Can you cheat on a person you truly in love with?

cheating - cheating is a killer of love
@ana3173 (420)
Philippines
March 8, 2009 12:00pm CST
this question was asked by so many people always. i just want to know your point of views about this guys. my view is that if you really love that person dont do anything to jeopardize, to hurt, to cheat someone you lover because pure love doesn't come along very often. hold onto it and do everything to nurture it. Cheating is a killer of love. cheaters deserve no respect. cheaters don't deserve forgiveness if he/she continue his/her habit of cheating. a cheaters deserves only a cheater like him. if you love your man/ woman stay with them and be loyal.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
8 Mar 09
You are right, when you truly do love someone, cheating should never come into the equation. Love with a cheating partner is not love, but just a mockery of the feelings. I don't believe that someone who cheats and then says that they do love the person they cheated on knows what they are talking about at all
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@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
i agree that what your cheating partner feels for you is not true love, its just like what he feels towards others, he may continue flirting with somebody because the boy actually not really in love with you what he really wants is only a game, and counting, collecting past times. this is what he really feel of a happy go lucky person, hes not serious about a relationship, he doesn't even know the true meaning of love. so girls avoid this kind of a person. he ready to play a game always. remember its hard to accept betrayal it really hurts, betrayal is hard to swallow.
@Krisneil (577)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
No I cant,, If you truly love one person, you will not do anything that can hurt his/her feelings..XDD
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@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
yah thats right krisneil if you really love your partner you wont do anything to hurt his feeling. thanks for your response, your response is highly appreciated. Happy mylotting. have a nice day!
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@weemam (13389)
8 Mar 09
I agree with you 100%. I met my hubby 50 years ago , we have been married for 48 years and the reason we are happy is that we always put the other first , There is no way I would have ever cheated , I would never trust someone who has cheated , Wee xx
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• Philippines
9 Mar 09
im so inspired by your relationship, hope my husband and i would be like you guys...
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@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
wow! how lucky you are ! you deserve each other, the secret to a successful relationship is faithfulness again, loving each other so dearly, put God first second is our love ones. nice to hear from you that your married for 48 years now. im happy for you guys , you're a good example to everybody, have a nice day!
@weemam (13389)
11 Mar 09
Thank you both xx Wee xx
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
i will never cheat to the person i love. As much as possible i would like to keep our relationship pure and flawless. If i really love that person, we would give our loyalty, respect and happiness. Its impossible to say "i truly love you" but "i love another.."
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@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
yes i agree with you, how can a person say this words " i love you" and yet in love with another, are you fooling yourself? if you can do this to yourself why no to others also. this one question i always want to asked to an unfaithful partner.
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
Tehre is no reason for me to cheat the person I truly love, that is, my husband. Since I don't want cheating on a relationship, why should I do it? We should be trusting each other for the relationship to last longer.
@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
yes theres no reason to be unfaithful to someone we love and love us, if we are contented we remain faithful to our husband.
• India
8 Mar 09
Never ever cheat on ur beloved that is my advice to u.I've been in love once and it was a happy relationship,u know why it we were happy coz we never cheated on each other.
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@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
yes its a secret of a relationship to remain faithful with each other. and yes the ending of this is a happy ending , a happy relationship. good luck to you" hope your relationship will remain forever!
@ninaluv (338)
• Nigeria
8 Mar 09
You are right, it's very wrong to cheat on someone you claim to love. like me, i love my man so dearly, and nothing in this world would make me cheat on him. i was disscussing this with a friend a couple of weeks ago, and she told me that i'm yet to see a good reason, that if i do, i wont think twice. then i told her that this is me, i dont know about her, but very sure of myself. love is not all about money or looks, cos she was trying to argue that if i see some one more cute than he is, or richer than him, that i'll deffinatly look back. love is special, and like u rightly said, true love is not easy to comeby. Thanks for your wonderful post.
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@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
yes my dear, we will love somebody not because of money and looks, its because of his personality , a good character. if we can only buy true love , true person,an honest , a faithful lover, we will do that. but its hard my dear, remember money cant buy anything especially love. its good to hear you saying that you love your man, hes so lucky. thanks for your response, happy mylotting!
• United States
17 Apr 09
First of all I have to say that cheating is the ultimate deal breaker. Once someone cheats in a relationship, that's the end of it. That boundary should never be crossed especially when you claim to love someone. I would never want that kind of love. When your so deeply in love with someone you would never turn your back against them by getting in bed with someone else. Love is a very powerful thing and cannot be played with. If that line is crossed then just know the person never truly loved you at all or their definition of love is totally screwed up and wrong!
• United States
29 Mar 09
I both agree and disagree. I agree that if you really love someone you don't hurt them , I disagree because of the time when your love axts like he/she doesn't love you, you still love them but for some reason, they are distant and you are lonely. I can see where an affair could start eventhough you still love your partner.It is the wrong thing to do but it hapopens all the time. The thing to do is to leave And then get with someone else.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
11 Mar 09
What you said is very true. If you loved someone, you would not even think about doing anything to hurt his/her feelings. And you are right, cheaters don't deserve forgiveness, they choose to cheat, they gotta suffer, to afford the consequence.
• United States
11 Mar 09
I have been married for 13 years to the same man. We also got married very young. I was 17 years old at the time. I love him very much. There was a time where I strayed. After I spent time with the other person I realized how special the man I had was. I know this sounds crazy but I actually love him more after that and I would never do it again. He never found out and I would never tell him. But like I said after the affair I can honestly say that we are 1000 times closer than we ever were.
@preppy (28)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Mar 09
You cannot cheat to someone you truly love because Love is repect, honesty and discipline. These are the best gift or greatest gift you could give to some one you trully love, cheating destroys the foundation of love and causes emptiness to someone... Not all of us are lucky to find that special someone who could complete the puzzles in us...more often we encounter people who are just meant to pass by..
@prasanta (1947)
• India
10 Mar 09
I do not know whether "cheating is a killer of love" or not, but I generally by nature , do not cheat anyone. So, I am least bothered. However, one point I would like to raise here. It often occurs that someone is cheating me -- which is afterwards found not so. Then people are left with nothing but repentance.
@jane188 (59)
• China
10 Mar 09
someone has said that if you love her/him,just stay toghter and don't try to find out what his/her past was, love his/her present and future . so i think there is no need to cheat our lover, if him /her really love you ,it will be fine wahtever happens
@alottodo (3062)
• Australia
10 Mar 09
I was married twice and I never cheated and I don't think any of my husbands did either. To me cheating is the ultimate hurt we can inflict to another person whether is your husband/ boy friend/wife/ or friends, or any one for that matter if I know someone cheated on me I would be dissapointed, sad, and I would never trust this person again.
@KrauseHome (34723)
• United States
9 Mar 09
Personally I have never understood why a person would want to cheat on a person they really Love? Especially when you are married. I just think sometimes people are only blinding themselves when they begin to think why not, and try something else. If you are in Love, that is the easiest way to wreck a relationship and to me that is Crazy. Because once a person or couple cheats you can never go back, and it will never be the same.
• India
9 Mar 09
no i won't be able to cheat upon a person who i truly as true love comes from within deep down inside ur heart & there is mutual redpect & admiration for your partner . so cheating is a bad option as my in my loves happiness and it would feel like we are cheating not our love but just ourselves.
@nansheeca (215)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
i agree with you that if you really love a person, then you should be content with you both have. and never entertain temptations. and always believe in karma. that whatever you do, good or bad, it will come back to tenfolds...
@Kate007 (17)
• China
9 Mar 09
Hi, ana3173,i think people should always tell the truth to their lover, that's the basic of a realationship.But have you ever think aobut this kind of condition?: Sometimes people have to say some "Kindly lie".i mean, sometimes if a family suffered some difficult problems, but the husband don't want his wife worried about this, so he face the prolems all by himself and told lie to his wife that everything is okay, if so, i think the "lie" is really sweet and will make the couple more closer.So, if a person lied to her or his lover from kindly thought, then i think that's would be okay.^-^
@coolchai (700)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
hi there, sometimes people are tempted to do what they dont want to happen to them and one of them is cheating. we are human and are bound to cheat if we are weak. so what you can do is to prevent yourself from cheating. staying away from flirtatious conversation that you know yourself you are weak to become involve. stay away from friends whom you know who can lead you onto something you dont want to be in. so for short you can just protect yourself from cheating, in this way you can prevent doing silly things such as finding a new problem in your good relationship with someone. goodluck!