Did you ever wish you had been born into a rich family?

@maezee (32281)
United States
March 8, 2009 11:07pm CST
I stole this question from MoraChat, I hope they don't mind. . Do you ever wish you had been born into a rich or wealthy family? Or do you appreciate the lessons that being tight-on-money has forced you to learn? If your answer is yes, you have wished this in the past (or currently wish it), why do you say this? How would your life be different? Would your personality and priorities change? Do you think it would make your happier as a person? If your answer is no, why do you say this? Do you think bein' broke has taught you any valuable lessons? Thanks in advance!
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
I can't deny that I wished it before but, now that I have developed some awareness with things, I really appreciate being brought up in a life style that makes even the simple things enjoying. Being satisfied with simple things is enough for me. Getting better ones also gets me happy even though I know that there are far more similar items that are currently the best. I would often say in my mind, "If I had the latest, I would have already did more than what I could with the one I have.." but, I also know that even the best things today would eventually be replaced with something better.
@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Thanks for responding!
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
It was a very interesting discussion~! Your quite welcome (^_^ )
• Pakistan
9 Mar 09
NO. I never wish I were born into a rich family. What difference would it make except ultimately not having to work and stand on your own? As for lessons being not-so-rich has taught me, there are loads. I believe life would have no or very little purpose if I was filthy rich. It would jeopardize the taste of life which BTW is usually savory. Peace.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
So, you wouldn't want to be filty rich? What about "moderately wealthy"? Or would you just not change your situation at all? Interesting perspective, thanks!
• Pakistan
24 Mar 09
Moderately rich wouldn't hurt. Not at all! What I was trying to say was why WISH you were instead of trying to BECOME rich? And that you don't have to be able to use money for a blanket to be happy:). Oh and thanks for the very interesting discussion. Cheers.
@vickycity (155)
• China
24 Mar 09
No. I don't think money is sixty-four dollar question. that important about your family members. your father, your mother, your brother or sister and so on. money can make by myself. and members will not change.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Thanks for responding!
• United States
24 Mar 09
I don't. I like that I had to work for myself and get where I am through my own swat, and would never have it any other way. Thanks for the discussion.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Thanks. I agree, I have a certain amount of pride in myself too, for working while some people get everything in life for free. We learn a lot of valuable lessons and just have a better work effort than those who have just been handed everything they need in life. Thanks for responding, and for your great answer.
• India
16 Mar 09
I never wished that i had been born in a rich family. There maybe a lot of reasons for that...One is I personally have observed that kids having rich parents are dumb. I wish i would be really rich someday and for that i need something in my skull...My parents have always provided me....I have helped them by not asking anything that they couldn't... So i never wished to have been born in a rich family...
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
lol, well obviously not all rich kids are dumb - as that's a stereotype, and no one likes stereotypes. I know a few smart kids with wealthy parents, but at the same time, they don't know the "value of a dollar", as we working-class individuals call it. So, they kind of have a bum deal, although they don't have the daily worries that we do. Thanks for responding!
@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
The family i have now is not rich. But i love it and i find it great to be part of this family. Very loving, god fearing, kind, caring and understanding family. What i am now is because of my family. My parents is the best parents i could ever have. So i dont care if we are poor the important is, i have a great loving family that is the most and valuable family you could have in this earth.
@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Thanks for responding!
• New Zealand
10 Mar 09
I actually have thought of this and i have told myself it would not be good for me in the long run it would just lead to me getting everything i need and never learn to earn things for myself. so in the long run you would go out to the wide world not having any experience in working and it would come as a huge shock. So thats why i am glad to say i have not been born into a rich family i was born into a hard working and honest household
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I agree, in the long run, it probably wouldn't be a great idea. Thanks for responding, and good luck here at myLot!
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
10 Mar 09
Well I would be lying if I said I didnt wish that I was wealthy especially when I was a kid, because its not easy when you dont have much money, but the older I get the less often I think such things, I would much rather be financially comfortable and stable then rich, now dont get me wrong, if I suddenly became rich I definitely would not throw it a way, but I'm not really focusing on being rich, but to just be able to pay my bills without worrying if ill have enough to cover it each month would be a blessing in itself But aside from all that, there is really no point in wishing for something that just isent meant to be, we have to learn to try and make the best out of what life gives us, and I think not being wealthy kind of teaches me to be more thankful of certain things.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Mhmm, I agree. Thanks for responding!
• China
10 Mar 09
hello..i think i do wish i was born in a rich family. then i will have more opportunity to learn something i really interetsing at but for the not rich enough family so can't afford those extra tuition. ah...i really want to learn dance when i was young...and i can visist most of the scenic spot at my youngst, ah...what good would it be. what a nice dream...happy mylot.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
You make a good point; it seems like rich people have many more opportunities than those who aren't as wealthy. It's too bad. Slowly but surely the government is helping lower-income individuals out, but it's still not always enough. *sigh*. Thanks for responding and thanks for bringing me back to reality, here.
@ionsquare (534)
• Singapore
10 Mar 09
Hi, I never wish that I had been born into a rich family. I think my family has tried their best to provide me with what I need in life. I think future lies in our own hands and we can carve out a better future through our own means but not depends on our family. I think I will feel more confident and happy if I become rich in future through my own means.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
It's great that you sound so incredibly humble and thankful for what you have. It's nice to see that there are still people like you on earth!
@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
10 Mar 09
I wasn't born into a rich nor poor family. We're slightly better off than the average family in terms of physical wealth and finances, and we thank God for that. Like sciantel, God has always provided for us everyday of our lives, and we consider ourselves very blessed already and don't crave for more physical and material riches. Our lives are already very enriched because we live a happy life in a peaceful home environment, have wonderful family relationships, great friends around and enjoyable moments each day that we can only feel thankful for. One can be physically poor yet happy and satisfied...it really depends how one views living and whether God features in their lives.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Thanks for responding! A very mature and spiritual way of looking at things.
@lingzi (568)
• China
10 Mar 09
my answer is "no". i love my current family very mhcu,even every member of my family.although we aren" wealthy enough,but we have the most important thing between us,that is love. no matter how many money can not change .
@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I love my family too and of course I wouldn't trade them for anything either. Thanks for responding!
• United States
9 Mar 09
Back in high school, or even middle school, I would ask myself this and even sometimes think "yes!" because it appeared that life would have been easier for me. Actually, in some material ways, I guess it would have at that time in my life. I would have had the nice popular brand clothes and a new car to drive. I would have been able to afford veneers and trips with friends during the summer. I say high school and middle school, because when I was a young child in elementary school I was oblivious to material things for the most part. I didn't think about rich or poor, just that I loved having fun. My childhood was not "poor" in most ways. My mom did okay, we had what we needed, and things were fine. However, now looking back, I feel like being rich would have ultimately taken things away from my life rather than added them. I say this because I see those kids now that had that life, and they are not doing so great. Some still linger around the high school going to parties with teens that are now several years younger. They have no idea how to be financially independent and many live at home with their parents still in their 30's! They never learned life's lessons on how to save money, how to work and move up on the career ladders. They never learned how to make something out of nothing...and they were always too focused on material possessions to truly learn how to be a real friend and partner to other people. They fail at relationships, at jobs, at so many things. Now I do well for myself, although far from "rich" and have a happy marriage. I have three boys for which I care deeply for, but I work hard to make them understand that life isn't always fair. I teach them about money and how to spend wisely. I show them that they are lucky with whatever they have, and to be thoughtful of others. I will not buy them a car in high school, they will pay for it themselves, and I will not splurge on high dollar clothes for them. Once they are able to work, they will be responsible for the extra things they want out of life. It's an invaluable lesson that all parents should pass on.
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• United States
9 Mar 09
I wished that sometimes when I was a little kid growing up . I wished I could have pretty new dresses like some kids on the block instead of hand me downs. When your little you want the newest toys and pretty cloths . As you grow older you look at things diffently . I know I learned more from not having everything as a child . Now that I'm older I think less is better.
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@kelih61 (42)
• United States
9 Mar 09
my answer is no. i wouldn't trade my family for anything. i grew up with 5 older sisters and we didn't have alot of money but we had alot of love. do i want money? of course i do. i grew up well and usually got the one thing i wanted the most for Christmas and birthdays. i think not having everything you ever want is a good thing. i think it teaches you the value of money.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I don't think I meant to "trade families", but rather, your family had more money and was more financially stable, But a lot of people have been interpreting the question that way. I wouldn't trade my family for anything either. Thanks for responding!
@lucas16 (98)
• Philippines
9 Mar 09
id rather be an average guy who likes to earn money that to have money in your pocket when you grow up.. it is a thrill to strive harder and it is a challenge to make to the top.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Thanks for responding! That's a nice way of looking at it. A lot of people hate the "average" life, but it's nice to find someone who's satisfied with it.
@LeilaOO (61)
• China
9 Mar 09
hi maezee.A special discussion. Every time when I was working hard only for a medium living standard, I wish I were born into a wealthy family.If I have been born into a rich family,I can get good education and I don't need to toil for the livelihood,I can learn much and know more and do what i like . Semetime rich people can choose his life-style but the poor can not.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Thanks for responding! I agree with you: "Rich people can choose his life-style but the poor cannot" that's a GREAT way of describing it. People automatically assume that rich people will live a lavish life, waste their money, and be totally selfish/stuck-up, but I find that that's not always the case. You can certainly live a modest life being rich, you just have the financial security that the poor do not. Thanks again!
@scann33 (101)
• Italy
9 Mar 09
born into a wealthy family and wealthy still brings you the possibility to have more than others, but we must be able to exploit. The money does not give happiness but also help to live better, and I would not like to be rich, but a little more quiet, in order to achieve the dreams and perspectives of life that I can not have.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Thanks for your perspective.
@SmilyQin (180)
• China
9 Mar 09
Yeah,when i was young i always dream of things like this!I dream that i was born to a very rich family,my life if like a pricess. But i don't have this feeling for a long time!Come on,they are impossible things,the more you dream,the more you worry about now. If you always look into the dreams,you won't have a positive atitulde towards really life.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
So you're saying dreams don't come true? That's not a very fun perspective.. I have a dream that I'm currently working on! So I hope you're not discouraging us from following our dreams..
• South Korea
9 Mar 09
I always dreaming and wish that i one of them.Maybe i could go around the world and made the things i want.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Travelling sounds nice! I would definitely do that if I were rich.
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
9 Mar 09
I think i've learned some valuable lessons being broke because it makes you sit back and realize what you do have isn't so bad and that the world revolves around money and there's just some things that you can afford to do and really can't afford to do. On the latter though of course i wish i was born in to a rich family but i would have evolved into an entirely different person and that's for sure. I mean look at some of the rich people you know. They're simply different than the poor people you know aren't they. I know mine are. Not that it's always a bad thing that's just the way they end up. As for lessons, they may never learn any since they can just bail out of any thing that comes they're way.
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@maezee (32281)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Thanks for responding! I know exactly what you mean. A lot of my friends, who have pretty wealthy parents, act irresponsible because they never LEARNED to be independent and responsible for their own actions, and now they use their parents & their wallets as a safety net. It's kind of sad, and I guess in a way I'm glad I don't live that life. Thanks for responding!