im not her mother!!

why is your sons girl friend your age?this sounds really hard and like it may not work. i know i would not live with my son and his girl friend that alone will cause problems. i would live with my son if he needed me . but never the two of them.

It sounds like she's a bit of a 'nervous twitterer' - someone who has to say something just for the sake of it! I'm a bit confused though - I take it your son is going out with an older woman? (not THAT much older, obviously!)

I think that you had said before in another discussion about the three of you splitting the bills. I don't think you mentioned about you and her being friends before. I read both of what I just said on comments you made to the prior responders of this discussion. I think that it's sad that you two once being friends has now come to this. Sounds as if it's a lot harder on you then if they had just met and you had not known her beforehand. I hope that the two of you can become civil again, if you haven't already, try talking to her and asking what happened to the friendship the two of you had? I hope that this helps! Good luck and happy mylotting!

she's a nut. she treats youlike crap all the time from what u have told me. wish your son would move her out. don't know why he even wants her around. i wouldn't want her introducing me as anything. sorry u have to put up w/someone like her. u r a better lady than me. lol.

Let me see...you're living with them and dissing one of them. I don't know this woman but I'm assuming that she's older than your son if she's your same age. I doubt she was trying to insult you by referring to you as her mother-in-law...but rather to give you a connection that was stronger than "this is so and so". I have no problems with my age personally. I'm 54 and if one of my kids was in a steady relationship with a 50+ year old then, yes, I'd be the mother-in-law. It means I have the status of being in the parental role...to both of them...and has nothing to do with my age. Frankly, I see a lot of problems ahead if you're going to continue to have the negative attitude you have towards your son's girlfriend. Even your very cute nickname for her...Agra...says a lot. This is the woman your son chose to share his life with and, if you're going to share his home, you're going to have to learn to get along with her because, trust me, you don't want to force your son to make a choice.

When she does stuff like that, you get flustered and upset. You are giving her the reaction she is looking for. As long as she is rewarded by your reaction, she will continue to do stuff like that. Do something she doesn't expect. If she pulls a stunt like that again, in front of people, loudly say, "Mom! Why would you say that???" Or, explain to people that she has early stages of alzheimers and gets confused. Turn the tables, and she will either stop, or split a gut and move on.

What a trial this woman is. I don't know how you can stand for it. This woman is so unsuitable as a girlfriend OR daughter -in-law. Can't your son see that? I think you are a saint.

It seems to me you have two choices. Either put up with it or move out. Personally I would never have moved in with them in the first place and would definately move out now. There's a reason kids grow up and move out! lol

Oh wow that is something... yes I can understand your fustration I mean picturing if that was me I would probably be upset that my son married an older women, that was my age at that... and she has the nerve to call you step mom.. Ha she is getting a kick out of it. she should respect the fact you don't want people knowing and move on with it... its not like its a big secret why LOL

hahaha!...when Agra no longer be Viagra, meaning that lost the two (2) alphabets for V and I. Where V is for VERY and I is for INTELLIGENT...LOL! What else to say?. You did nothing wrong, but it had happened at wrong time at the wrong place. As you mentioned, in an open public(time) and in the waiting room(place). I hope you can add her the V and I, much better!.

I do not think you were wrong, but it depends on HOW you said it. If you asked nicely, no problem. If you had a tone in your voice, she could have a reason to be upset. But, I am SO happy that your son stuck up for you. I doubt that it will last if he did that but who knows. I would have just said, "Yes, if you get married, it will be weird having a daughter-in-law the same age as me," in front of everyone. Of course with a big sweet smile on my face!

I guess it would bother me. It would honestly depend on whether I liked her or not. It is actually your sons happiness and I guess I would try to over look as much as I could, if it wasn't too bad, for his sake. Her being about your age would definitely be an issue with me. I would hope to be friends with her but that is very hard to do. You want the best for your child and you may see alot he doesn't see or understand. Difficult situation.

Hi bunnybon7, I can't understand why your son didn't go for someone who is his own age or just get rid of her, he knows you don't get on with her and for her to keep annoying you, anyone would just get rid, you are his mother and always be there for him but I think she is just using him and yes I would get annoyed if some my age keep refering to my as her mother-in-law and she isn't anyway. Love and hugs. Tamara xxxxx

I don't think you were wrong. It's not about the age thing, it's about being considered related to her!!

Someone calling you "her mother in law" does not make you older than you look. What are you going to do if your son marry her? You won't be able to object to the fact that you are her mother-in-law. lol That's a bit like those 40ish women who don't want to be call grand-ma when their children have their first child. I think you are over reacting. If anyone should be blame... it should be your son for dating a woman as old as his mother. lol

try to be friend to her!

Oh my!! LOL!! This Agra of yours is a real caricature. Don't you think it would be great if your son decides to break up with her. She really is too old for him. ;) Well, don't let her get on your nerves. It is good to know that your son understands the situation so well and supports you when she gets too aggravating. Well, I absolutely detest it when people my own age or even older than me calls me MOM. LOL!! Cheers and happy Mylotting

I have a question: who had to visit the doctor? And I can only tell you what I would do in your place, I have gone back in discussions to see why you moved, so I could give you the best response I could. I would really live my life as If I was single -you're a widow so that's not a big jump- live like a true roommate and do your things alone, you do not have to tag along with her and neither does she with you and moments like that will be avoided. I am 39 and I can't vision my life living with my family again (and from the looks of it neither do they) I have an only daughter and I can only tell you no matter how you are, you only live once so might as well do it the best way you can and be as happy as you can. Would I be upset in your shoes? I do not know, I only have a daughter, I am hoping to be a part of her life but I do not see myself living with her, our personalities clash right now that she is 17, I can't imagine what would it be like on her turf. I wish you good luck

You could look at it in funny kind of way. If she calls you mother in law again, you could come back with something like that you look good for your age with how old the daughter in law looks. Lol. But on a serious side, it would make more sense if she introduced you as her friend. Or maybe as my partner's mother.

hello,i can fell the miserable as you,i am young,but not too young 23years old now,when i living with my paretens,they usally tell me the old days to ask me to value the uneasy days and strive for the new,i am working hard on my study,just because the age discrepcy,w have something different idea,then argue sometime,but when the fighting passed, i always regetful.that's my mother and father,because of love,so they educate me ,so i can taste deep miserable ,now i will not make they mistake me,and i also piety them.