Have you ever asked by your husband or boyfriend if you are virgin?

Philippines
March 3, 2009 2:31am CST
Have you ever asked by your husband or bf if you are a virgin? I mean if you make love to your husband is there a situation that he asked you if he was your first time? What did you say? Are you not afraid to tell the truth? Before my husband always asked me this question and i am afraid to answer that his not my fist and I don't know why..
6 responses
@rakittera (803)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
Personally, I think it is impolite to ask a woman such question. And for a guy to ask that question, it can only mean that virginity matters that much to him. Can I just ask, did he ask this before you got married? Coz if he did, I believe you should have been honest with him before you got married. But if you lied to him the first time, then it would not be so hard to lie the next time. If it was me, I would never marry a guy who would only marry me for my virginity. He should love me for who I am not for what I can offer him, like virginity. Virginity is such a big deal for some Filipino men and I don't get it. I mean, we don't ask them if they're virgins, right? If my husband asked me if I was a virgin, I would tell him the truth. His reaction will tell me what kind of man he is.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
3 Mar 09
I agree with many of the things which you have told. It is not fair for a man to ask to a woman, but I still believe that virginity is important. I may be a kind of Filipino woman. No offenses lady. Happy mylotting.
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
Thanks for your opinion you just have said it very well. He asked me before we got married and i don't know what's with me that I am afraid to tell the truth so I decided to tell a lie.
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
can I just ask, why are you asking this question now? Is your husband asking you again? Or are you just guilty you lied? If you plan to tell him the truth, then be very ready for his reaction. I believe the truth will set you free. But it's up to your husband if he can handle the truth. good luck, sis!
@daliaj (5689)
• India
3 Mar 09
Good question. My husband has never asked this to me. I think one reason behind it is he knows that I was a virgin till our marriage. Do you think it is right way to ask that question? When your husband asked you, why didn't you ask him the same question.
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
He always asked me that question and I always tell him that he was my first even if he was not. and then I will also asked him the same question and he will answer the same answer but I feel that he was also lying.
@ryaj21 (209)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
i think it is his right to know...because he is your husband...why not tell the truth...nobody is perfect right...so anyone commit mistakes..dont be afraid...
• United States
3 Mar 09
I told him to the truth. He wasn't my first, I prefer to be honest with him. I always find it makes me feel better to tell him the truth and know that's it's the truth. If he doesn't want the truth he shouldn't ask, that's how I see it.
@lola1991 (45)
• China
3 Mar 09
Unfortunately,I haven't a boyfriend yet.But I've heard about boy's idea of virgin.Every boy all want to his girlfriend is perfect and chaste,they are get angry when he knows the girl ins't a vigin,so he'll think she's profligate,what's more,he thinks she play a trick to him,she's a bad girl!! Boys all don't know,girl is harmless,although she lost her body,and right know,real lover don't understand.....why the girl has to pay for their mistake without carefully,and the boy,he got the girl's body,and finally,he's not valuing her,it's so unfair! I know boys all care of that,but if you really love her,why do you hurt her heart?she doesn't has body,and you're mean a world for her.
• China
3 Mar 09
i think as long as you two have married, it should not be important to your husband.i mean he choose you ,choose to marry,then he should accept your present,not your past. if he always asked you,you can tell him this.while if he actully want to know the truth,i think you should tell him the truth.in our China,men also mind if you are a virgin.but i think if the man really love the woman,he would not mind this.