Would you still stay with this guy?

Singapore
March 4, 2009 11:46am CST
Just had a chat with one of my friends and she was updating me about this other mutual friend of ours whom we truly care. this girl met a guy and started staying with him. He always says he loves her, wants her but he beats her up! Not only that, he picks up on other girls in front of my friend and drinks and does all sorts of nonsense. Knowing all these, my gal pal's friends has been persuading her to leave that guy. But she refused. IN fact, she is considering taking up his marriage proposal! NOw my question, do you like me doubt his "love" for her? I don't believe loving a person means beating her up, or treating her like trash.
3 responses
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
seriously, i think both of them needs to see a psychiatrist for therapy. The guy can be considered sadistic and the girl is masochistic. (perfect combination??) there must be some serious psychological issues behind this kind of behavior that requires good explanation. ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT IT NEEDS TO STOP...I think any normal mylotter can predict what's gonna happen next if they decide to get married.
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• Singapore
4 Mar 09
yea. all her friends are trying their best to get her out of this relationship. sighs. it just hurts because i know this girl. and she was very good to me when i was there studying. now i'm back home in another country, we're lost contact and there really isn't much i can do either.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
yeah and i have a feeling she's not gonna listen to any of your advice.. But i can understand that because I have been in that situation before and I chose to be the doormat hoping the guy will change someday. Sadly we broke up and now I'm a single mom. She'll learn her lessons in time. Pity that she has to learn it the hard way.
@Bethany1202 (3432)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I totally agree with you. You don't hurt people you love, not intentionally the way he does!! She seriously needs to get away, and soon. Accepting his proposal would be a very bad decision! I wish the best for her and hope she gets away from that piece of crap excuse for a man.
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• Singapore
4 Mar 09
exactly. but it's getting it into her head that is hard. we all can see it plain and clear but she can't.
• United States
4 Mar 09
Oh my...that story is very familiar, me and my close friends had a friend with the same situation. We really felt sorry for her and everytime we advise her to leave the guy, she will always feel hurt. She said she loves his husband so much and that she does not want to grow old and ALONE. Some women think they can not move on to find another love and that the one they are with has taken so much out of their lives. Anyways, it took over a year of more abuse and finally he is out of her life. The sad part is, it happened only because the guy left her for another woman! That was the worst scenario we kept on warning her about. After all she had been through, we were always there for her and so far she has moved on...alone but not lonely. Point is, when a woman is truly in love, it seems she can tolerate anything.