irritating co-passengers!!!!

Philippines
March 8, 2009 12:45pm CST
Have you ever experienced riding in a public transport like here in the Philippines, we have what we call the jeepney. Only to be seated beside with an irritating and annoying co-passenger? Are you one of those people who will just squeeze theirselves in, unmindful and uncaring of the person already seated there comfortably beside you? First and foremost, there is a ruling in public transports. And that means, first come, first seated!!! YOU DON’T SQUEEZE YOURSELF IN when you already saw that there is just enough space left for you to be seated. What you see is what you will have. Nothing more, nothing less. UNLESS that person beside you DECIDES TO GIVE YOU EXTRA ROOM, and that is, if there's extra space left! I remember this episode I've had a year ago. My son and I boarded a jeepney. Because the fare was a little pricey, I made him sit on my lap instead. We were waiting for the jeepney to be filled up with other passengers, and we were waiting COMFORTABLY. Then, this big lady comes up and SQUEEZED HERSELF IN SO HARD that I was really sandwiched between her and the other person on my right. I told myself ok so maybe I'm a little uncomfortable here. As long as I'm safely seated so I can properly and safely hold on to my son. The next thing I know, I felt this heavy pressure on my left side. This woman had the audacity to lean on me!!!! She really was so insensitive. She already squeezed herself in, giving me no option but to scoot forward. I can't lean my back anymore to the seat because I was supporting half her weight!!! Totally unbelievable!!! The jeepney was streaking down the expressway like crazy, I had to hold on for dear life so my son won't get thrown forward, and to add to my misery, I had to carry her weight because she was fast asleep!!!! She should be grateful that I unboarded that jeep without any incident. If I had a more crude personality, she will be hearing things from me. But I didn't say a thing because for one, I respected her age being way older than me, and two, I do not make a habit of making a public scene. And to that woman, I just hope she realizes whatever she is doing. Because sooner or later, she is bound to get in trouble for her kind of behavior. Have you had a similar experience? What did you do about it?
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
8 Mar 09
i dont usually ride a public transport if i know that it is crowded already. sometimes the driver will still insist to take more passengers for they always say that the jeep can load eight passengers in each row and no matter how small or how big the passengers are the driver will still insist that it is a eight seater. so the tendency is to squeeze in. and if a person next to me is sleeping well i will tell her that, if a person next to me has a long hair and her hair brushes at my face i will tell her that too. i payed for this ride just like they do so i can say what i want to say. so for me the moral of it all is i dont ride when it is crowded and if i dont have much of a choice i just go down to find another jeepney.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Hi roni Nice to hear from you again. That's the problem with our jeepney drivers. They will try so hard to pack their passengers, like sardines!The problem is, if a passenger who has a larger built will surely take up extra space. And instead of being an 8 seater, it will be reduced. But no. There are some drivers who refuse to see it that way. They will still insist on their 8 seater even if it means,a big discomfort for the passengers. Now, with those people who have long hair. I don't understand why they can't hold on to it for awhile. From where I live, we need to cross the expressway to reach Manila. And when it comes to crossing the expressway, it means the wind will be a challenge. But I've seen women who have long hair who feels as if they're in a shampoo commercial!I don't know if it doesn't occur to them that the passenger next to them is already being "strangled" by their flying hair!And being whipped in the face by those long hair, in a speeding vehicle in an expressway is no joke!It hurts!
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
oh yes i really hate that. and i know what you are saying. we used to live at Fortune Valenzuela. for us to get to caloocan we need to ride a jeepney and if we need to go to manila we need to ride a mini bus. so i understand regarding the drivers and the hairs as well, and i am not loving it. now i am from marikina already and i still ride the jeepney luckily i dont need to ride the one who needs to be fully packed before they travel
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• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Hey! I lived for several months in Fortune Valenzuela, too. When I graduated from high school, my uncle had a small house in Fortune. I lived there while working in my uncle's ceramic factory and being an STI student. Now, my biggest problem living in Fortune was the flood at the market place. I was stuck in the house whenever there's flood because the pedicab drivers ask for a steep price if you want to get to McArthur Hi-way.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
9 Mar 09
That must of realy been unconfortable but dont know that I would hold my tounge. I dont like rude people and I do let them know real fast. we call the busses over here and last time I rode one back in 93 I had to stand there just wasnt a place to set at all.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Hi again Lakota Nice to hear from you again. I saw your profile in Raia's new website. I'm a member too. But still struggling with my way there. I'm having a problem with the Groups category. I just don't know how to access it. Anyway, it was really uncomfortable. Combined with her weight on my left side plus my son's weight on my lap, I was trying to hold on to my patience and stop myself from nudging her hard to wake her up. And tell her, she should have taken more hours of sleep before going out of her house. And making someone her own special pillow!
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
9 Mar 09
that must have been real hard to do. As for Raias site I have no problems with it The groups after you hit the tab for them are really easily explained so ya know what one to go to . I usually do the laff one and and put jokes in. Also have learned how to put pics in too as I put all the grafic things in my favs then just go and look around till I find what I want lol Will have to look for ya there!
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• Philippines
9 Mar 09
I'm known as "Tina" with a pink flower as my avatar. But I'll send you an invitation instead so you can add me up as one of your friends. :)
• Malaysia
9 Mar 09
public transport - Actually, we live in civilized country which supposedly, citizens need to have practice common discipline regardless of special or specific rules and regulations. From your story, especially when one is an older than the others. The older person should has more moral value compare to younger generation. But, due to high level of self-centered attitude implemented, the "no problem" party or person does creates many problem.
YOUR PARAGRAPH 7 I almost ROFL on reading your discussions for these words "I had to carry her weight because she was fast asleep!!!!"...LOL!. You are a great raconteur, where your story journal skilled in relating stories and anecdotes interestingly. Thanks for providing true life story of yours something cherish my day, today. COMMON DISCIPLINARY PRACTICE Actually, we live in civilized country which supposedly, citizens need to have practice common discipline regardless of special or specific rules and regulations. From your story, especially when one is an older than the others. The older person should has more moral value compare to younger generation. But, due to high level of self-centered attitude implemented, the "no problem" party or person does creates many problem. PUBLIC TRANSPORT OPERATOR One more thing to highlight from your good point of discussion, on speeding issue. Operator should not go beyond the basic operating guideline in public transport speed regulation, that is why it is included in vocational factor or element. Before one driver handle and control public transport vehicle, they must have another mandatory additional license for PVL(Public Vocational License). Where, they have been educate and edify how to manage their passenger's comfort and life. Matter of fact, it is inter-related with the insurance coverage which is not only to their vehicle but it also covers up their passenger's benefits. MY CONCLUSION The relevant authority should take this issue very serious, actually. Couple up with an effective enforcement law and enactment, in ensuring the public transport does grows in contributing win-win-situation among operator and user. Passengers discipline and attitude also, need to be enhanced through effective public announcement medium, such as; radio, newspaper and inboard notice stick inside any public transport vehicle. well packed
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Hello michael Last year, there were several bus accidents that happened here in the Philippines. Due to reckless drivers. The drivers feel as if they're on a race track. There were passengers that have been seriously hurt. And there's one incident that involved two public bus transports and a private car. There was one fatality. A well-known eye doctor who owned several well-established eye clinics. These two buses, if I'm not mistaken were racing. It was past midnight. And this unfortunate doctor was caught between the two speeding vehicles. As it turned out, his car was hit and suddenly burst into flames. That doctor was killed instantly. And he was also burned.
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• Malaysia
9 Mar 09
Oh My Gosh, that both reckless "racing" drivers should be punished with extra sentences, especially, adding up "whip" sentence to the related law. To greatly discourage their notorious activity and its sensationalism. To ensure that there will be no more the same kind of happening in future. Thanks a lot for your great quality comment to my response. Wish you good health and wealth.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
hehe these things happen in our daily ride to the jeepney to and from our home.. :D i experienced the same as well when a woman squeezed her self in between me and the girl to my left. since she is not able to do this, she sat on my lap and the other lady to my left's lap and she did a childish motion of putting in her butt in.
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• Philippines
23 Apr 09
Hi chiyosan! Now, that's what I call, guts!Instead of deciding to board another jeepney, she decided to sit on you both.
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
If I were in your shoes, I would have definitely woken up the big lady and told her that I was uncomfortable because she was leaning on me. You were far more passive than I was. There was a time when I boarded the bus and this guy was playing music from his cellphone in loudspeakers because he apparently doesn't have a pair of earphones. I asked the bus conductor to tell him off because I couldn't hear the movie sounds because of him. He decreased the volume but didn't turn it off. I took his picture for a souvenir :) I still have it and am thinking about posting it on my blog- I don't think I'm going to get into any trouble since it would only see a part of the side of his face :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!
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• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I had a similar experience. But in my case, there was no tv and these two teenage girls were having a blast from the loud music coming from their cellphone. Some passengers were starting to look at them, but they seem unaffected by the stares. Fortunately, they immediately boarded off the bus and everything was quiet again.
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
I do experience the same thing. I just keep on holding my breath until I reach my place. There is one time when I boarded a jeepney and when I finally find a seat, a man moved his leg for me to get into his leg. It was so annoying but I have to make him feel that I ignored or else I have to ride another jeep again. Different people different personality and we just have to accept it.
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• Philippines
30 Mar 09
Hi. You're right Different people and different personality. Sometimes we don't have any choice but to accept that reality or else, we'll be having a bad day, everyday.
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
14 Mar 09
Jeepney - Jeepney is a way of transportation in the Philippines like a bus we have in China.
Hello jcj. While I am sorry to know that, I think that you are very good natured about the lady squeezing to sit next to you. I also wish her not to get into trouble next time for her improper social behavior. Anyway, I am glad that you got off the jeepney safe and sound. Good luck to you, friend.
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• Philippines
16 Mar 09
Patience does go a long way, william. And like you, I do hope that woman will realize that behaving like that in public transports may cause trouble for her next time.
@liaamur (420)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
heheh... what happened to you is funny, and that happens to most of us. i have had the misfortune of "almost" being squashed by a 200-lb guy myself, he actually thought i wasn't there when he started to sit. but my most irritating experience of this kind is when someone flirted with me on the bus. there are just some pervert who have no qualms of displaying what they are, no matter where! this guy was trying to reach my body by hiding his hand under his other arm, in whatever position allows it. i try to block it the first 3 times, but he keeps doing it. so what i did was take the safety pin that used to hold the insides of my bag (lucky, isn't it), hid it under my arm too, and pointed it to his side. when the road became bumpy and he slid himself into me, my pin was ready. his flushed face when he jumped was priceless. hahah. i won.
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• Philippines
11 Mar 09
UH-oh!!!It's a good thing it was an "almost"! And as for the safety pin, little things do come very, very handy indeed. That ought to teach that guy a lesson. I'm guessing the next time he wants to do his perverted ways again, he'll be thinking twice!!!
@maximax8 (28256)
• United Kingdom
9 Mar 09
I was spending some time in Sydney, Australia. I was taking the ferry from Circular Quay to Manly, a beach resort. I was sitting at the front next to an old lady. A man came and stood right in front of our view. The old lady got a newspaper out of her shopping bag and rolled it up. She banged him with it and said "would you get yourself out of our view". So I was really surprised.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Now that's what I call, "Calling your attention!" That man must have been so surprised he couldn't react! Hmmm... I must try that sometimes. If I don't end up in any trouble!
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Oh my gosh! If that was me, I would have said something. Well, perhaps I wouldn't want to create a scene too, but it's too much, I won't shout or something, but I think I'd say, "excuse me, the seat can barely cover my a$$ and I have a kid here too, would you mind?!" I think she would get the point.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Maybe it was just her lucky day. I must have woken up that day with extra patience. But the experience was too uncomfortable. And she was heavy!!!
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
I admire your patience by not being rude with your co-passenger and at the same time I feel sorry for what happened to you and mad at the lady who was very inconsiderate with you and your son. I had the same experience before but not to the point that the passenger beside me is already sleeping and I am almost carrying his or her weight. In my case since I was quite thin when I was in college where I used to ride in a jeepney 5 to 6 times a week for about maximum of 4 jeepneys a day whenever I go to the university, I had to always give way to fatter people. I had to move forward and I could no longer lean my back anymore. Just like you I don't like to make scandal or any acts than could catch public's attention. And what I do is to look at the person beside with the message in my eyes asking him or her to sit properly if there is still enough space or at least never lean on me if the jeepney is already full. I hate that jeepney drivers sometimes never care on the convenience of their passengers as long as they are earning more. Sometimes me and my husband prefers riding in a jeepney with less passengers so we can sit comfortably. We are all passengers and we are paying the same so we should have the same comfort as others. And I always believe that if you came in last then bear the consequences and you have no right to push or squeeze those who came to ride first. I know that those who came first should also be considerate to those new passengers but that attitude should end if their own comfort is already affected, which means the jeepney can no longer accommodate or is having a hard time to accommodate more passengers.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Hi Yori Thank you. It did take a lot of patience not to give in to my anger at that time. I just hope she doesn't encounter someone who will do the very opposite way I've done. Not only will she be hearing negative things but will be insulted as well. You're right. We all should have equal rights because we pay our fare in full. Now, there's no problem with me giving extra room. If there's any to give. Sometimes, I give up my comfortable seat to give way for other passengers who needs it more. But I really can't tolerate people who try to squeeze theirselves in even it it's obvious there's no more extra room. And I don't also like passengers who will just sit down without any care if they might sit on other passengers by accident. I've experienced that several times and the victims are my thighs.
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
I had a fair share of such... On the front seat I politely asked my fellow passenger to make a little room for both of us... instead he raised his voice and told me to get off i was just a poor high school student back then... One thing is smoking inside the jeepney two guys went in I assume they were from the province for they were carrying bags or construction workers I guess... Both of them lighted... Oh man...Some kids would board play their makeshift tin can drums and ask for money afterwards is another...
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@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
9 Mar 09
i hardly take public transport nowadays because my hubby always drive me wherever i want to go... so i guess i am a lucky woman... but in the past when i am taking public transport, i experience what you experienced... there are annoying passengers who will just squeeze themselves beside me and it is so annoying... anyway, hopefully this incident won't happen again to you in the future and you are a very nice and patient person for not saying anything to the lady... take care and have a nice day...
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• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Hi lingli You are lucky indeed. Sometimes, using public transports can ruin a person's day. Due to either rude drivers or the passengers. So, in order not to be stressed out by these people, we do need a LOT OF PATIENCE. And thank you for those comments. I have a lot of respect for people way older than me. and sometimes even I want to "retaliate" , I still can't do it.
• United States
9 Mar 09
Hi, One time I rode in an airplane with tiny seats and a very large man squeezed himself beside me. Not only that, but he had a bad odor. As you know you can't open the windows in the plane either! haha...That was a horrible experience!
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
That was a funny one!And I just can imagine the way you have "suffered". Trying to squeeze theirselves in, is one thing, but to have the extra "something-something" is another!And to endure it the rest of the trip!Indeed, I believe you. It was a horrible experience, too hard not to forget!
@jshekhar (1563)
• India
9 Mar 09
I have had the good fortune of having faced better and more co operative fellow passengers whenever I travel. Here in Delhi, you hardly get the time to get involved with the passenger sitting on the seat next to you in a public bus or metro because they have made really comfortable seats here. On top of that, I am of slim built so even if a relatively fat and healthy man/woman sits next to me, I am able to travel without any hassles. The more irritating part is that when you are on a 30 hour long train journey and then some irritating passengers make your journey hell. They would fight for everything, starting from the luggage occupancy to the seats, the stipulated timing to switch on and off the lights, etc. These people do not realize what disturbance they are causing to others and they are selfish. However, I do not meet them everyday and whenever I do, I respond with an eye for an eye. I believe that is the right way to go about things.
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Sometimes, using public transports can ruin one's day. Not to mention the long trips you have said. Now, that is one experience I do not want to come across one day. It's already hard to sit for long hours, and to be harassed by other passengers who doesn't seem to care that they are being a total nuisance to others. It is indeed fortunate that these things don't happen in a daily basis.
• Canada
8 Mar 09
Transit in this city is terrible, and it's not just the passengers that dish it out. The bus drivers sometimes can make your ride downright nasty. There was one incident where my husband was on a bus once, and the driver wouldn't let anyone sit in the disabled seat area. The seats were up for a wheelchair, but no one was boarding the bus in one. This frail old lady gets on the bus, passengers try to put the seats down for her, and the bus driver tells them no way, that no one was allowed to sit there. I can't believe that, it's totally insane. I think the woman managed to get a seat, but that driver should have been reported. I've had people nearly sit on me once, bash me with parcels and backpacks, and even had them yelling at me once when I hurt myself after the driver of one bus stopped suddenly because of a drunk pedestrian who ran out in front of the bus. They thought I was faking and were mad because the bus had to be put out of service and it was late at night. The teenagers are so disrespectful when it comes to music. Now that cell phones have music, they leave them on constantly. CD players are blasted so loud you can hear them all over the buses. But the drivers do nothing about it unless it bothers them. They don't care about the passengers. Some drivers are maniacs, they show no regard for their passengers when they're driving. If it's standing room only on the bus, they'll drive too fast, slam on the brakes and make it difficult for passengers to keep their balance. It's a shame that it doesn't happen to them so they can feel what it's like. Now I drive, and still deal with idiot bus drivers, the ones who drive like maniacs, trying to cut you off, not looking where they're driving. I've been in so many situations where I've almost been sideswiped or hit by buses. I hate public transit and am glad that I'll never have to take it again.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 09
Hello kris That driver has some big time personality issues!And you're right, he should have been reported. I'm a woman but I do give up my seat whenever I spot elderly people. I don't wait for a guy to stand up and do that. Because most don't do it anymore. The driver must be imagining things and thought someone was occupying that specific area. Sometimes, there are people who stick by the rules blindly. Just because those seats were for the disabled ones, doesn't mean he can't bend the rules a little. Especially when no one is there to use it! And as for you being hurt by the others belongings, I sympathize with you. I had the same thing happened to me several times, and I'm lucky if I hear an apology. With technology and teenagers, we can't win over them!You think they must have a hearing problem to turn up the volume so loud. My siblings and I joke about speeding public vehicles. And that is, not only must you grab on to something with both your hands. But you also need to grab on to something with both your feet!So, you're sure you won't be thrown forward with the way they drive so fast.
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
That's a very bad experience. Good thing you have chosen to remain calm. Please keep in mind to look at your possession too because even females are being used for crimes like snatching or any sort of theft. They just make a tactic or irritating passengers to destruct them. I always experience those insensitive passengers especially during peak hours I think once in a month. Even those very loud speaking or laughing group of teens as if they're in a private place or as if there's fire. Lols. Then when I was young I also got molested by an old man in a jeepney. It's a traumatic experience. Then there's some guys doing a very disturbing thing inside a public vehicle (Malicious act). That was in Manila. Then those who will reserve seat inside the train (MRT). The teen girl hurriedly took my seat while I was about to position myself and put her hand on the seat for her boyfriend. Good thing I also don't want to have a fight and make a scene inside the train. I just told her it's not allowed to reserve seats in public vehicles. Then she talked a lot of negative things. It's silly. And some guys take advantage of harassing women inside jeepney especially bus if it's two seat as if they're your boyfriend or husband. It's dangerous.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
yes i also experienced this often,why people wanted to seat in a place where it can not be,i usually observed that they suited their self just near in the door maybe because they don't like to be a conductor or the one who will receive the fare going to driver.