Had to ask my mom for money

@seabeauty (1480)
United States
March 1, 2009 4:15pm CST
I didn't want to ask her but I am desperate. My ex husband is supposed to give me money for the non food items like toilet paper, paper towels, napkins, tootpaste etc. since the food stamps I receive only covers the food items. Well he didn't give me any cash this month so I had to ask her. I am not working at the moment so I am broke. I feel bad as I should be taking care of her not the other way around. So did anyone ever have to ask a friend or relative for money and how did that turn out? My mom said she could give me 30 bucks. She is going to send Western Union on the 3rd when she gets her social security check.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
2 Mar 09
I've always found that a real irony about food stamps. I'm on food stamps as well, and while I'm grateful for them as I'm on SSI benefits also, it would be great if they could extend the food stamps for taxable items that are necessaries also, such as toilet paper, toothpaste, soap. Most of my friends are also on benefits and squeaking by, so I could never ask them for money, nor do I have any family now as both my grandmother and mother are deceased, so I'm on my own. The only way I supplement my money which helps out is by writing a lot of articles for different places like Associated Content--it really helps there
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
2 Mar 09
I wish they would extend the food stamps for that reason also. I wonder about the food stamps plus cash option at the checkout. Did you ever notice it? When you use the food stamp card to purchase your food the card machine gives you two options EBT and EBT plus cash. I wander what that plus cash means. does it mean paying by cash and EBT card?
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
2 Mar 09
I do get the "cash" amount too, but just once a year. It's related to HEAP which is our program here for people on low incomes and connected to heating costs, with the idea that maybe you use it for paying the heating bill with it. Like I said I only get it once a year...usually about $50.00---so that is long gone
@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
1 Mar 09
This is a very tough time for everyone, especially those who were not doing well to begin with. Do you have children and if so, is he paying support for them? Do you do surveys and stuff for money? I do very well with those. I know it's hard to find a job but my dentist gave me a website called "simply hired dot com" I didn't put the dot in because it might be mistaken for a forbidden link. I found a couple job there that weren't in the paper and will apply for them tomorrow. Also, go to http://clarkhoward.com/liveweb/shownotes/2009/02/16/15131/ and he has a few places listed there where you can legitimately earn money online. Clark Howard is a very well respected financial adviser and he never posts anything that will cost people money or rip them off.
@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
2 Mar 09
You call your state's family services department and let them know he's not paying. It's not right for him to skip out on his children, I don't care what his circumstances are-they should come first! I hope you'll report him and get your back child support, or at least compel him to begin paying.
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
1 Mar 09
I know how it is to be broke. I am so poor I cannot afford to feed myself. I work on a farm and only get an allowance. I hope my plants bear fruit soon so I can harvest them and make some money. Cheers!!
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
1 Mar 09
Wow that is sad. I hope they bear fruit as well very soon so you don't starve. Good luck to you and thanks for responding.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
1 Mar 09
yes i would rather ask than to steal. when i was trying to start a new life with me and my four children away from my husband..... i need financial help so i ask my mom too if she can help me out. just like what you did. my mom also is getting money from social security, and i know she needs that too. but thank God all of that was over.... i may not be helping her with finances but atleast i am no longer asking her for money help.
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
1 Mar 09
I hope I don't have to get to a point of stealing. I am glad that at least one person can help me out somewhat. Things are tough everywhere unfortunately.
@cher913 (25891)
• Canada
2 Mar 09
that is tough and no doubt you are not the only one asking relatives for money. the economy is in such a way that many people that have problems as you. i have asked my parents for money before as well (when hubby was out of a job) things are slightly better now, but still not great.
@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
2 Mar 09
Well there is nothing wrong if your mum helps you if you really need the money to survive. I now that is is difficult to ask family for help, but money is needed for essential things. hope you will find a job soon so you may solve your finiancial problems.
@emilie2300 (1892)
• United States
2 Mar 09
Yes I had to ask Relatives to borrow money before. I borrowed from my brother in the past. I just recenly borrowed from my mom to get our car fixed. It is embarrading sometime to ask. but times are rough and there not getting better. I think she understands that but its just something I just cant keep doing. This is the most I 've ever borrowed so it was hard to ask.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
2 Mar 09
Its really sad to ask your mom for the money at this stage. As you correctly mentioned that its time when we should support them rather than asking for the same. You can look forward to other earning options like freelance assignments, online earning sites etc.
@sarahong (93)
• China
2 Mar 09
dear seabeauty, I hope you will be ok. maybe you feel embarrassed to ask your mom for money ,but i think your mom will understand ,you can use the money to past the tough time ,then you can pay back the money as soon as possible! Good luck to you !~
@scheng1 (24800)
• Singapore
2 Mar 09
Dear Seabeauty, I understand the guilt you felt on asking your mummy for money. When I was working and studying at the same time, my income and savings were not enough to pay for the degree course. My mum offered to help, she wanted to give me money. It's really very embarrassing. So we came to a compromise, she would loan the money to me instead of giving it to me. Even then, I felt bad about it. Hopefully a day will come when we all start to worry about too much money.