What will you do if your best friend hurt your feeling?

Indonesia
March 5, 2009 3:12pm CST
This is the opposite from my last discussion, what will you do if your best friend unintentionally or intentionally hurt your feeling? Will you keep a distance from him/her? Will you talk to him/her about the problem? Or maybe you got another opinion about this?
9 responses
• United States
5 Mar 09
I would be ready to forgive. In order to continue the friendship as such, there would have to be an apology.
• Indonesia
7 Mar 09
Thanks for your respond!
@buggles64 (2715)
• United States
5 Mar 09
If a friend intentionally hurt my feelings and made threats against me, after several attempts to talk or discuss a problem, I would eventually give up. You can't change the spots on a leopard, and apparently if I wasn't good enough to talk to then, there is nothing left to do but to move on. I would keep my distance from that particular friend.
• Indonesia
7 Mar 09
Thanks for responding !
• Indonesia
20 Mar 09
yes i agree with your think i will talk to him about this problem. because i think the best friend is every think.
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
6 Mar 09
Hi, FORGIVE...afterall Best Friend! =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
When my best friend hurt my feelings, I kept my distance from her. I'd tried to avoid any possible conversation with her. While doing so, I get another person's opinion on what I'm doing. If I feel I can handle her, meaning I'm emotionally ready to speak up to her, I call her up and set up a luncheon or a nights out. And there we talk about how I felt and reasons why it is a big deal on my part. Afterwards, we get to party all night. :-
• United States
6 Mar 09
If they unintentionally hurt my feelings I'd try to explain to them what they did that caused the hurt feelings. If they intentionally did it then I'd start to question if they were really a friend. Friendships definately take work, but you have to be able to walk away if they die, fizzle out, or are not good for you anymore. If you are always doing all the work, taking a lot of hurt from the other person, and the other person is always telling you that all of their problems in their life are somehow your fault, well it's time to go. That type of relationship isn't helpful to either party. Namaste-Anora
• United States
5 Mar 09
I would let her know how I felt and what she did and if she is a true friend she will realize what she did was wrong and apologize and if she isn't, she will make you feel lower than you already do she is not a true friend and you need to dump her. First, talk to her and see what happens
@chiepao (718)
• Philippines
5 Mar 09
If my best friend unintentionally hurted my feelings then it would be easy to forgive but, if it was intentionally done, then that's a different story. Everything can be solved through "talk." But if my best friend is the one who refuses to talk to me, and whatever I do, she just wont confront me about the problem we have, then i guess i didnt lack anyhing as a best friend anymore. I did my part, and i guess my best friend should do his part too.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I would talk about it with my friend... if this a new issue we are dealing with. If we've had fights or misunderstandings about the same thing then I may just keep living my life without them. But usually, I would bring it up and tell them that it hurt me and see how they react. If they seem to not get it, it's a loss, but if they do I'll forgive them and we'll move on. But I will never forget... so there will probably be a bit of distance now.