If love is not a sin, why can't we love two people at the same time?

Philippines
March 3, 2009 11:22pm CST
Have you ever asked yourself why is it that when we love, we love only "one"? What is your response to this guys. Hoping for your replies then. thanks
17 responses
@hershiez (464)
4 Mar 09
Hello there, sweet_mom! ^_^ Love is not just for couples. You can share it to all. In a relationship, if you do love two persons at the same time, love is already a sin. It is considered cheating. And remember, "The wheel of karma is run only by our sin c0mmitment." Happy mylotting! ^_^
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
thanks for the reply dear. But i think you can say that because of our human LAWS only...cheating? cheating if you are being dishonest to your partner, but what if you are aware of it, is it still "cheating"? you just love the person anyway. How bout to other religion (not to mention) so you're telling me they are more sinful than us?hehehehehe tough question isn't it?
@modstar (9610)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Sweet, what if you tell the guys you love that you love another. How do you think they will react? That's cheating exposed. Keeping it to yourself is just cheating yourself.
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
modstar thanks for your comment. But i would like to ask, for you what's the meaning of cheating? Don't you think its cheating when you tell the truth to your guy that you love another person? I didn't say "I love you less than the other or I'm falling out of love because of the other". I love them both. In that case, don't you think it's cheating? See the other side ( other religion) so you're telling me they're more sinful than us? I'm just being open to other point of views. After effect when i told the guy I love another guy? If he reacted angrily, I may find him selfish then. Instead if I were the guy, I find it trusting. it's a nice feeling when someone confesses you. I don't think it's cheating unless you acted differently after you've told him that you have another guy. In our human laws, it's really breaking all the rules, and that's only for legal case. Love is not jealous or selfish right? =) Have a nice day!
@daliaj (5686)
• India
4 Mar 09
Lol. This is a nice statement. Dear, you can evern love more than two at the same time, but the type of love should vary, otherwise you will suffer some after effects. Lol. I like this topic. :-) Have a nice day.
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
hehehe I just find it interesting too because right now, I fall in love with this two guys. In short, I'm referring to a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. We all know that it's not a sin to love especially loving your enemies but what if not? I don't find it wrong unless i'm only playing with my feelings, but it's not, i really love them both. that's why! thanks for the reply =)
@daliaj (5686)
• India
4 Mar 09
Oh.. I was not aware of your situation. I just tooked at your discussion from a fun point of view.I don't know what to say in your case..... I will say.... choose the one you like most...but, loving is not a sin.
@radzlee (77)
• Malaysia
6 Mar 09
Hi As we all know,love is blind. Ofcause LOVE is not a sin. But when person have two people to love, they must be honest and be fair to both of them. so good luck :)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
I agree with you...thanks for the comment my dear!
@parthu28 (498)
• India
4 Mar 09
love is never a sin.. its rather a blessing. loving two at a time is fine. u do love two friends at a time and even more mostly. but this boyfriend / girlfriend relation ship, ii confess i wouldn't approve of it. not that it is sin or not allowed r allowed in religion, but i feel in such a relationship you game on two you r playing with both of them and more over your own feelings. and i feel you when you love one you can give it fully whole heatedly to a single person. love is not a piece of bread to share between as many as you want its the sweetest feeling which you cherish only when there is one destination. i know it is very rightful to ask why you cant love tow, i am sure no one out there can surely tell you a reason why you shouldn't , n there is nothing really as such shouldn't, yet as i feel very strongly it is some thing you cherish when you give it to one and only one person. atleast when it comes to love you dont wist to be shared with some one else seeming as important as you . and i am sure that would lead to a kind of insecurity among not only those two but all the three... sorry if i offend any one out there i dint really intend to
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
Thank you for your response. I like it. But I just get hurt when someone commented "NONSENSE" in that simple question, i don't find it nonsense. Sometimes we thought of things that we used to and we considered it as repetitive or common sense as what they say, but NO! In every little way we have different points of views right? That's why I raised this discussion for me to know or get some info of other views. That's all. I don't mean somebody, just voice out your feelings with this simple yet very confusing question. I have my point, others have point, there's no right or wrong answers here anyway! Thanks for sharing.. Sorry if I share my pain with you dear. just want to express myself to someone who told me "NONSENSE".
@Galena (9123)
4 Mar 09
that makes no sense. love is not a sin. love is the most beautiful force in the universe. loving only one person doesn't make it sinful.
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
Hey dear thanks for your reply. I didn't say loving only one person doesn't make ii sinful. My discussion is this, if love is not a sin, why can't we love two people at the same time. That's it! hahahaha sorry for that! But anyway, it makes sense to you now cause you've replied to my discussion. I just want to get more info or points of views from other users. There's no right or wrong answers to this girl! Have a nice day!
@tjsally (287)
• China
4 Mar 09
That's an interesting question. In my view, we should consider this problem on the other side. On my side, maybe you could love two person at the same time, well, then, the person you loved also love two persons at the same time, what do you think? how about your feelings? That's unfair to all of us. Love can not be shared i think. It is selfish. So I always consider one person could only love one person in a period of time, loving two persons in the same time is imporssible and wrong.
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
thanks for your response to this discussion! I think it's okay to love both of them. And I find it fair only if both sides are aware of it. all are transparent and everything is seen. so can you still considered a sin or a mistake? selfishness is a sin and that's for sure. Just see the other side like to other religion to be fair. =)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
we are to love one another. but the case in this situation is different. we are to only love 1 in particular for the reason that we are to share our lives to that person. that is why 2 become 1...
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
hheheh like in Spice Girls song! Thanks for the reply dear. yes, we are to love only to one person we truly love. but lets see the side in other religion ( not to mention) so you're telling me that they more sinful than us in this society? i find it unfair =)
@nuridch (94)
• India
4 Mar 09
When we are in Love, there seems to be a hormonal relation between brain and mind. Though our decision about Love is fully dominated by mind, we tend to give the credit to heart. Anyway, since there is only one heart and only one brain in our skeleton, we are in true love with only one person at a time. Silly answer, ain't it? I just wanted to respond. It is really a tough question and demands not only psychology but more than that.
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
you are right nuridch! it's really a tough question for those people who can relate to my discussion. hehehe funny it may seem but it's true. sad but true hehehe...we have to choose then or else we can hurt other's feeling anyway and loving is not hurting right? so better choose what's best for our heart and mind. thanks for the reply friend!
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
we can love as many people we want to but the only limit is that we just have to commit with one partner only..loving someone is never a sin..but committing with two different person that's the time loving isn't permitted
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
thanks for the reply dear. but take note that in other religion (not to mention) it's not a sin to commit two or more partners in life. So that's my confusion right now. I love these two guys but sad to say because of what we believe in that loving both of them is breaking all the rules. But is it really a sin to love more? hehehe i just can't the point. maybe in legal cases it is, but if we refer to emotional aspect of our lives, i think it's not a mistake right? instead it's a nice feeling then. lol agree with me or not?hehehe
@kirei24 (252)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
lol, we could love two or more people at the same time but its always on different level. hehehe.. seriously i understand what you mean in your question, we call that faithfulness.. if we are into relationship, we remain faithful to our partner and if we love someone else others tell it a sin.. but of course, it always depend on the act the person torn between two persons he/she loves.. it will only be a sin if he/she lie either the two of them or both of them.
@maean_19 (4661)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
Hi sweet_mom! Welcome to Mylot! Love is a very broad term. We may and can love as many as you want, but if the love you are referring to is a love towards a significant other, still you can and may love more than one. It is not a sin to love, yet it is not morally proper and right when you "shall" love two persons at the same time and at the same degree. When you weigh the love, you can feel that someone is more considered and deeper. The intensity is not the same, especially when you see the comparisons. As mentioned by one of your respondents here, you shall commit yourself to only one. Because if you do commit yourself to many, it will be contrary to moral norms. The immorality is more apparent more if you are legally married and still commit yourself to another. Which in effect is contrary to law of God and law of Man.
@chabawel (330)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
Love is not a sin. But to be unfaithful to the person you love is definitely a sin. Loving multiple partner at the same time is not loving at all. You're just toying to the feelings of your partner. To love means being able to commit yourself wholeheartedly, uncoditionally to your partner. This means, you give devote your love to only one partner at a time. Not all at the same time.
• China
4 Mar 09
When we love, we love only "one". We have a lot of choices before we decide which one to love. It is important to every one to obey the rule of this society. In other aspect, there are many male whose number is the same to femal. I think balance is the root.
@modstar (9610)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
First of all, morally, loving two people at the same time is wrong let's after taking the sacrament of matrimony(...for catholics). Second, loving two persons at the same time is considered cheating. I guess that explains why we can't share our love with two people.
@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
that is basically wrong. we can love as many people as we want. however, if love in this instance is the kind of love you would show to a spouse, then, that's different. this is where a) the kind of environment b) the kind of person you are c) the kind of person whom you want the world to see as you d) the kind of person you want your offspring/s would like to see as you and e) some even say the kind of genes you got from your parents all play a role together in the outcome of your decision.
• China
4 Mar 09
This question is a little tough. I think you can love two persons at one time but you can just have relationship with one of them. Unfortunately such kind thing happened to me. I can't control my feelings but I can control my activities. It's something about morality, maybe. The one I have chosen I will love him more and I will try to forget the other boy. It's not ashamed. But you must do in right way. Good luck!
@HelloMickey (1659)
• Hong Kong
4 Mar 09
I agree with love is not a sin and I think we can love two people at the same time. But once you think about this will hurt one of your two lovers, I will then stop loving one of them. Or at least I am not going to let that happens. Stop the love when it begins. If one cannot do it, I think one must love the new comer more than one's old lover, as it breaks his heart but one still do that way.