, there are so many cheat, so we should have the guard heart the hours.
@tjsally (287)
• China
28 Feb 09
Yes, maybe he is a cheat i also think so. Thanks your reminder.
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
If you really wanted to help the poor guy, then report him to social welfare. It's not good to give money on the street to beggars. The best way to help them is to put them in an institution which could help them and shelter them. By the way, it's not safe for him to go in the streets and knock on car windows.
@tjsally (287)
• China
28 Feb 09
en..That's good idea i've ever thought. we should appeal to the society to give them a better arrangement. Thanks your answer.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
it's up to you. but if i were you, i'd give him money. cuz he's a beggar, that's like his job. maybe he can't find work or is not capable of working so what he does for a living is to beg for money. I don't know, but i'll probably give him again, even just a small amount of $$. As long as I have the money to give, why not....
@tjsally (287)
• China
28 Feb 09
i affirmed that you are kindhearted person. Thanks for answer.
• China
2 Mar 09
I never do that eventhough I know we should help people who need help.But do you think ,a man of 50 years old can do some job to earn money instead of begging.Evenmore when you driving, don't do that, it is dangerous for you and also for him.
• China
2 Mar 09
sometime,i agree to your action because i have warm heart to help helpless ,but if you constantly see same beggar to beg on same way,what do you have in your deep heart?maby there is beguilement in your heart.and you should pay attention to your action on your way to drive,you cannot pay your warm heart instead of your traffic policy
• Hong Kong
1 Mar 09
I'll not give him money any money, I'll give money to charity organization instead. If you really want to help him, you should report to the social welfare department.
@jazzsue58 (2672)
1 Mar 09
No! He shouldn't have knocked on the window of your car - that is harrassment and it would have been frightening to many women. By all means give him money again, but NOT if he is actively seeking you out. He could become abusive if, one day, you turn him down again. And it will encourage him to try it on with other women, who could be scared enough to feel they HAVe to comply (as you did) - this would create a negative feeling about street beggars, including those who DON'T employ this blatant money-on-demand tactic.
• India
1 Mar 09
I too often met such beggar on the road but before giving anything to them, i first look at their physical condition if the beggar is out of condition, then i think you should not ignore such beggar, by doing so you are not going to gain anything but you will surely get the blessing of god.
• China
1 Mar 09
Are you in India or China? If I were you, I will ignore him.
• United States
1 Mar 09
i think you did the right thing.but that was nice off you to give some money.i believe when give you recieve.
@StuboCee (59)
28 Feb 09
I would suggest not to give him alot of money because he might not be using the money in the best way. Plus if you give him money he now knows you are kind and will keep expecting money off you, in the odd occassion give him money if you are a nice person, but i think you should try get him help or a carer.
• United States
28 Feb 09
Hi tjsally, for me I would rather to give a foods this beggar than a money co'z if you give money your not sure what he gonna really use for. I remember when i was in our own country I was saw the woman aged between 40's she was carrying her son asking a help to went home so i gave a little money and she was leaving after saying thank to me but when i was leaving also that area i notice there is another woman who replace her asking some help to others so i realize those people are from syndicate people so after that experience i never give money to people or beggar asking me a help. Instead i always put a candy or biscuit at my purse to give someone asking me a some money.
• United States
28 Feb 09
Follow your own heart. You have seen this man and know what you thought and felt when he knocked on your window. It is hard for someone who hasnt been there to know what to do. We had this happen to us in Detroit, except it was a younger man and we thought he was collecting money for veterans, until he came back an hour later for more money! We were in a big truck waiting to be unloaded.
• India
28 Feb 09
i cant say that man... i mean giving or not giving is entirely upto u... and I wud agree that if u do, may be he stucks up for u after then.... infact in my view, begging is an evil.... born by people like me and u.... u know, full of pity for human kind... and trying to helpful... i have realised that by no means we can help a begger by giving him some money or something.... if a person is realy in need i prefer to help him, rather than proving this to myself that I have done my job towards society by providing him some cash!!! i m sorry if that offends u... but that was my view...
@erskine (72)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
whenever i experience the same thing, i try to assess the capability of the baggar to earn some other way... if it seems that he's physically capable, i would never give him a single cent. after watching slumdog millionaire, some blind people may have only been a victim of some syndicate to earn more as a blind beggar compared to a regular one
@genterx (110)
• Mexico
28 Feb 09
Id say do not give him money , but then again if you do he might ask you again I would suggest that you do what feels right.
• United States
28 Feb 09
I see this woman everyday begging money. Now this woman can legally beg money daily. Nothing can be done to her or that man. I say leave him to his self and move on. These people have more cash then you and I do.
• Indonesia
28 Feb 09
Its okay giving money to a beggar, if he is truly not capable to do any other works. If he can, then remember this "You give a man a fish, you will feed hgim for a day, you teach a man how to fish, you will feed him for his whole lifetime" (I forget who say this, but this is a great quote :D)
• India
28 Feb 09
what i feel is beggars get the habit of begging only because of people encouraging them by giving money, if that person is really physically challenged or cant able to do anything then, that can be certainly considered, but when a person is well and if we feel that they can do any work, i dont recommend giving money to them, it becomes a habit to them, in my city i even heard of women renting small kids to beg, they stand before you saying that the small kid wants milk etc. These women also can work and can live their life themselves, i dont like giving to such kind of people who are fit and fine and can earn by doing some work what ever age they may be unless very old or crippled.