Will you marry someone from a different culture?

Singapore
March 6, 2009 10:49am CST
So here i was talking about this with one of my gal pals. and she said that she won't. because of the cultural difference. she says that she's afraid the other party would be insensitive to some of the cultural habits. but i told her that, if he is insensitive, that'll be because he is ignorant. but she has her mind set. she won't marry someone who is not of the same culture or race as her. but for me, i don't see why not. Love has no boundaries right. What about you?
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@gxyywhyzy (450)
• China
7 Mar 09
if i have a chance,i will.i look forward to living with someone who comes from a different culture.meanwhile,i 'd like to make friends with them. a couple which comes from different place can share whatever different of their own.i think it is very interesting.in that way,each one can know much more about the life in the world. so, if both of then love eachother,they can constitute a love family. love has no boundary.
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• Singapore
7 Mar 09
oh yes. just like you, i'm keeping my options really open too..
@dawnald (85130)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Mar 09
Sometimes love is not enough. But I think that if you have good communication, anything is possible. You just have to let each other know what's important to you and respect boundaries. It can work if you do that. But if you don't understand each other and you don't know how to communicate your differences, chances are that it will never work.
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• United States
6 Mar 09
Yeah, but that's true in all relationships , the key is good communication! and respect for each others values and ways . I think there might be differneces between the families , but if your love is strong enough you can get past them . The main things are respecting each other and being good to each other
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@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
Right for as long as you two are compatible with each other then why not. The problem arises from that kind of relationship is when they want their culture to be the dominant part in the relationship ans you are not allowed to practice yours. That is why for people who are not comfortable to change and adjustment they prefer to stick to where they are comfortable with.
• India
6 Mar 09
Hi, I do not have any problem to marry some girl from a different culture. As you said love has no boundaries and it does not know any cultural difference. So, if I love someone then it should not make any difference. Moreover, I am too curious to know about other cultures and I would definitely be interesting in learning that culture also and I may also get to learn a new language, so 'why not'..
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• Singapore
6 Mar 09
hey you know i was thinkign very much like you. and doesn't mean that 2 people from the same culture would have a no-problem relationship as compared to 2 people from different cultures right. i honestly think it's all about communication and respect.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
6 Mar 09
If I was in love with someone from a different culture, I would probably marry them. The difference though is if it is someone I am willing to date, I am opening myself to love them. If I can see being their friend, but I am not willing to go out with them..I think the culture would have to be similar to the one in which I live. My daughter married someone from a different culture. I love her husband like a son, he is kind considerate and was very good for my daughter. I guess we just can't tell our "hearts" what to feel.
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• Singapore
6 Mar 09
yup. when love strikes it strikes in the most unexpected way ehx.
@mimibt (52)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
Most of the time one marries another for the reason of love. Whether each has their own culture I believe it should not be an issue, unless of course the marriage was arranged and that would be a different story. So as for me since I'm not and will not be in an arranged marriage my answer would be yes I would marry a man whose culture is different from mine.
• United States
6 Mar 09
I would consider marrying someone from a different culture though I think it can get very complicated especially if you speak different languages. The other person may feel left out when they're around your family and can't understand what's been said. And When you have children and you want to teach them your language or pass on your tradition that may be an issue too. But at the end of the day I guess it just depends on how understanding and open minded both parties are to each others cultures.
@ninaluv (338)
• Nigeria
6 Mar 09
You are so right, love has no boundries. my boyfriend is from a completely different culture and tradition. as a matter of fact, i wouldnt have considered having any thing to do with anyone from there, but we are inlove, and there's nothing i can do about it. i just have to learn to adjust. it might not be easy learning the language, but we both speek and hear english, and i think that's enough. i dont have problems with marrying from a different culture at all. thanks.
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@gicolet (1702)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I am married with someone who has a different culture. It's tough at first but since we have mutual love and respect for each other it survives. Respect for each other's culture is very important. If one is not open-minded enough to respect the other's culture then there will be a problem and needless to say the relationship is not going to work out. Love is not enough in this case.
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@elysium (169)
• United States
7 Mar 09
I would marry someone from a different culture. My boyfriend does not have the same culture as me, but we are very happy together. My boyfriend and I have known and been with each other for over two years now. All that should matter is their personality. The only problem in an interracial marriage might be the language - if you do not speak multiple languages. Anyways, you can not change a person's mind if they already have their mind set.
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@cindyhxf (1446)
• China
7 Mar 09
you are right,love has no boundaries.different culture just on reason for marriage.there are many reasons for marriage,such as values for life,different habit and character etc.it is really ignorant to judge by one reason to marry or not marry i think.good luck !
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• India
6 Mar 09
Hi waise to iam married but if have to answer ur question i will say that u r absolutely correct ,love has no boundaries,and if i love somebody culture is not a matter to bother for.
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• United States
7 Mar 09
I am engaged to be married to a man of a different culture and race. i see no problem with it at all. The heart wants what it wants, and you can't control that.
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• United States
6 Mar 09
If that person and i have mutual respect, understanding, good communication coupled with L O V E. Surely i would marry someone from a different culture. There is nothing that says marrying someone from the same culture is a perfect match and will be problem free.
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• Philippines
10 Mar 09
Cultural differences is not a problem with two people who really love each other. My bf is a Belgian guy, he lives in Brugge and I live in the Philippines. We met here in the Philippines when he was here for business last year. Amidst the distance and 7 hours time difference, we didn't have problems with our long distance relationship.
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
7 Mar 09
i don't know
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I think we all want someone who understands us and that includes cultural things. BUt I think if he understood my culture and I understood his, then I think we would be able to make it work if we loved each other.
• India
10 Mar 09
hey i place love above all the discriminations....be it racial be it religion, region, cultural whatsoever hey not gender one okay.....i like only girls.....so we're not talking about gender discrimination here....
@Jyc921 (35)
• Taiwan
7 Mar 09
I don't think this is a matter. If you really love the guy/girl, you shouldn't be influenced by his culture. Does it make a difference? There's only one race, right? The race human. Ofcourse you would prefere someone with the same culture, it would be easier to live with, but why not?
@Archie0 (5636)
6 Mar 09
well it depends you cannot say that you can or cannot, because my parents aceptance also depends on this if they dont like then i cannot just do things which will hurt them. but still it depends on me if i like a person and we both are happy then my parents wont disagree, it depends on how good i understand my partner.i will definetly marry outside my culture
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