do you yell or scream when you're mad?

@gicolet (1704)
United States
March 4, 2009 12:52pm CST
I have to admit, I do. I try to control myself sometimes cause i know it's wrong as i could be hurting the other person's feelings but it's hard when something makes me so mad cause my feelings got hurt too in the first place. After I yelled and screamed at the person I would become very upset and would start crying. I've heard that letting it out of your system (anger and being upset) is good for your health but I'm not sure...cause i feel bad and would usually later become depressed. How about you? Do you yell at a person when you're mad or real furious?
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27 responses
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
yes sometimes I do specially if that person keeps on doing what I don't want him or her to do. At first I would tell them to stop and then if they continue on my voice will be louder and if they insist, then I shout.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
OMG this is the EXACT reason why it's been going on and why is it so hard for me to hold up my anger. The person keeps on doing the same thing that makes me mad ...over and over and over again it drives me to insanity. Thanks so much for posting this. I felt like I just got out of a shrink's office. lol
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
LOL. No problem, I will send you the bill later :)
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I try really really hard not to yell, but man do people know how to push my buttons. Recently, my hubby and I decided that any time we feel like yelling, we have to stop ourselves and lower our voices. I do not like it when I yell, or when any one else yells. I figure that in order to teach my kids not to yell, I have to do my best to set the example.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
You know I should talk about that with my hubby too. Thank you.
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
6 Mar 09
It can be difficult, but it does seem to work. You're welcome!
@vasavi20 (293)
• India
5 Mar 09
i will silent and will not talk to anyone
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I hate to say this but I used to be like that....for YEARS. Then i became like a ticking time bomb and then exploded one day. It's hard to pick up the pieces after that.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
5 Mar 09
To be honest,i yelled to my kid when they didn't listen to me.i don't want to hurt other's feeling too.but i lost my patience and couldn't control myself when i got mad.i always think why some people keep calm well when they met something.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
It's hard but everytime I lose my cool and yell at my children i got to apologize one way or another. It's not fair to them cause they don't really understand why we get THAT mad. What i do is explain to them CALMLY afterwards why they made me mad and then apologize for me acting like a witch. They usually take it better that way and then we give each other a hug :)
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Hello gicolet! I don't scream or yell when I am mad. I am usually quiet and won't talk to the person. At first, my husband doesn't understand about being quiet. But now, he knows that when I am quiet, I am mad at him..hehehe..I am glad that he learned to adjust from me and I am trying to adjust from him.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I used to be like that and my husband didn't like it too but you know what? he was actually the one who made me yell back at him. He was the one who took the b*tch out of me per se. I'm no longer the quiet wife he fell in love with. I'm louder now when i'm angry and guess what - sometimes he likes it...cause he said i taught him that he's not always right by my learning to voice out my opinion and defending myself. So there's an advantage too i guess about my yelling and screaming. lol
@VANILLAREY (1473)
• India
5 Mar 09
First, its crying and not shouting which help in releiving tension or emotions. Crying freely or expressing your emotions to another person helps. Shouting or raising ones voice is common and natural when a person gets angry. But shouting and getting angry every now and then is not good. In fact getting too angry can be harmful for oneself rather than others. Sometimes one needs to be strict and use a loud tone in order to discipline someone.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I agree. I usually feel bad a couple of hours after I yelled and screamed at someone and I sometimes feel some kind of pain in my chest afterwards :(
• United States
5 Mar 09
No. I bite my finger then hit the table with my fist. Multiple times. I look pathetic.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
LMAO hahahahaha you are so funny. maybe i should try that sometimes. lol
• United States
5 Mar 09
Yes I do this and I know I shouldn't. I did it on Sunday night to someone and I felt really bad after. They talked to me after a day and they told me that it happens and to stay strong that they were there for me no matter what and how mad I got. I guess it takes alot of guts to say that to someone after you have just screamed at them for something. I did get a chance to opologize to this person and hope I never get that way again but it happens to the best of us I guess.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
we sometimes do learn more about ourselves from other people. i take it as a good thing.
• China
5 Mar 09
I sometimes scream when I'm mad. I feel ashamed later , esp after I screamed at my child who is frightened, not knowing what is happening. But I just can not control myself.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
rachel2009, i do the same too sometimes...and then I apologize to my children. It's hard to control especially if I'm actually mad at someone else and I took it on my children. There's just no excuse for that but I do share with my children why I got like that and then they come to understand the reason why and they usually end up taking my side and become angry too with that other person. lol
@kasouyumi (165)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I don't get mad...I get even.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
oh i do both....i get mad and then i get even. Sometimes there's just nothing like sweet revenge and I feel so much better afterwards knowing that I taught the other person a lesson by having him take a dose of his own medicine.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
4 Mar 09
Yes I do at times too; screaming and yelling when mad. When my husband and me have some fights we even both scream at each other, but become passive afterwards. Yes I find it more comforting after that but like you, I felt guilty specially if my husband just being calm and passive when I did the screaming on him.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
oh yeah...me and my husband scream at each other too whenever we're like trying to get our point across only to end up not understanding at all what we were screaming about...then once we calmed down we realize how stupid we were for screaming at each other.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
4 Mar 09
when one gets mad at someone, one tends tends to raise voice and shout. but this does not help the purpose. you get mad when you do not wish to agree with the person. the main thing in question is that you need to make your point clear. so here you need too keep your cool, try to handle the situation well and put your point in a different fashion. this is not easy to do but if one strats practising then one can keep his/her head stable and talk. by shoouting or starting an agrgumen nothing can be achieved. only the differences augment.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Believe it or not it's easier said than done. I used to keep my cool real good...something happened to me over the last 4 yrs and i'm trying to find out what it was. lol
@Marcola (2776)
• United States
4 Mar 09
No, I need to get into that habit. I don't always say what's on my mind. I usually get really quiet and pout. Then, I'll probably cuss under my breath and glare at people if they have the gall to look at me when it's really known of their stinkin' business!
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I do that too sometimes. lol
@ahsn12k4 (83)
• Canada
4 Mar 09
i try not to. if its towards my parents they would hit me back if i would raise voice against them. but yeah outside yes,i do. i raised voice yesterday against a cashhier in a store because she kept my money and i comeback she said to me that she did not. also she charged me over in my shopping. if she was a new employee i wouldnt say anything. but she was not new and she started arguing.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I never yelled at my parents. I've drawn a line there cause I have great respect for them. We lose our cool once in awhile cause we're only human and whether the consequences is good or not I think it's worth it when we realize afterwards that we learned something from our reaction.
@maezee (34508)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I heard that too; a little crying is good for you every now and then. When I get mad, I've started doing the opposite, the "grown up" way of being mad at them - giving the cold shoulder and just acting really cold & emotionless towards them. That seems to upset people and I usually get an apology out of 'em.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I was like that too years ago. Yeah it did work...so i think I reacted better then than now...man what happened to me? :(
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
I think when I'm mad you'd see it on my face and how I talk and how I am to a person. I don't really yell or scream but I do nag at times. I can be sarcastic if I'm really really mad. But I'm patient, this only happens when I can't take things anymore and when people are big pain. I don't really tell a person I'm mad because they would already know.
@falconx (221)
• Finland
6 Mar 09
I scream when I am veeeeeeeery angry. Sometimes I am just quiet.
@xParanoiax (6998)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Actually, I get quieter. I have pretty good self-control, my mind actually becomes clearer when I'm angry or pent up with adrenaline...if that makes any sense. If you get too stressed or too frequently angry when you're older, it could lead to problems. But normally it is quite healthy to express yourself.
@Pitgull (1523)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Most often I scream when I am frustrated. I do try to control myself when it is at other people, but sometimes I feel that I have kept my mouth shut for so long that I need to say something to them. Or when a response is not what it should be...and I do not know why someone is acting the way they are...I will snap...I do understand people have bad days and stuff...but I am honest about what I think and feel...and sometimes I think other people would be better off getting stuff off their chests...instead of keeping it a secret....a big festering secret....that serves no purpose but self-destruction.. My boyfriend is a good sport....but I could try to relax more... I do feel it is good to get out steam, but when you feel bad about how you make other people feel...that's where we need to find another outlet...I used to write poetry, until I lost the perfect book...
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
When I am mad I just keep quiet as much as possible. I don't want to talk since I know that I may say hurtful words that I might regret eventually. So I prefer to be quite and have to calm down and would only talk when I have think things over. I prefer that way. I don't want to start a fire out of a small ember. I may be a loud person in any normal circumstance but i am quiet when i am mad.