Is it better to live together first before getting married?

United States
March 6, 2009 12:22pm CST
I'm just really curious to know whether it's better to first live together with the person that you're planning on getting married to and spending the rest of your life with, before going ahead and exchanging those vows "for better or worse till death do us apart."
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@zedlav23 (458)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
In my point of view, I don't think that living with a person to simply assure yourself that you won't make any mistake just in case you get married in the end is already a big mistake itself. First it shows that you don't trust the person and you are doubtful that your relationship would work. Second thing, if you live together and the girl gets pregnant along the way you are either way bound by a certain form of responsibility already. Third, if you will just take things as a trial and error you might find yourself sleeping and living with a dozen men or women and still at a lost of your ideal man or woman. Relationships will never be perfect. There will always be something that you will find annoying in your partner. But living together just for the sake of discovering your partner's flaws is a total nonesense for me. Married life is still a getting-to-know process so it would be better knowing a person under the bond of marriage and accepting it on a day to day basis. happy weekend.
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• United States
9 Mar 09
I have gone the live-in route before, and never again. It does not show commitment to the relationship, just roommates with benefits. If you are looking for a committed relationship, then I say no, leave the trying on for size to clothes and shoe shopping.
• United States
22 Aug 09
LOL that's so funny yet so true! I've never heard it put that way before....it surre makes a lot of sense though.Thanks.
• United States
6 Mar 09
I was against thins for a long time. I think if people feel this is needed than yes. I don't plan to have anyone moving in with me. we can live separate and date forever. I can't do the house wife thing or the maid thing. It's not in me.
• United States
6 Mar 09
I totally understand what you're saying. Sometimes I just wonder whether living together helps you have an idea about what your getting yourself into before you actually tie the knot.
@come998 (69)
• China
7 Mar 09
Oh ,I think that's your right!But in my vision ,good girls never live with any person before married,the minds of mine is strong .If you done ,but the one dont love you like before ,you and he say goodbye after the sun appears form darks,then is it is fair to the nect one you will get married???