Do you mind your spouse to be fat?

@mermaidivy (15412)
United States
March 5, 2009 2:35pm CST
I have been cooking a lot of good stuff for my husband since we got married. He has been showing me his belly showing I am doing my job well. He used to be skinny and now he is back to his normal shape. I don't think he is getting fat anyway, he just get bigger and stronger which is good for him. I told him to get him healthy is part of my work ;-) I didn't used to eat lots of meat and sugary stuff that I have been having but I don't get fat at all so he is little jealous :-p How about you guys? Do you mind if your spouse get fatty? Will you say something to him/her? ;-)
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35 responses
• Nepal
6 Mar 09
hi mermaidivy, No i do not like to fatty. I used to be fat but i am getting thin than before. Fat person has lots of problem in healths as well daily activity. So i suggest do not think to be fat. I already faced fat problem myself. Difficult to do casual job. Have a good friday
• India
6 Mar 09
But am very lean, i like to be little fat to look good, and smart. My mom usually tell me same like this, if you are fat you have more problems, she always encourages me to be balance. Welcome, good friday too
• Nepal
6 Mar 09
no no do not think about to be fat. Are you male or female... your mom is right. I am still feeling fat even i lose few body weight throught diet,veg food,drink and lots of stuff caring. Difficult to change your body to orginial good position. It also effect your mental as well as body energy.I realized it. good day
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
yeah being fat affects you todo normal daily stuff too... so better stay in normal weight! Thanks for sharing! :-)
• China
6 Mar 09
hello...my crystal also good at cooking and always cook lots of tasty food for us. i was getting fat soon at the first year and there are lots of fat meat on my belly and legs also,then after i was so fat so climb the ladders to the 4th floor. we realized that we should eat less meat and less food to shed the body, so she reduced the meat cooking and now i being slim again...good luck.
@drkraven (522)
• Romania
6 Mar 09
Well i think that if you exercise a little, maybe running in the park a few times a week you should not have weight problems. Unless you actually eat huge amounts of food. Ofc diferent persons asimilate faster or slower. You ll often see ppl who eat twice as much as you and never gain weight.
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I think exercising will be good for us anyway, even I have cut down the meat, I still try to walk my dog and play ho lahoop in the winter.
@loneleaf (165)
• China
8 Mar 09
My gf and I are all very thin and I am very envious of the people who are strong, but my gf thinks she is very ok so it's unnecessary to lose weight! For the reason of what I said above, my gf and I do not mind each other become fatter and we have do lots of things to make this dream come trus, unluckly, both of us are still so thin even we have more foods, so bad! Can you give us some tips? By the way, I don't like to eat meat, I am a vegetarian!
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Don't skip breakfast, because breakfast is very important for you the first thing in the day. Eat 3 meals everyday at least - breakfast, lunch, dinner and have a balanced diet. But you are vegetarian so you need to find out the vegetarian good can make you gain some weight because I don't know about that. :-) Thanks for your response! :-)
@scann33 (101)
• Italy
6 Mar 09
eat my partners is a very gourmet. exaggerating if i say so and i cook something less calories.
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Thanks for sharing! :-)
@angel2009 (210)
• India
6 Mar 09
Though I am not married yet, I will definitely not want my husband to be fat and obesitic. As I am just slim and trim, I would want him to be just like me. But I will definiy=tely want him to be a bit muscular!!
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Yeah, I made my husband gain some pounds and now it is time for him to transform the meat to be muscle! :-p
@orochi (318)
• Denmark
6 Mar 09
well i can eat pretty much anything that would make a man fat in no time but i just seem to lose weight instead
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Thanks for sharing! :-)
@deejean06 (1953)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I'm not perfect by any means. I should lose a few - well more than a few - pounds myself. But I have someone who loves me just the way I am and thinks I'm beautiful in every way. And I love him just the way he is. If he got a bit heavier I think I would get concerned just because it would be a health issue but other than that I'm attracted to him and I love him because of who he is, not what he looks like.
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Exactly. Nobody is perfect, you love somebody not because how how awesome he/she looks, it is because what good personality he/she has. :-D Thanks for sharing!
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
Oh please tell me your secret my dear friend, i am just like you wanting my husband to gain weight. He is really thin and tall. I do the cooking since I'm a stay at home wife. Whenever i cook something, he will finish it, he is not choosy, but i need to get him eat more. It is like his stomach size is with a limit, that if it is full, he cannot continue eating more. I have fruits and sweet for dessert too. So that would be additional to his calorie intake. I don't mind my spouse to get fatty. I just wanted him to gain more weight. If there are some secrets or tips you can share me on how your man increased in size/ gained weight, i will be delighted to hear your reply. Happy Mylotting!
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
This is exactly what I was worrying when we first got married. He doesn't like eating alone so he wouldn't eat until he gets to the point that he will die... it was not good for him and made me very skinny and unhealthy. We both like to eat so I was confident to feed him well and make him back to shape again. I think the main reason why he gains pounds quic is because I make him to eatevery meal - breakfast at home, I make lunch box for him everyday, I cook good dinner every nights. Sometimes I do bakings for him because he likes it (I don't go too crazy about it thought because it has lots of sugar stuff). And the other thing is eat happily, I mean if you are stressed and feel like 'Oh I need to eat?..." won't be good. That's how I feed my husband hehehehehe ^_^ I hope it can help you :-D
@Frederick42 (2019)
• Canada
6 Mar 09
I would not mind a fat spouse. In fact, I like fat people. It is better to be fat than thin. I myself always wanted to be fat, but I never became fat, no matter how much I used to eat. I have started thinking that food has not got much to do with one's weight. Maybe it is just luck to become fat.
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
It is not bad to be thin ;-)
@NancyXie (78)
• China
6 Mar 09
Actually I dont care he is fat or not at all,but not too fat.You are a good wife to keep your husband healthy.
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Yes:-) hehe Rhanks for your response!
• India
6 Mar 09
i don't mind whether my spouse would be fat or not, i keeps on loving her, but more fatty will be bad for her, it's health issue and we may come across problems in future, your tip is right, we must keep our health right, and maintain a good, clean and necessary meals, avoiding meat, fatty and sugar good. Don't mind one day you will be fat, Happy Mylotting
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Yeah if you don't want to get fawt, one of the things is keep a balanced diet, eat averagely the food you need everyday :-) Thanks for sharing! :-)
• India
6 Mar 09
hi lotter being fatty and being healthy are two very different things dear .so try to make him healthy and not fatty,anyways we love our spouse no matter fatty or skinny.
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I love him so I want to feed him well and get healthy :-) Thanks for your response! :-)
@zhuhuifen46 (3486)
• China
6 Mar 09
As wife and mom, I fully understand the feeling to make the best foof, so that my man and son can have enough energy and nutrition for their work and study. When I see them ill, I would blame myself for not caring them enough. But the issue is what we cook for them. There are many books about healthy food. We need to continue our learning to prepare the meals of balanced nutrition. I do not mind my spouse is fat, but too fat is no good for heart and blood pressure. I did not realize it until about I was fifty. More fish and vegetables are much better, both for adults and children.
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
YEah, we have cut down eating meant, he likes steak a lot so I was cooking it most of the time then I realize I should stop building up his belly so I have been cooking lots of vegetables for us instead :-) Thanks for sharing! :-)
@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
I am still single, i dont have a husband yet but i want to share my opinion in this discussion. . My boyfriend always tell me he doesnt care if i am fat or not, he told he still like me no matter what happen. its just that he worries about health, so when i was gaining weight than my normal weight he reminded me to take care of my health. I am not so slim woman, i have meat in my bones but i am in good shape now. I dont want to be so slim, i just want to be healthy. my boyfriend is supportive while i was losing weight, he even recommended exercises for toning body, and also how to fight stress because we both know it was the main factor why i gained so much weight last year 2006 and 2007. 2008 was a good start - i already lose pounds and i feel so great.I talk to my boyfriend about how i feel and i am glad he is always there, fat girl or not, he was very supportive. Happy mylotting! Hugs to all !
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
That's very sweet! IT is good thaqt you and your boyfriend work together to gain health! :-) Thanks for your sharing! :-)
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
6 Mar 09
I don't mind a little fatty tissue but this big kind of heavy thing is not really my stuff. I know lots of nice girls who are heavyweights and I did have things with them but later decided to end it. I guess I'm not a fatty person but a little flesh is not bad.
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Thanks for sharing! :-)
• China
6 Mar 09
you are a good cooker and wife. you husband must very love you and like your cooking. so he eats more and get normal shape. i think you must keep his love and cook well for him. you think fat or love, which do you choose? certainly love is important, isn't it?
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I love him , I want to make him healthy :-D
• China
6 Mar 09
Wowo, I admire you so much coz I either me or bf can cook some good stuff to eat and when we are together, we just eat outside and we are tired of that. So I am thinking about learning how to cook. I think it's important for our future life coz it's healthy to eat home. Actually bf will not mind if I get fat, lol, as I have asked him this question for many times and he says it's a silly question. But I don't want him to get too fat becasue it's bad for health. He dosen't like eating meat or sweet but I do. I think the possiblility of getting fat is bigger than him. Anyway, keep fit is very important!
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I was doingo baking lots of sugar good baking las couple months and now I have cut way down to make him back to shape first, get fatty is not good for health. Eating at home is one of the things to help having good eating diet. Maybe you can learn how to cook, it is fun and interesting ;-) ;-) Thanks for sharing! :-)
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
6 Mar 09
I wouldn't want him to be fat and he doesn't want me to be fat either lol. I don't have anything against fat people, but I think it is more healthy not to be fat and it also improves your flexibility. I have no problems telling my spouse to start working out. He is a fit person so I don't think I would have to say it to him anyway. He is also quite open to it and we really don't have any problem in giving our opinions to each other as we know it is for the better.
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I am glad to hear about that! Thanks for sharing! :-)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
I would mind if my spouse would be really fat but a few pound doesn't bother me... if he gets really fat... I will ask him to play tennis with me :)
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Play tennis to lose weigfht is a good idea! :-)
@gxyywhyzy (450)
• China
6 Mar 09
I think not mind at all,but,if she neglect her health,i will give her warning,also make some changes in diet,such as low fat and low sugar.we must be a healthy person.
@mermaidivy (15412)
• United States
6 Mar 09
Thanks for sharing! :-)