if nagging doesn't get things done, why still nag?

Philippines
March 8, 2009 12:17am CST
hi all! i have heard that nagging does not get things done. the wife is left exhausted while the husband is irritable from the constant griping. sometimes, this situation ends ugly. so even if nagging doesn't help a relationship, and it is not helpful for both spouses, then why do wives continue to nag? seriously, if nagging doesn't work, then i guess we wives should find another solution. like if the husband doesn't do something, the probably we find another, more pleasant way to get them to do it. i just think that if they are happy and not grouchy from the nagging, they will happily do the things we ask them to. i dunno, maybe that is a hypothesis, but i noticed that if my husband is happy, he also happily obliges, even when i ask him to help in the housework. so i guess we should change tactics and not resort to nagging. i think that will make us happier as married couples, don't you think? so come on, do share your thoughts on this. take care all and God bless you! happy mylotting! :)
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14 responses
@liaamur (420)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
i honestly don't know how to start nagging, but i do feel that i nag sometimes, although he says i don't. i have things done even when i don't nag, i think it depends on the person's motivation to do as your bidding...and of course, what you're trying to make them do.,
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@emilie2300 (1892)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Honestly I think nagging is just part of our nature. We dont like to be nagged at but we do it to. I am sure we can help it but can we actually stop nagging. Maybe its a part of life. We grew up to be nagged at and to nag. Sorry to say it but maybe.
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
8 Mar 09
You are right to the core of the object. Me a hubby of a wife knows it what irritating a nagging is ( not by my wife, but heard ones ) Even if I am not in my mood she would come up so nicely to get the thing done that I am forced to oblige. Amor vini vinciad.
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 Mar 09
Nagging is a bad habit for marriage.it always hurt your spouse and lost your face.it is not way to compain too much in life.i didn't like my ex-husband's nagging ,i alwasy got mad if he tried to make me follow him.just give each other place.it will be good for each other.Take care.
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@gicolet (1704)
• United States
8 Mar 09
I hardly nag but when I do it means my button has been pushed too hard. Constant nagging doesn't work because men don't like to listen to something he doesn't really want to do or he thinks he can't do nothing about. Don't be surprised if he'd rather watch the game on tv than make an effort to do what you want him to do or wish he'd do. Sometimes silent treatment works. Don't say anything (about what irritates you) for a couple of days and you'll see...he'll say something for a change and maybe he would change his mind and will be ready to compromise. Communication is very important but nagging is unfortunately not the key to start a communication. I've gone from nagging and shouting at the top of my lungs and it never worked. He ignored me more. If there's something that gets a man's attention it's silence. And when the real communication takes place take that opportunity to get him to compromise. You know sometimes it has to sound "business" to get what we want from our personal relationship with our man. Hope that makes sense. Take care.
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@sharay (2778)
• India
8 Mar 09
My hubby has never given me a chance to nag at all, i remember doing that with my parenst before marriage, but not afterwards, for my hubby is so loving and can do anythign for me to see me happy even when not asked by me
@irishidid (8119)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Sounds like a keeper.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
10 Mar 09
I think that I have to say that nagging does not help and can only cause distance if for nothing else but a few minutes. It's still a bad thing to do, and I have noticed that I have gotten in the habit of it myself. I actually read this discussion and then nagged my fiance in a way! I'm trying to not do things like this as I know that nagging can go both ways and he in turn can nag me.
@vheilugto (149)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
i am a man, single and no married. lolz, but i've experience those kind of a girl love to nag, and its make me really irritated. grrr! so for me the st solution for that, have some intimate talk. than nagging. because when you nag your man, he will think that you dont deserve to be there partner. trust me, that's the way they think!
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Yeah, I agree with you. Well, I'm not that type who nags to my husband because I believe if a man doesn't like to do a thing or extend a hand, no matter if you nag the 24/7 he really won't do it! But if your man is really that responsible type well, he just does things with you being effortless on him.
• United States
9 Mar 09
As a husband, I can tell you that a nagging wife is not a good thing. I for one tend to try and get things done to help keep the nagging down to a minimum. Now let me explain how things can be done to make everyone happier. First you know that Sundays are sports. Why bother during that time. If you married this man, you knew he liked sports before you got married. Let him watch them on Sundays. Thats really about it. Also, try to show that when your husband does do something your glad. If you ignore it because it is expected, believe me he will believe that you dont care if it gets done or not.
@rav2187 (49)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Bcuz Nagging isn't just being bichy. It's about being EVIL!! Nagging is the devil's work!!! Thus proving no matter how many ribs you give Eve she's still an ungrateful bittch that won't leave you alone during the 4th quarter!!! Why? Why do people feel the need to nag? ?That's the million dollar question. I think it's bcuz they are miserable selfish people wanting to make others feel their BS.
@Barbietre (1442)
• United States
8 Mar 09
I tell my husband that all the time when he nags. What he fails to realize that after awhile one turns off the nagger and does not even hear what they say. b It is not just wives, I am not nore ever will be a nagger, I know it does not help.
@irishidid (8119)
• United States
8 Mar 09
There would be no reason for nagging if men would just do what the woman has asked. Period.
• India
8 Mar 09
I am not yet married,so I really dont know why do wives really nag.But one thing is that there are some people who has a nagging habbit.I have seen that some couples like nagging.There are few husbands who loves his wive to nag in front of him, it increases there love and nothing else.But there should be a limit in every thing.Nagging shouldn't go on always.