Is it only you who comments on the response for your discussion?

@sanuanu (11238)
India
March 9, 2009 10:33pm CST
I am a discussion starter and I like adding comments to the responses I get from mylottians on my discussion. Most of the time people would only respond to the discussion. Now, not many read the entire discussion with the responses it got. So, it is very rare that you get comment from other guys on the responses. I really don't mind them adding comments but sometimes I feel that it then becomes a chat between those two guys and my role becomes negligible and I feel that I would interfere them. So, is it bad adding comments to those responses? Just curious!
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@pratik87 (1928)
• India
9 May 09
i like to start discussions too and when i strated off at mylot i was under the impression that no one other than me will post commments on my discussions and i was surprised to see that people do comment as well as reply to discusions i start. i do not mind it at all and there is a particular interest where if i start a discussion then mostly fellow mylot users resply as well as add comment on my discussions. i think it is a very good thing. the whole idea of mylot is to engage in meaningful discussions and post quality content so if others are not only responding but also adding comments then it only says that the discussion is creating interest within other users. i do not fell it is a bad thing at all.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
9 May 09
Yes, it is not bad at all but on the contrary it is a fun thing by which we can get money for our jobs too. So, instead of responding more and more, I like to enjoy commenting with each other and it was commenting that I found you as a very good friend of mine. I hope you are not feeling bad while responding to my discussion !
@pratik87 (1928)
• India
9 May 09
no not at all i dont mind responding. you have quite interesting discussions actually. i responded to those i liked more. and you miight not have noticed but i responded to more than ten even when the bet was for only 10.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
9 May 09
no not at all i dont mind responding. you have quite interesting discussions actually. i responded to those i liked more. and you miight not have noticed but i responded to more than ten even when the bet was for only 10. I would take that as a complement, thanks pal! So, are you ready for another bet?
@mysdianait (64381)
• Italy
10 Mar 09
Hi sanuanu! I read the other responses both before and after I have responded on a discussion and very often leave a comment too. Sometimes the responder will comment back but also several times so will the user who started the discussion itself and in this way there is a discussion inside a discussion. It can be fun and very intersting at times.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
Have seen your discussions and the discussion you have left comments. I always enjoy reading your responses on any discussion. I have learnt many things from you. On this topic, I would say that if there is a positive thing to say on any response, one should do it and the author must not feel bad about it. may be I need to grow up more!
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@mysdianait (64381)
• Italy
14 Mar 09
I have enjoyed several discussions we have had on several other discussions recently. I always het back and comment over and over again if the user comes back. It can be fun and we get to know each other too through our opinions. Why you say you must 'grow up'? I don't understand the meaning related to this discussion.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
I said that I don't like people having discussion on my discussions. It means that one person responded and other adds comment to it and they two gets involved in the discussion. My role become negligible in that. I don't like it always. In that way I need to grow up and enjoy watching them have discuss! If you have seen it, I always love commenting and enjoy it too! I don't miss a chance of adding comments over my response any time. I hate if the chain ends at others comment. I always want my comment to be at the bottom!
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
14 Mar 09
Hi sanuanu, I like adding comments in all the responses I have received in my own discussions started. Yeah, if it happens that a stranger (user not in my friends list) has added comment before I do. I would then type the user name of my responder and leave my comment there. If one of my friends adds a comment before mine, I would then type the user name of them and leave my comment there. I won’t get angry but I would feel happy anyway, for very often the foreigner will summit his response later and will be one of the responders in my discussion. I have been doing this several times when I come across my friend in the same discussion which I’m going to respond. Happy posting and have a great day.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
15 Mar 09
Hmm, I also have seen it happening with me. The person who responded to me also have commented one of the response. Reading my friend's response, I think I have to change my thinking and start enoying it. Even in this discussion too, one of the response got other's comment before me! Thank you Ikbooi, Nice to have you in my discussion PS: What is the meaning of Ikbooi?
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 09
Other than reading, responding and starting discussions, as well as adding comment, I like watching certain attractive photos in case I come across any. You are very much welcome sanuanu, and thanks for liking my responses and comments. My user name is as simple as just a combination of 3 words, “i love(l) book”. but they are not arranged nicely in the proper position and the 3 letters “ove” are deleted. How about yours? I have explained the meaning of my user name before in some responses when answering discussions about user name.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
21 Mar 09
Interesting! I love books - l(ove)kboo(k)i i.e. lkbooi. In that way my user name would be legami. He he he he but this user name is copyrighted by you, I need to seek permissions from your side to start using it. My user name is the simplest one. My name is "Saurav" and my nick name is "Anu" So, SAnuAnu is my user name. Well, this is my second account so, I can't use my favourite one, My favourite one is Sau(rav)Anu i.e. sauanu. Understood?
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@jazzsue58 (2668)
13 Mar 09
I think it's great we can have things going off on a slight tangent. I often post comments to other people's replies in discussions, usually in discussions with a high post count. It's nothing to do with increasing my earnings - my post number remains the same (unfair on those of us who are still yards away from their 500 minimum for pasting - see my profile for the discussion I started on this)so I guess I earn nothing from my comments. Also unfair, as usually they are to provide info or advice that would benefit the whole discussion, not just one replier. This is a friendly site, we all know that. Imagine you're at a party, chatting in a big group of friends. Someone raises a point about being cut-up on the motorway. The person next to you says, "Yeah, that happened on the M25 yesterday - there was a crash. I nearly became a part of it." Everyone else says, "Jeeze, you were lucky!" but you were there. You were probably in the same line of traffic when it happened - or perhaps you were unlucky enough to have become involved. Are you going to stay silent? No, not unless you're very, very shy. You'll pipe up and tell them, won't you? And then they might come back with: "Oh, so do you live near Godstone then?" or something. It can go both ways - you might have so much in common you pair off, but if you know the rules of social etiquette you'll return to the more general topic of conversation, only now you know a little bit more about one or more of the people around you - and they in return know you. I belong to a social group called City Socialising, where this often helps to "break the ice at the party" and it's how a normal conversation develops. It's exactly the same here. It's what makes us human, and it's what separates the humans from the trolls.
@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
I understand what you are talking about but things are differnt at mylot from real time party. There is no option of responding or commenting in a party. You can only say things and people would hear it. Things are little different here at mylot. That is also why we like this site very much. We can have multiple discussion at the same time with different people. Anyway, I liked your comment and sending you a frineds request.
@jazzsue58 (2668)
14 Mar 09
Dahling, I'm flattered! I'll have to get all mylot friends together and hire a hall!
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@jazzsue58 (2668)
14 Mar 09
Oh - and thanks for the BR too!
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@dpk262006 (56599)
• Delhi, India
10 Mar 09
To my mind, it would be better and in the fitness of things, if I post my comments to the responses, which I receive in response to my own discussions, because the respondent submitted the response for my comments/my information. I've seen that sometimes, others just intrude and post their sub-comments to a response, which is not exactly in response to their own discussion. If a third party intervenes and it happens to be a common friend, then I do not mind, his/her sub-comments, however, if the fellow is not in my friends' list and just commenting on a response, which is directed to me (because I started the discussion) then I won't appreciate his/her sub comments.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
Yes, that would not be a good idea. comments are meant to be directed to the response. May be if one has 50+ responses for the disussion then I would choose to add comments even if it is directed to the author. Just for the sake of author because in that way they don't have to surf to the last page for my response!
@dpk262006 (56599)
• Delhi, India
16 Mar 09
Apparently, we are thinking on the same lines.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
21 Mar 09
Indeeed!
@csrobins (1125)
• United States
10 Mar 09
I like to add comments to my responses, I think it helps maintain community and relationships on here. I also don't mind if someone else comes into me and another person's "conversation." But I hesistate befor ecommenting on something that look like they may have a thing going on. I don't want to look stupid but I wish I knew it would be oaky if I wanted to join in.
@jazzsue58 (2668)
13 Mar 09
Just like in real life! how often have you been at a party, heard a really interesting conversation going on and wished you could sntribute with your own experience? And how often do you hold back? But actually, it's rare people get snotty - they're usually interested in hearing what you have to say, once you've cut through the, "Couldn't help overhearing. Do you mind if I add my five pennorthworth?" tape.
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@csrobins (1125)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Yeah, it's so much easier to just observe and watch everyone else talk. There is less chance for awkward moments if I stay out of it, but once I talk I'm very glad I did. I just rely on non verbal behaviors to see whether i am accepted into their conversation...but here it is kind of scary because I can't see their non vervals
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
That's what I am talking about. Sometimes the discussion's standard is that high between them that even I feel hesitant of entering them or vice versa. I don't want any of my disucssion's response go unatteneded by me. that is why I responded here also! On the other hand, I am not feeling that you guys are stealing anything but I feel that you are giving me an opportunity to learn something here!
@Ysabel (1202)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
hello sanuanu, i might miss some of your discussions as my time on the internet is very limited nowadays! got pre-occupied with work and i could not even comment/ reply even to those who have commented to my own discussions! i feel so guilty at times! i welcome those who will comment on my discussion and i would be very glad and happy if ever there are others who will comment to another response as well! not that i would like to interfere but i just let them be, just to make the flow of the conversation going.
@sanuanu (11238)
• India
15 Mar 09
Even I couldn't comment on your response. What a fool I am? I have comment everyone but you. I took you for granted. Forgive me for that. It is ok that these days my mind is empty and can't think of new things every day. I have not started a discussion for last 3 days now! That is good that you tend to enjoy people having discussion in your discussion. Good job! keep it up!
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@Ysabel (1202)
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
It's totally okay with me! Its not that you are taking me for granted, I certainly understand that. Sure, there would be times that we can only do as much as we can and there's so much discussions to comment and we can even if we want to reply or comment to all of these discussions, we just can't and its just so impossible to do! The past week, its my work loads that has been keeping me to stay long in mylot. What about you? What's keeping you busy lately?
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
18 Mar 09
I was busy with my notification mails. I had something around 38 mails day before yesterday and 33 a day before that. So, made me a little busy that I couldn't see this response unattended. It is good to see 10 stars against your name. I remember last time it was 9 stars(Last month)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
no its bad at all... you are just expressing yourself :)
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• Philippines
10 Mar 09
I mean its not bad at all...typographical errors.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
Now, you must be missing the facility of editing your comments or response. It happens and you were good that you realized it so soon. If that mistake would have been done by me then I will never realized it before someone else points on it.
• India
9 May 09
Yes, many a times it happens when others comment on my discussion's responses because they like to have an argument or a point to clear. It is nice to have others view in abundance as I don't feel like I don't have anything to do in my discussion since I am the person who has started the discussion and would voice my comment on his/her response that how much it is in our context of thinking!!
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
9 May 09
Our thinking matches with each other. I hope you will complete your 500 posts asap to get a right to c & p. Anyways, I have had long comments chains with people around mylot and I enjoy it very much.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
9 May 09
I would personally not like that some one is adding comments to my discussions. In case you have something very valueable then I don.t mind otherwise I would mind it a bit. As far as general people are concerned, I think its difficult to have a say.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
9 May 09
That is a bit of information. I would take care in future. thanks for responding.
• Malaysia
17 Mar 09
Maybe it is a good way to give comments to all responses as it will create a kind of goodwill between the starter of the discussion and the responder. Since I have only few discussions under my belt I did try to give out my comments to all the responses. I think it is healthy if other people butt in to the responses and create some kind of healthy debate there. It is up to you whether you want to be involved in the debate. It shows your discussion is interesting to draw others to give their ideas. A topic become lively when many aspiring debaters inject their views and argue to come to a solution. Don't you think so?
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
18 Mar 09
Now, after starting this discussion, my thinking is not changing itself. Yes, you are also enjoying it then there shouldn't be any problem for me about it also. Thanks for the lovely response my friend!
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@dropofrain (1168)
• India
16 Mar 09
I think most of the times its we only who comment on our discussions reply. I have hardly seen anyone commenting on some one else's discusions.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
17 Mar 09
Yes but sometimes, People come and share their experience by responding to a discussion and when they do then they might read other responses too! By which they can see something interesting in other's response and might find a way of commenting non them!
@daliaj (5689)
• India
16 Mar 09
I like adding comments to my discussion too, but sometimes I found that there are other people who comment to the responses. It is nice to find that other people are interested in the topic. I like it when other people respond to the responses of my discussion. I don't think that I am interfering them by adding comments to two guys chatting. I am only stating my views.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
17 Mar 09
Cool, so everyone else thinks different that I used to think. Now, I have changed my view and I also like to invite people to join my discussion by adding comments. It would be fun!
@sunita64 (6473)
• India
15 Mar 09
At times people do comment on your comment in the post and that kind of discussion becomes a chat scene where more than two persons start chatting on a topic. Somehow I do like such discussions in my topics and do not mind that.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
15 Mar 09
Sunita: I think you are responding to my discussion for the first time. Welcome to my discussions. I really appreciate your time and effort. As far as the comments from other users are concerned. Now, I have understood that most of the time the intention is to answer the query of the user. I don't mind after reading the responses here at mylot.
• Brazil
11 Mar 09
I think it's a good thing it makes your discussion popular...I always reply to everyone that post responses on my discussions... Some come back to reply and some don't but still, I like doing that...
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
I am just like you. I think that more comments I add, the more popular it would be in future. I have a habit of adding comments to each and every response I get for my discussion from you guys. So, if you are looking for a chat or two with me, then respond to my discussion and we could chat for all eternity!
@Jlowe110 (313)
• United States
10 Mar 09
If I really disagree or agree with someone I will. I do read the responses, however if I don't fell I need to respond I just respond to the original question then leave and do my business. Unless someone else comments my response and i'm online, I don't usually go back to the topic. I'm sure thats what most others do, however I bet a majority don't even read the responses.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
For my discussion, be assured that your responses would be read and commented every time. I have very few discussions in my list that was unattended. Specially in begining, I didn't use to comment as I used to think that I won't get paid for that. I don't know if I get paid for comments but I usually like to make comment every time!
@jshekhar (1563)
• India
10 Mar 09
I do not consider it bad to comment on any response, as long is it is relevant and does not hurt sentiments. I am a lazy person when it comes to commenting upon somebody else's response. In fact, I comment upon very few responses that my own discussions have got. I tend to check upon my discussions once in a while and then, I comment wherever I have something to add to. Otherwise, I just love to keep responding :)
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
I am opposite. I love commenting very much. In this way you can make good friends and that might help you in future. Who cares, I love commenting and that's what I do. sometimes, I choose one good person and keep resonding to his/her discusisons and when I get comments, then I would keep the chain until the comment is coming from the other side.
@HelloMickey (1663)
• Hong Kong
10 Mar 09
So sorry to hear that. I don't know it and I think I wrote one comment in others' discussion before. If it is bad to comment in others' discussion, then I better don't do it again. Thanks. You post is very useful to me. Good day~
@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
It is not that bad. If you something to say on discussion then you should do it by responding to the discussions. Now, adding comments would be a good idea when you have something to say on the response on the discussion. Feel free to add comments everytime if you feel tha tyou have something to say on the comment/response.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
10 Mar 09
If I had something to add, I would go ahead and comment. If not..I wouldn't. It's actually a good thing when you've got people to communicate within your discussion. Your role is never negligible.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
and they enjoy, din't they! Well, I think I should also enjoy because they got a chance to have a chat with each other on my discussion. Sometimes they got too involvd that I feel that I can't interfare!
@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
I really don't care if no one would pitch in to someone's response in my discussion. But I do react and give comments to the other response in a given discussion when and as long as I have something to contribute or found it misleading in some way. If there's nothing that I can say then I will just go on and move to another.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
14 Mar 09
Well, I do think about this when I feel that the response of a discussion is something that I can also add. Well, for that I bookmark that discussion and wait for the author to say something, by which I get the opportunity to have a post or two for that response.