my dauther was beated by a boy today.how should i do?

@cindyhxf (1447)
China
March 5, 2009 8:26am CST
when i worked off today came back home and i knew my 5 years old daughterr was beated by a boy at school today.when my daughter was sleeping on her bed noon,the boys were playing and took a clothes with chain to beat my daugher.her forehead was hurt.i called her teachers and talked about that.but her teachers didn't know it happened today.my daugher said she was scared to tell teachers!and she told me she didn't want to do stool s at schoold too.she worried teacher 's criticism .wow,i didn't know she had such thought before if i didn't aske more tonight.friends,what is your good idea if i talk to teacher tomorrow?
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@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
6 Mar 09
oh i would have a feild day with that teacher.. my first question would be why in the hell didn't she know this was happening? and why isn't she watching the kids for as well? then i would talk with the princple, and the boys parents. i would ask the boys parents if this how they raised their boys to beat up on girls? but i would go to the school and raise big time hell there is no reason why the teacher didn't this or stopped it good luck
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
6 Mar 09
i talked to teachers today.she looked not so surprise for such thing happened.i know she is always to be kind to parents.but i really don't know if she is good to kids when we are not there.i talked to my daughter again tonight,i didn't want her to be hurt in heart from that.but what she said i still worry,she told me the boy beat another girl yesterday too.After he beated,he laughted .wow,he was happy to beat others!!my daughter said he was good boy last year,teacher liked him much and praised him .but no this year.the big problem i think is from teacher or his parents.maybe he wanted to beat and make teacher take attention to him.till now,my daughter said don't want to talk with him again.i have to think how to help my daughter get rid of that and don't feel hurt for long time.thanks ,my friend
• United States
6 Mar 09
I think you should talk to the teacher and the boys parents. They should be made aware of what is happening and then it should be addressed in front of the children so that the boys will know that everyone is aware of what they have been doing and that the type of behavior is not tolerated. Then you should talk to your daughter and let her know that no matter how afraid she is, you are her mother and you will do everything you can to protect her but you cant if you do not know what is going on. Let her know if she does not tell it will continue to happen to her. Let her know she is not going to be punished about her speaking up about being abused. Something is not right if the teacher was not even aware of what was going on unless she was not supervising them.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
6 Mar 09
Thank for your idea.i did and i will think of how to talk with my daugther.she felt hurt from that.yes,what i can do is to protect her and try to make her understand that was wrong act.i hope she will forget unhappy thing soon.thanks again.my friend
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
Those little boys did that to your daughter??? Reading your story is so frustrating! How can they hurt a little girl like that? In my opinion, I don't think them being as little kids can excuse them as to what they have done to her! I think you should also talk to their parents. Those teachers should have notice if some kind of commotion is happening!
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
6 Mar 09
yes,the little boy did to hurt,he hurt another girl in the same class too.he laught after doing that.it was wrong act for him.but the teacher's response made me disappoint.it was normal and not big things in kindergarden.also she apologized for her neglect.but she didn't promis it won't happen again.anyway,this thing made me care more about what happened around my daughter.she needs my help and that's why she told to me yesterday.Thank you for response,my friend.
@carolscash (9500)
• United States
6 Mar 09
What kind of teacher doesn't know that a child is being beaten in her classroom. I would go to the school and go to the principals' office and demand a meeting with the principal,the teacher,the boy and his parents. I would let them know that I will not tolerate this happening while my daughter is there and let the other parents know that if it happens again,you will contact the police. This little boy has no right to hit your daughter with anything! This teacher needs to know that if this happens again in her classroom that you will go to the administration and ask that she be let go. Those kids are her responsibility while she is there with them.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
6 Mar 09
there are near 30 kids in a class and just two teachers there.well,i didn't know where the teachers were at that time.yes,i could go to principal first,but i went to teachers today cause i thought it was good for my daugher this way.respect her first is protect my daughter too.well,i am glad to get so many friends's advice here.i think i got my mind to do well for this case.Take care,thanks
• Canada
6 Mar 09
I am so sorry you have to go through this. You need to march your butt into that school and demand that the boy be punished for what he did to your daughter. Make any threat you have to to get this problem solved. Do not rest til you daughter feels safe in school. I went through this a couple months ago with my son. He was being picked on, hit, pushed and he even had his food taken and stepped on, so he had no lunch. He wouldn't tell anyone and then he finally told me and everything I just told you to do is what I did. The problem was solved the same day that I went into the school. The boys were punished and kept away from my son when there was no teacher around. Good Luck Hun
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
6 Mar 09
Hi friend!Thanks for your good idea.yes,you are right,the important is my daugher feel safe in school.i think you had good mind to teach your son and thanks for sharing.Best regards!
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
5 Mar 09
i think you should talk to the teachers..and maybe the boys parents too..and see to it the the boy must promised not to beat your daughter again..goodluck
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
5 Mar 09
yes,i will go to talk with teachers and be sure my daughter won't be hurt again.thanks,take care
@cupkitties (7593)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Talk with the teacher. Also demand that the ones who hit her with the chain undergo a mental evaluation. I'm sorry but what they did is something a sycho person does.
@hotsummer (10466)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
so you mean you have called the teachers and reported this incident already. they should do something about those kids. they should teach kids that what they do was wrong so that they will not grow with the thought that it is just okay to beat another person. they should learn how to respect their own peers while they are young. cause i think that it is very crucial time for them to learn that it is not right to do that again specially when they are grown up already.
• India
6 Mar 09
It would be better that you confirm all the problems your daughter is having and then the reason why the boys beet her and well you talk to the teacher and also talk to their parents and see that the issue is cleared. So that again your daughter dosent face such problems
@lizuqi (2)
• China
6 Mar 09
I do think that you should go to school to argue for what your daaughter got.
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
6 Mar 09
You should talk to the teacher first. If she/he won't take further action, or she ignores this problem. Talk to the higher authority, or school principal. This is a serious problem. Or find out where the boy is at, and talk to his parents directly. Sometimes, government branch has some sort of helping children program you can always resort to. You can either talk to them this problem if you have no other options at all. You have to solve this problem before you can trust this school again.
@Zeens86 (60)
• India
6 Mar 09
oh my you should talk to the boys parents and see to it from them that this doesn't repeat again. I hope your daughter is fine now.
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
If I were in your place I would probably be furious! we parents do everything we can to protect our kids and we put them in schools that we believe have teachers who are dedicated to their learning and of course safety. How can the teacher not be aware of what is happening inside her classroom or with her students? And why is your daughter afraid of the teacher? maybe the teacher uses harsh words or punishments to correct the kids.
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
6 Mar 09
Hello cindyhxf. I am so sorry that your daughter got beaten by a boy at school. I think that you should tell the teacher and have the teacher educate the bad bully boy so that he will behave without bullying the others any more. I am sure that your little daughter is scared and is not happy with her stay in the school. So if possible, I think that there is need for you to talk to the boy as well together with the teacher. Take care, friend.
@buggles64 (2715)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Talk to your daughter and tell her how important it is to tell the teacher if anything like that happens again. If the boy continues bothering your little girl, he could be removed from that situation. If she doesn't tell, then the little boy might continue picking on your little girl. It was good for you to talk to the teacher, so that she is now aware that the boy is picking on your little girl.
@yogeshdhusa (2237)
• India
5 Mar 09
hi cindyhxf, i think you should tel your dauther that every one is same. your teached also do the same and other children also and even heroes also. so dont have to woory that some one critisis. i think the teacher is not a good friend of your daughter. you should meet her to tel that your daughter is not comfortable. its because to grow and to be good in studies she has to be comfortable with other s as wel as with the teacher. Children who think of criticism are good in the socity but their groth is restricted becuase they are affraid to try something new. hence you should tell her that "dont worry about other do what your heart says but dont do any thing which hurt other" :)