Will a broken heart ever heal???

South Africa
March 3, 2009 1:21pm CST
I was engaged to be married.Everything was ok,or so I thought.My fiance was supposed to join me after I have been in ill for 5 months.He told me he missed me and loved me and then one day I called to find out why he was taking his time in joining me,he told me it is over and he cannot live with me anymore.He did this over the phone.I flew halfway across the world to be with him and he let me down. Will a heart broken like that ever heal.It has been 1 year since the breakup and I am still devestated.I hate him one minute and the next I love him, will it ever get better?
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8 responses
• United States
9 Mar 09
Ok im sure youve heard this a time or two, but time does heal all. How ever i can say from personal experiance that only you have the power to begin to heal. A really good man told me something that changed thoughts. He said "I dont see what is wrong. If they left as easily as that then you where never really to gather in the first place. So there wasnt any thing to loose." It took me along time to understand that, but now i understand. I do understand your pain. just remember you are the only thing that matters, and make yourself happy. It does get better i promise.
• South Africa
18 Mar 09
Thanks for the words of wisdom,I just wish time would hurrry up so I can heal and move on.:)
@kaven08 (84)
• United States
3 Mar 09
I know it hurts, but the good news is it will heal. Eventually. Just have faith. He broke up with you. Remember that. You did nothing wrong. Remember that. You deserve much better than that. I wish the best to you. If you ever need to talk, PM me.
• South Africa
3 Mar 09
Thanks a lot,that is sound advice.
• Malaysia
1 Aug 10
A broken heart is like a lollipop. It gradually dissolves but the taste is always remains in your mouth. Broken hearts will never go away it will always be in your memory. One day a heart will heal but that day may not be today or tomorrow or even a year from now. For some it many never heal depending on the severity. For others it may last as long. I think it totally relies on the person and the situation at hand.
@sambilay (175)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
you are really hurt i think. but if you are really for each other, then it will and there shall be a time that you will meet and be together. but as in your situation, do not let that test to stop moving on. there are still good happenings that are beyond tragedies.so move on, live life. life is great even sometimes hurt.
• India
16 Mar 09
Yes, I think everything will be fine with time.Time is the best healer,and I have seen it many times happening with people around me. Don't worry, try to focus your mind to work and study,and things will heal on it's own.
@oxtihama (93)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
You don't have to worry about it my dear, i know that you have the looks even if it is not being stated here.. You cannot resist your hurt feeling as now because it is not that easy to forget someone quikly specially when your relationship become intimate as it is and you feel like becoming stronger after years that you've been together.. I understand your situation because i often those stories same as yours from my friends, but believe me, you can recover to that certain feeling that you feel right now.. Just control yourself and wait for the time that you can be totally fixed w/ somebody who will soon comes for you, just wait for the right person that will heal you w/ that broken heart of yours. goodluck!! happy mylotting..
• India
3 Mar 09
Yes anything in human relationships is not worthy of brooding over as per the great philosopher Plato. So we have to stay positive and everything can be healed.
@knyn23 (71)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
wow. engaged? oh, that's really hard, and harsh that he left you. of course you'd be better, you learnd your lesson ayt? maybe it's still too early for you. just forget about him, move on. just focus more on your career. and someday, you'll find the right person.