Cyberbegging, anyone?

United States
March 2, 2009 10:04pm CST
Okay, I think I have hit rock bottom. In the last month-and-a-half, I have been turned into a jobless, homeless, single mother of 3...with another due to be born in about 4 weeks. Due to stupid actions, my kids' father has been taken away from us indefinitely. I lost my job, and noone will hire a woman as pregnant as I am. Believe me...I have been pounding the pavement looking for work!!! (That's how I found myLot) The water pipes froze in our house, and completely flooded it, which ruined all of the floors. (We had been gone for 2 days for a doctor's appointment out-of-town.) So, I have no job, no money, and no home (the floors aren't safe for us to walk on). The kids and I have been staying with my parents, which is NOT working out. We need help. My kids need a stable home. So, I decided to do something that I never thought I would ever do. I will ask for money. Have any of you ever tried this method? What were your results? And if you really want to help us, check out my website on my profile page. God Bless.
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11 responses
3 Mar 09
Sorry to hear about your situation. I have never heard of Cyberbegging before! I checked out your profile and noticed you made a discussion about lap tops and you said you just spent $800 on a new lap top!!! I don't think you should be asking for money when you just spent $800 on a new lap top. I also noticed that your first response to this discussion you said you didn't want to be lectured! I thought that was quite rude considering people who answer your discussion help you get money! I don't want you to get annoyed about my response but I just wanted to point out that when asking for money you shouldn't be spending $800 on a lap top. I wanted to help out and donate on your website but when I saw you spent $800 on a new lap top I changed my mind as I can't even afford to buy a new lap top and how would people know what you will spend the money on?
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• United States
4 Mar 09
The laptop was not bought for me by me. It was bought for me by my father for school. After I posted that discussion, I boxed it back up and gave it back to him. I am not annoyed by your response, I perfectly understand the miscommunication. And no, I did not get money for the laptop, either. He charged it to his credit card, and it was promptly removed from the credit card once he returned it to the store. I understand that you can't afford to spend that much on a laptop. Who can?? I use a second-hand desktop, which I am quite happy with I might add. When I said that I didn't want to be lectured, it was because a nerve was hit when my choice of having children was criticized. Lecture me about money all you want. I don't have anything left to sell except for my car....which I am trying to do right now. What would I spend the money on?? I just found a 1972 single-wide trailer for sale for $2500. (I have saved about $1500 of it) My kids need a home, and I intend to provide one for them. As soon as this baby is born, I will get a job. I've been trying for over a month, but when I go into an interview, the interviewer immediately looks down to my stomach. So, I just have to wait a few more weeks. No matter what, I refuse to give up. I am not now nor have I ever been someone who is able to sit on my duff and let someone else take care of me. I also would not lie about my situation. I have been thinking about the whole begging thing, and to tell you the truth, I don't really like the sound of it. At first it sounded interesting. But the more I think about it, the more it makes me think of someone who stands at the intersections with a cardboard sign. But thank you for your constructive criticism. I just wanted to clarify the fact that NO, I was not the one who blew that much money on a useless piece of plastic.
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4 Mar 09
Ok fair enough! I was just confused when I saw your other discussion. I actually admire you for doing something about your situation and I really hope things work out for you which I'm sure it will as it sounds like your a wonderful Mum who really cares about your children. Thanks for your response back and I wish you all the best:)
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
Moore that's good that you can find other ways to solve the problem than cyberbegging. I respect you a lot for that because you want to stretch your brawn and work hard. Kudos to you.
• United States
3 Mar 09
I have heard plenty from people looking for ways to make money online, but this might be the first, just ask for it out right. I am not sure of the results that you are going to get. I am unsure that anybody is willing to just give to someone that they dont know. I would recommend different money making sites to you, but you really dont have the time to earn right now. My advice is for you to look toward the public assistance programs in your area. They maybe able to help you. I am sorry that I can not and you are in my prayers. God Bless!!!
• United States
3 Mar 09
LOL, I had never heard of it either. But you have to admit, at least it is honest. No scam involved. No promises made. I don't know if anyone would be willing to do this or not either. I was just wondering if anyone had had any dealings with this kind of thing.
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• United States
3 Mar 09
You know what, I'm not even going to say that it's your fault, deal with it or anything even remotely close to that because we all have gone through things like this before...we are going through it now. What I will say is, stick in there. I know it's hard and I know this is something very serious. Those employers can NOT reject you just because you are pregnant. I was 5 months pregnant when I got a job at a gas station and he had told me that no employer can turn you away just because you are pregnant. My only advice is, just keep looking online for scam free jobs. Or, go do something part-time...waiting tables (what I am about to do), work at a gas station (explain your situation) or even ask family for a little bit to get you by. Even though living at your parents may be hard and stressful, it may help in a big way. At least your kids will get fed each night and once you have the baby, you can go back to work full-time. I really am deeply and truly sorry for your situation and I pray that you get through this with flying colors. God Bless You and your family!
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• United States
4 Mar 09
Thank you. Sometimes it feels as though I am all alone in the world. I know that with the economy like it is, I am not. But it still helps to hear that there are others out there who are going or have gone through the same thing and have worked their way out of it. I will keep trudging through the mud. God will be with us. God Bless.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
3 Mar 09
I think other people have tried this - there's the saveleighann website, etc. The only thing is that often when these things come out, they are a novelty, so people donate just because they find it new, interesting, or I don't know what. there are quite a few ways to make money online, but they are each kind of small. I think the trick will be to keep trying different things until you find a couple that work for you.
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@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
3 Mar 09
l felt very sad to hear all those things ever happened to a single mother. lf l were near, l wish l could helped you up a bit. One of my aunts, just turned single mother recently, after her husband left her. l tried my best to help support her, whenever l have some extras. Luckily, she only have one son. So, she do some part-time jobs to make her life goes on..
@koalatbs (2230)
• United States
3 Mar 09
Hi rmorefield - I feel so bad hon. I wish I could help too. I have been out of work for about a year & a half due to medical problems and just started working part-time at home in January. It is probably something you could do too so I'll send you a private message to tell you about it. You must be really overwhelmed. You take care & keep your head up. Try to keep smiling for the kid's sake. Jill
• United States
4 Mar 09
I hope everything is going well for you and that you are healthy now. I would really appreciate any suggestions you may have. As for my kids, they will never know just how bad it is. I have to keep my head up for them. Thank you.
@koalatbs (2230)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I see you accepted my friend request so I'll go ahead & send you a PM in a few minutes about it. I'll tell you the job I'm doing plus, if you'd like, some of the other online programs I'm in. Unfortunately though, none of them will produce immediate money but hopefully they will help out. Jill
@carolscash (9500)
• United States
3 Mar 09
I have been a single parent and it is not an easy job,but you have to stop feeling sorry for yourself and decide to make a life for those kids. Don't worry about Dad or anyone else- just you and those kids. Do you have any way of someone helping you to fix the floors in the house. They should not be ruined in the way that you are thinking. I can't give you money as I don't have it to give as I am busy trying to keep our family afloat as my husband is not working. However, I hope this works out for you and please keep us posted as to how you are doing.
• United States
4 Mar 09
It's not that I really feel sorry for myself. I am panicking. I have never not had a job, and I have never not had a home for my children. Unfortunately, my family is in construction, and it will cost about $14,000 to fix my house. And it doesn't even belong to me. It belongs to my brother-in-law, who wouldn't care if the place fell down to the ground. So, I really don't want to put the money (if I had it) into fixing the place. The floors are completely rotted through, and there is mold growing. Not a pleasant situation. But it's ok. I understand completely about not having any money. I hope your husband finds work soon. I know a lot of people who have lost their jobs recently. It seems as though everyone is looking for a job. I will definitely keep you posted as to our situation. You do the same. God Bless.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
3 Mar 09
I[i] have not tried that but in my Country, some people will approach politicians for help and some will be helped! I hope you will be able to find help or find a job in your neighborhood![/i]
• United States
4 Mar 09
I am fighting with Social Services right now. I applied for Medicaid seven months ago. They are still trying to get the paperwork straight. They lost hald of my first application, and didn't bother calling me to let me know that they didn't have what they needed. Now, they need a wage verification form from my ex-boss. I spent a month almost trying to get her to fill it out. Now, they are trying. She just wants to be a (*&%^. It took me two weeks to get my last paycheck from her. I had to threaten to call the Labor Board on her. So, because of this, everything is on stand-still. But while I am waiting for some kind of help, I am still pounding the pavement in my search for work. I know they can't refuse to hire me because I'm pregnanyt. They always give me some other excuse such as someone else with more experience applied, or that they needed someone for different hours than I am available. Most of the time, they just don't call me back. And when I call them, they put me through to voice mail. But everything is fine until the face-to-face interview when they blatantly look down at my stomach. Oh well. A few more weeks and maybe I will be able to find something. I don't even care if it's waiting tables or flipping burgers. I'll do anything.
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
i am really sorry, rmorefield, that as of this time, i cannot think of anyway to be of help to you. it won't help either if i'd tell you that you should have considered having two kids only and nothing more. this is because the fourth one is already in the offing. by the way, can't the father of your children give you any financial support? i understand how difficult your situation is right now. i used to resolve to bring forth only two kids of my own. but a third one came. since i am a single mother, i really found it very hard seeing them three grow up. my husband is a very irresponsible guy. this is the reason for all my sufferings while dealing with day to day life looking after my kids. however, by now, they are all grown ups. thanks be to God, i was able to see them through.
• United States
3 Mar 09
First of all, there was no problem with me having children. We had two and decided to have a third. I was on the Depo shot when I found out that it didn't work and the fourth was on the way. God wanted me to have a fourth child, I'm having a fourth child. The father of my children can't give any financial support because he is no longer with us. The only thing I asked is if anyone out there has ever tried asking for help. I didn't want to be lectured. But thank you all the same.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Well, I can give you a little advice if you want it. First off, the minute MyLot finds this discussion, it'll be deleted...it's against TOS to ask for money. As to your current problem, I'd suggest you contact your local DFS (Family Services) office. They can help you find a place for you and your kids, help you with foodstamps/wic and help you find a job. Also your local churches can help you out. You might also talk to your local churches and see if they can help set up a work day for members of the church to help with repairing your floors at least to make them safe. Your farther ahead to go through your local resources then to try to get money online. Not only that but your local resources will know right away what you need where ppl online usually have trust issues when it comes to just giving ppl money. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
I think a more respectable term would be donations. Blog owners usually do this for a project or two, a donation of say $ 1 or more are posted in their blogs through a widget. But blogger.com blogs are now ( I think) prohibiting their bloggers from "begging", I don't know about wordpress.com. But the present economic recession may have everyone looking for help, so donations may not be a good option. I'm sure, there are several non government or even government institutions who could help you out in your locality. You can try, there is no harm in trying. good luck.