Men & Common Sense

happy & contented - being happy and contented in a relationship.
Philippines
March 5, 2009 9:52pm CST
1. If a man wants/LOVES you, nothing can keep him away. 2. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. 3. Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. 4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. 5. Slower is better. 6. NEVER live your life for a man until you find what makes you truly happy. 7. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck NO, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is! Don't stay because you think "it will get better". You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. 8. The only person you can control in a relationship is YOU. 9. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat YOU any differently? 10. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. 11. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, SPEAK UP. 12. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. 13. You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within. 14. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or has a better job. 15. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more, nothing less. 16. NEVER let a man define who you are. 17. NEVER borrow someone else's man. 18. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. 19. ALL men are NOT dogs but 99% of them are (sorry ;) 20. YOU need time to heal between relationships... 21. ThereĀ­ is nothing "cute" about baggage! Deal with your issues FIRST, before pursuing a new relationship. 22. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary... NOT supplementary! (MEN are not Vitamins--more like expired Viagra pills ;) 23. Dating is fun. Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. 24. Make him miss you sometimes...When a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him, he takes if for granted. 25. NEVER move into his mother's house. 26. NEVER co-sign for a man (you know...co-sign as in for credit cards, mortgage, car, etc.) 27. DO NOT fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know OTHERS. 28. Smile ;) God knows you deserve it! Remember: [b]LIFE IS FOR LIVING so HAVE FUN. LIFE ISN'T ABOUT FINDING YOURSELF. LIFE IS ABOUT CREATING YOURSELF.[/b]
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@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
amen to you, sister!
1 person likes this
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
Thanks!
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
Interesting. A man will be forever with you whatever happens if he really wants or loves you. Of course, he wouldn't waste his time on you if he doesn't want or love you. Sometimes letting your intuition decide will save you from harm. Believe in your instinct. You should take it slow to really get to know someone. Whatever happens in a relationship, you have your part on it. You just couldn't blame others because you will be the one who will decide in it. One thing I have learned as years go by that we should really speak up what's on our mind if we want the relationship to work. I think if a man treats you bad, it's your fault because you let him treat you that way.
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
6 Mar 09
Hi, though Long List already... Yet, to add -"A Man's Love-track starts from his STOMACH,so cook well for him.Be Caring", otherwise.....hihi!! =Lahiri,Kolkata,India
• United States
6 Mar 09
I think all of these things are true and most of us know this. We just think we can make things go the way we want them to just to find out we were unsuccessfull.