Has "I love you" lost it's meaning?

@cyberfluf (5005)
Netherlands
March 1, 2009 5:26pm CST
Have you come to the point in your relationship where saying "I love you" has kind of gotten stuck in the routine and doesn't mean that much anymore? The more you hear it, the bigger the chance you take it for granted. How to prevent the "I love you" sentence from getting boring: 1. Never use it in a hurry, it doesn't sound true when said in a rush. Allways take your time for these things, or don't. 2. Be creative, use other words and sentences to show your love. 3. You don't allways need to speak to show you care, small attentions and body language speak aswell. 4. Theres a lot in a kiss or a hug, taking time for a good kiss or nice hug says I love you like nothing else. Off course you can also try these at your own risk...: 1. Try spelling it backwards, it will at least attract some attention! 2. Say I love you in twenty different languages within less than a minute 3. Make an anagram of the words "I love you' onto a cake and have them put them back together, if the cake crumbles they lose! 4. Fake being angry whole day long, heck will they appreciate hearing something nice for a change at the end of the day...! Let's hear some good tips or some panda spanking goodness; every crazy tip is welcome (after all we are all crazy on love aren't we?) .
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10 responses
• United States
2 Mar 09
I've never found that I tire of hearing it or saying it. My husband and I say it quite a bit to each other through out the day. Perhaps because we know that we cannot predict our time as we don't live in the past or in the future but in the present, so when we say it it's not boring because it is new for the present moment. Namaste-Anora
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
2 Mar 09
Living in the present is important. If you are living in the past or are just heading for the future, you will only tire your own mind with things that are not worth your bothering. It's good to hear that the words 'i love you' haven't lost the meaning for you and your husband. I wish you both the best, have a great day .
• United States
3 Mar 09
Thank you Cyber. I wish you all the best in life as well. Namaste-Anora
@amrith (291)
• India
2 Mar 09
I love you the most sought out word a lover tells has lost its value now adays people are becomming more and more in sensitive here and there they use that word and to any one oin the spur of a moment We should find out some ther words to utter to yourtruely loved ones very special words any one ?New words or phases you can use ?
@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
2 Mar 09
Somehow me and my boyfriend came up with the name 'kitty' for each other, don't ask why... it's over 5 years ago and I haven't a clue how we started it in the first place. I guess it has something to do with our love for cats and cuddling up to each other. I never use it for another person, so it is special and something that's just for us. That says I love you aswell, having a special sweet name for your lover.
@amrith (291)
• India
2 Mar 09
It is dome thing innovative and special any way your loved one is most special in your life give and receive that speciality
@jesssp (2743)
• Canada
3 Mar 09
I got a real wake up call as to how much the word had lost it's meaning when I was with my ex boyfriend. We had broken up but still lived in the same house for a few more weeks, we were still on friendly terms. I wanted him to do something for me, probably go into the other room and get me something, and I said please, he said no then I said "pleeeeease, I'll love you forever!'. It was just kind of an automatic reaction. He just looked at me and said 'uh, no you wont'. That really struck me as a terrible thing for me to say. I agree, it's important to not let that word become automatic and taken for granted.
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
3 Mar 09
That's exactly what I am referring to, thank you so much for sharing tihs jesssp. I think it's something that happens to all of us sometime. We can only try to be more aware of it, and like other people have said, back up our words with relevant actions to put more thought into our words and empower them. Thank you for responding.
@1hopefulman (17605)
• Canada
2 Mar 09
It hasn't lost any meaning for me, as long as it's backed by actions that also show that the words have meaning. How about writing I love you on little cards and putting the cards in all the pockets.
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
3 Mar 09
It sounds like a sweet action to me, 1hopefulman. When you back up your words with actions they become more powerfull indeed. I think that's a good way to look at it and to go around it. Thank you for a good response and have a great day.
• United States
2 Mar 09
i think it has lost it's meaning beacuse after one date or two people are now saying i love you . just to get into somones pants. i dont think those words should be used lightlly.
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
3 Mar 09
Very much agreed, Brandy! You shouldn't just throw these words around, or they will indeed lose their meaning. I remember I had been together for over a year with my boyfriend when I said to him: "I am sorry, I no longer have a crush on you..." He looked at me, wondering where I was going with this "... I think I have grown to love you!" Yeah, I know I am a bit of a tease and luckily he knows that. We should save these words for later on and I am glad I did. Thanks for another new insight in this topic, have a great day!
@Krisneil (577)
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
Yeah Im with this situation,, Im afraid to wake up in the morning to break the routine of my life. Getting with a person that you dont love is really suck but Im too scared to left her since we have been for four years..
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
2 Mar 09
I am very sorry to hear this, Krisneil. If you really do like her, but don't love her anymore, the best thing would be to be honest. She deserves that. I know saying so is a lot more easy for me than you actually doing so. You have a routine that you are used to and breaking through that cycle is hard; but being unhappy is not worth it. Eventually you could call this cheating as you are not letting her go to get the love she and you both deserve, she thinks everything is ok. I wish you the best of luck, this is a very touch thing indeed. All the best!
• Philippines
2 Mar 09
I love you is just a words now a days, dont have really meaning..I go for actions rather than words.
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
2 Mar 09
That sounds fair to me. Like I said in the first counter response of this discussions actions take more time and effort and are harder to fake. Therefor a lot of people appreciate them more than some simple words. I don't think you need huge actions to show your love daily, but doing so every once in a while can be a good thing in a relationship. Thanks for your response!
@justpjteb (183)
• United States
1 Mar 09
Something I have recently done for my gf to show her how much she means to me with using something alittle more powerful than words is using a item that we got on a date and gave it to her. I am a little of a junk collector, sometimes hang on to stuff that most people dont. So we went out to the movies for are first date and I had kept a ticket from the date. So I went to the store got some poster board and cut it down to a card size. I used stencils to right YOU R Amazing on the front, and inside on the one side wrote a little note and on the other side I taped the ticket on it and wrote Our First Date! Its something little but shows the feelings.
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
2 Mar 09
I think that's wonderfull! You have really hit the spot on what I was looking for in a response. Showing these little affections, taking a little time and effort for each other; that shows that you love each other. I once made a cross stitch of Snoopy from peanuts for my bf with our names written below it and a heart inbetween the names. We both allways save our tickets from musicals and shows (we both have them on our desk). I am thinking of making some kind of collage with them. Thanks for the great response!
• United States
1 Mar 09
yes i think the words i love you have lost their meaning. everyone just throws the words around any more. saying it doesn't mean anything to me. i watch and see the actions. that is what makes it real for me. anyone can say i love you. not everyone has the actions to go with it.
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
2 Mar 09
I think you have made a valid point here. A lot of people use the words I love you without even thinking twice about the meaning. Actions are more rare and there has been put more thought in to them most of the time. I think actions are harder to fake aswell.
@Paarl20 (20)
• South Africa
2 Mar 09
Yes somewhat, all because people are going into relationships for the wrong reasons, thus you cant serious mean it when you are always with the wrong people.
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