How do people treat you when ...?
March 1, 2009 11:07am CST
a) you are all made up, have a nice dress on and generally look like you have money to spend? b) you look as simple as you do when you are at home? I observe that there are people (especially salesladies, cashiers and security guards) who can be really rude when others they encounter seem to look as if they have no money or anything to offer of themselves. I have had experiences when I am all dressed up and been called "Ma'am" with utmost respect and was given deference by service people. Salesclerks would even run to get an item I request to see with the confident look that "This customer is a buyer!" BUT! I also had experiences when I mistakenly left the house in simple jeans and a shirt with my hair in a ponytail and encounter service people won't even answer my questions politely! How weird (and judgmental) can some people be???? How about you? Any experiences like mine?
1 Mar 09
Oh yes! And it is true. Happens everywhere. When I was living in the Netherlands, I was working in construction. Building houses and such. I was so proud of myself, I did not mind that people could see I have a job. Sure it is a mans job, but I had a dissent job. I did not worry about my looks and lots of times I would go through the mall to get grocery's with my work close on. Other times I had my old jeans on and a t-shirt. Who cares as long as it's clean. That is my meaning. But then I saw this nice store with a clearance sale. A womens store! I thought it would be nice to change my image back to a women once again. I did, I bought nice close and suits, it was a different me. So, one day I walk into the shoe store for new shoes, can't wear sneakers under a good pair of slakes.lol! I am in the store looking around, and this salesman says :" Good morning madam, can I help you?" Believe me, I had been walking around so long in my old cloths and work close, no one ever said that to me. I did not even expect him to talk to me. Normally they look at me as if I want to steal something , but other than that... I heard him, and looked to see who was standing behind me. There was no one there, does that mean he was talking to me? He said it again, and I was stunned. Then I started experimenting with my cloths and the stores. Conclusion: "Definitely people look at the outside." They don't even consider to look at you on the inside. It is the outside they go on. Is'nt that sad? With nice close on they are so polite, and otherwise you are a nobody. Positive thing is, when I like to be left alone, I put on my old cloths, lol. No one bothers me. Take care.
2 Mar 09
Thanks for sharing your story! I'm not sure how to react because, in a way, there's a part that sounded ironically funny (not funny ha-ha but funny-weird) and yet some of what you said did make me sad. But yeah, when we don't want to be bothered, it's nice to dress in more simple clothes so we can appear more inconspicuous :p