I am home and our first grand baby is finally here!

United States
March 5, 2009 11:58am CST
Our grand son arrived into this world on February 17 @ 5:04AM he weighed 8lbs, 3ozs. He is so beautiful and such a wonderful baby. I was in the delivery room when she delivered and that was the most amazing experience I have ever seen. I have seen loads of babies come into this world being a nurse, but not one that I love already. They named him Kurtis Elliot Jude, what a strong name for such a strong little boy. I do not have permission to post his photos on the net so I cannot show you all what a little cutie he is. The mother did such a great job with the whole delivery, she was admitted into the hospital on the 16 at 10AM to be induced and the worst part of the whole procedure was the IV being started in her wrist. The mom has such a fear of needles, I did not realize how bad her fear is, she whined about the IV the whole time it was in. At fist I thought “Oh no we will never get through this all”. The wost part of the whole thing was her sisters, mom and dad did not show up for the birth of the baby. They came in when she started labor for a few minutes and then wanted to be called when she was ready to give birth. We set it up so our daughter could call them, and that she did. They never showed up. They did not show up to meet their first grandchild/nephew. Now I ask you if your daughter or son's significant other was in labor could you leave the hospital? Our daughter changed her days off of work so she could come and see the baby. Her husband even drove to Reno a few days later to see the baby. He took days off of work to support the family. We had to drive over Donner pass in the snow and it was not easy. We have a four wheel drive truck and there was so much snow that we had to go 25 miles per hour and some times slower than that. It took us 8 hours to make a 4 hour trip because of the snow. It was snowing so hard we could hardly see out the windshield at time and her parents live 40 minutes away and did not come to meet their grandchild. I will tell you I was so hurt for her. She had to call her parents that morning when I told my son and his girlfriend it was only my hubby, daughter and I at the hospital. Now could you have left the hospital if your son's girlfriend or wife was having their child? Could you leave the hospital if your daughter was in labor?
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Mar 09
GRATS! He was a healthy sized baby it seems. I was in the room when our daughter was born almost 31 years ago. I held her before my wife did actually. Not for long as I said she was a bloody yucky mess, clean her up first. I handed her back to the nurse. Burt that was a great experience. I was in Rockford IL when my son was born. I heard about his birth on the CB radio heading home. I could never leave no matter what actually. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• United States
6 Mar 09
Thanks for your kind words. I did love being there it was very special to me. I know it must have hurt you not to be there for your son's birth. My grandson is so beautiful I want to cry just looking at him.
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@someonesmom (5765)
• Canada
6 Mar 09
Hi teapotmom, I just had to stop by, to offer my congratulations on the birth of your grandson. I'm so happy to hear that mommy and baby are doing well. I 'know' that you'll be a wonderful grandma. As for what you've shared about 'her family,' no, I really don't understand this at all. How could 'they' not be excited over the birth of the baby, especially her mom! It's just really sad, I think. If my daughter (now seventeen), is ever in labour someday, there's no way I'd leave the hospital. I'd want and need to be there for this special event. As it was, when my daughter in law gave birth going on six years ago, I couldn't be there because she was under quarantine (too long a story for here), and I wasn't well. I was very disappointed. Take care. Hugs
• United States
6 Mar 09
Thanks for the kind words my friend. I kind of can understand the mom did not want to be where she was not wanted. She had such a horrible life and she was not wanted a lot of the places she had to be in as a child. I know what she went though because I was not wanted as a child and I told myself I would not be where I was not wanted. If I feel I am not wanted in a place I leave even if the feeling is imagined. Unless a person has experienced that feeling they do not understand. I would have been there for the baby even some say the baby will never remember I would have in my heart.
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• Canada
7 Mar 09
You're very welcome. I too, have experienced times in my life when I've felt unwanted. Not a good way to feel at all! Hugs
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• United States
7 Mar 09
You are so right not a good feeling. At least here at myLot I have never felt like that.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Oh my goodness!! I didn't realize you had such a horrible trip over there! I'm glad you made it safely!!! I remember when my sister's first grandbaby was born. We were at our family reunion in Virginia Beach. We go for a whole week and she just knew that baby was going to be born while we were down there. We had just finished the "official" reunion (the 2nd day of the trip) and she settled down with a margarita when the call came. She put her glass in the freezer and hit the road. It's about a 5 hour drive or so and she was less than 10 minutes away from the hospital when her son called to tell her that her grandson had just been born. They were trying really hard to hold on until she got there. She was so upset. You would have throught she'd learned though, but if you remember last summer, it almost happened again! The second baby was being born and we couldn't find my sister anywhere! She wasn't answering her phone and none of us knew the location of the house she was probably at. I was getting ready to go drive down there and ride around until I found her car (good thing I didn't because I would have never found it!). She eventually checked her messages and got to the hospital about a half hour before the baby was born. I don't know if I'd be in the delivery room with my grandchildren, but I would definitely be at the hospital if that was possible. If my one son happens to have children while in Japan, I'm going to have to settle for pictures :-( So glad you're back though! But I bet you miss him already, eh?
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• United States
6 Mar 09
I hope you can be there when your grand children are born it is the most wonderful experience in the world. If you cannot be in the delivery room than that is fine also. I can understand if you cannot handle all the gore. In fact there was a blood splatter on the wall over the mom's head. She know about the blood splatter on the wall but did not realize it was on her face also. It was not a lot of blood just a little bit. I was not worried about getting anything from the mother she is clean. the doctor was all gowned up, but the nurses where not. It was funny the nurses where doing just as much as the doctor but they where not gowned and masked up but the doctor was.
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
7 Mar 09
I would love to be there, but if it happens in Japan I don't know that I'll make it... I don't usually have a problem with that kind of thing, I would be very fascinated with it.
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• United States
7 Mar 09
When I was in the room with my son's girlfriend I remembered why I did not work OB it is the smell of it all. I cannot stand the smell of the blood and stuff. It has a different odor that I find I cannot stand. I tolerated for my grand baby and son and his girlfriend. I just could not work around it all the time. Now you say who in the world could I tolerate some of the other smells I had to deal with from other patients. I just did but they where not everyday and not the same smell.
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@emilie2300 (1891)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Congradulations to you and His name is so handsome he was a big boy.
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• United States
6 Mar 09
Thank you
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• United States
7 Mar 09
Your welcome
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@Darkwing (21588)
5 Mar 09
I was at the birth of my son's first child, but his wife's parents weren't. They were only ten miles from the hospital and I was fourteen, but I had to get there. I didn't manage to get there for the birth, but arrived soon afterwards and the nurse told me my daughter-in law was having a well earned bath, so whilst she was gone, I could have a nurse of my grandson. He still had blood on him from the delivery, but he had a shock of really black hair and he was gorgeous. I loved it that I was the first to hold him after his mum, and I was as proud as anything, but at the same time, a little tearful. I couldn't have missed that for the world, and don't see how any grandparent could. Brightest Blessings and many congratulations. He certainly was quite a big baby, huh?
• United States
6 Mar 09
Darkwing what would make some parents stay away from the hospital when their grandchild is being born? I do not understand that at all. Oh well I guess to each its own.
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@Darkwing (21588)
6 Mar 09
I don't understand it either... especially when they're the parents of the mother to be.
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@moneymommy (3419)
• United States
6 Mar 09
No I would not be able to leave the hospital. I would stay for the whole thing. I am sorry they didnt stay. But anyways congrats on being a new Grandmom! My sister n law became a Grandmom yesterday and I will become a Grandmom in May.
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• United States
6 Mar 09
thanks
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@pmcepe (194)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
First of all my congtatulations! We are expecting our first grandchild this May. Although we live in the Philippines and my son and her wife are temporarily in the US because of his job assignment I will be going there for the birth of my grandchild. It's really a costly trip for us, we are not well-off, but we saved up for this trip. After 2 months I will be coming back because my other daughter-in-law will be giving birth soon after. During my child-bearing years my husband and I were alone because both our families live in far off places from us, and it was not easy for them to come to us then. I know that if they could they would have come. Maybe your daughter-in-law's parents have had other grandchildren already and are not excited anymore about new ones. Did you eventually learn the reason why they did not go to visit at the hospital? Maybe there was good reason?
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• United States
6 Mar 09
congrats on your upcoming two grand childen this year. You will fine they are great. I bet you are excited. You will not want to leave your son's baby. I think the mom did not feel she was wanted there. She has a lot of baggage from an abusive childhood and does not want to force herself on her children. I can kind of see her point. I just had to be there no matter if I felt uncomfortable or not. I had to be there for the child and not the parents if that was the case.
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@dropofrain (1168)
• India
6 Mar 09
NO I can not leave her alone like this. Whenever any of my family member is in hospital I can not leave the hospital. I need to be there in the hospital with them to support them.
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• United States
6 Mar 09
Yes she was upset that they did not show up.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
6 Mar 09
i am so happy for you,(maybe my mother can relate to you better,she was so deliriously happy for days together,it was as if she had delivered.acc.to her,she couldnt imagine her baby(me) ,delivering a baby.it was nothing short of miracle for her.)as for the girls parents,all i can say is what a callous attitude!!may be they didnot like the alliance!
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• United States
6 Mar 09
It is so wonderful to have a grandchild. I do love him so much. I cannot wait till he gets older and we can keep him over night.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I would be planted there the whole time, I'm very happy that you have a new addition to the family!! I am sure the baby is the cutest ever. I'm sorry that her family wasn't there to be with her but maybe they will come around more in time. I will be waiting to see pictures
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• United States
6 Mar 09
I will get photos as soon as the parents say they let me.
@irishmist (3820)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I am so happy for you and the new grandbaby!! Glad everything went well, sorry to hear the way her family acted, that is terrible. I could never leave my daughter or my sons girlfriend in the hospital in labor like that. I would want to be there for them.
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• United States
6 Mar 09
Thanks I hope when my daughter has a baby I can be with her also
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• Philippines
5 Mar 09
Hi teapotmommommerced. Congratulations on your grandson's arrival.It's so sweet of you to share this with us. I couldn't help but feel sorry for the mother because of the lack of support from her family...but she's very lucky to have you and your family around.I'm sure that your presence and support mean a lot to her. I don't think I could ever leave my daughter if and when she would give birth.I would definitely drop everything that has been planned and rush to be by her side. You're such a sweet,loving and caring mother and grandma...wish there are more people like you. Thanks.Have a great day.
• United States
6 Mar 09
Since then I found out that the mother felt she was not wanted there so she did not come. In all honestly she had a really crappy childhood and does not want to be where she was not wanted. I found this out yesterday after starting this discussion. I feel bad for what I said now.
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@Ratris (79)
• Indonesia
5 Mar 09
What wonderful thing this world ? Born children.But more wonderful when have grandchildren. That my mom said to me. Be grandmother is so nice. Congratate to all your family. New part live has come. Happy lotting
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• United States
6 Mar 09
My parents are not good grandparents to my kids or their other two grand child but I do not want to be that kid of grandparent. I want to be the loving, forgiving, always there grandparent. I hope I succeed.
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@snowy22315 (54318)
• United States
5 Mar 09
Congatrulations on your grandbaby. i hope to have one someday. It would be interesting and I hope to have a granchild someday. That would be something I would really be interested in someday. I hope I can do this and be able to have a grandchild someday.
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• United States
6 Mar 09
It is one of the best experiences in the world good luck.
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@Dasari100 (3803)
• Anantapur, India
7 Apr 09
When you are with family members and i guess you how much you love so it is rare situation comes when family members meet together now so your the lucky person who are having such lovable members.
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• United States
7 Apr 09
Thank you. They are coming down next Monday to stay for a week and then come back the following week so we can baby sit for one night. I am looking forward to that.
@Dasari100 (3803)
• Anantapur, India
8 Apr 09
So there is only four days gap for that one so i hope you will have great fun with them.
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• United States
9 Apr 09
Thanks I will have great fun with mom and the baby also.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
7 Mar 09
Hi teapot...sorry I'm a bit late getting to this. First, congratulations on your grand child and what a great name that has been picked out for him. As for your son's girlfriend's family not coming to be there at the birth of a new member of the family I think that is so tacky and thoughtless and a real kick in the gut type of thing and especially considering too that they were so much closer to the hospital than you were. Can't figure families out at times can you. So how does it feel to be a grandma??
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• United States
7 Mar 09
pye being a Granny is so great. Everytime I look at him I just wanted to cry. He is so beautiful.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
7 Mar 09
I sure wish you could post pics of him...would love to see, but I guess that's up to "mom and pop" right?
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• United States
7 Mar 09
I will send you photos of him privately.
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Congratulations on the grand baby! :) I can tell you're really excited. It almost makes me wish I was a grandparent lol :) It's sad that so few people were there though, but hopefully the joy of having a new baby around would make up for the sad parts. Take care! :)
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• United States
10 Mar 09
I was very glad that our whole immediate family could be there. After the baby was born our daughter went to her brother's house and made a huge pot of chicken soup because the mother of Kurtis wanted some. We sure spoiled her to show her how much we love her.
• China
9 Mar 09
first congratulations to you and your family! i am a student now and still not married,although a girl friend i had,it seems far away from my marriage life. last year i had a nephew who was my brother's son,my family was excited with this little baby and every day mirth full of our house,this little baby bring lots of happy to us and we love him very much. at the last ,i am sure you will feel happy every day since the born of you grand son,so forget the agonising things,enjoy you new life!
• United States
10 Mar 09
This little one has brought a lot of joy in our lives. His Auntie and Uncle are over joyed with him. I got a new photo of Kurtis today via my cell phone today. I had to show it to all. What a proud Granny I am.
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
Congratulations. Babies are blessings and they keep us so excited. This reminds me when I gave birth to our only child three yearsago. it was only my husband and my mother in law who were there. They were so worried of me because i was at the delivery room for many hours.
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• United States
7 Mar 09
Are you saying you where along without any family members with you in the delivery room? If you where I feel sorry for you for not having someone to help you through it all. My son's girlfriend only pushed for less than an hour and out came Kurtis. She did really well.
@msmell (1378)
• Australia
7 Mar 09
Oh congratulations on the birth of your grandson and must say that they have good taste in names because my second child is also named Kurtis and yes when my grandchild is on the way I will be like you and will be waiting at the hospital to meet my little bundle of joy, If my daughter in law does want me in the delivery room i will be fine with that but I will still be at the hospital wait but must say that I hope that it is a while off yet before I get to meet any of my grand children because my eldest is only 18 so don't want any yet for at least 8 yrs
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• United States
7 Mar 09
I can understand you not wanting to have grand children so soon. I was 19 when I had our daughter and 22 when I had our son. Our children did not follow in our footsteps. Our son is 28 yesterday and our daughter is 30.