you don't look like someone a guy would give flowers to.
March 10, 2009 12:21pm CST
a few years ago, a close friend of mine received a box of flowers from a secret admirer. i was gushing along with her, asking her how it feels to have a secret admirer deliver flowers to her. her response? "oh, that's right, you don't seem like the kind of person who guys give flowers to..." ??? what "type" exactly is it that gets flowers more than others? i've received flowers, thank you very much. but even if i hadn't, is it decent to actually stereotype people as to who's the "flower-receiving" type and who's not? has anyone ever told you this before? if i had the chance to talk back to my friend, what would be a nice thing to say?
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10 Mar 09
Isn't it amazing what people feel totally justified in saying to others? At my high school reunion, some of us were discussing our children, of course. I had several people say to me, "Wow! You have two kids? I never thought you'd have a family." I was offended, initially, and asked why. People apparently thought I would be highly career driven and not interested in being a mom. It's certainly possible to do both!! *grin* In response to your friend and her comment about the flowers... I would have been tempted to say: "You know, you're right. I'm not the kind of person guys give flowers to... they give me diamonds." *wink*
11 Mar 09
Whoah! That was tough! So, what 'look' or 'type' is the type that should be given flowers then? She was being so rude. Did you ask her that time why she thought that?? Anyhow, if I were to meet that friend again, it depends really, if she's happy or not. If she's not happy then perhaps I'd not say anything because she's paying for it, but if she were okay but I'm more 'successful' I'd really get back to what she told me by saying: "remember the time you told me that I'm not the type who gets flowers? Guess what? I guess I'm not that type and you were right, perhaps I'm the type who gets diamonds." Hehehehe... Oh well.
11 Mar 09
Hi sandra, I would just ask that question, 'well what type do you mean that do get flowers sent to?' I would as her taht, I think she looks down on you a bit and think she was making feel jealous of her, I have been married for a while now but my hubby nevder buys me flowers, he used when we first courted but he says they are waste of money as they die and ends up in a bin. I agree but still likes to recieve some. Tamara
10 Mar 09
She rates herself does'nt she ,I know she is supposed to be your friend but she seems a touch conceited.What you want to remind her off is when the flowers stop comeing she will need some friends to consol her.I would have been very upset if a friend of mine said that to me,she would cease to get my attentions.You should have said what do you mean by that,mind you it might have started a row and then you would have really found out what she thought of you.Find your self a friend who will appreciate you.xx
10 Mar 09
i would just say.thanks for your thought but i beleive that there is not a certain type of person that only gets flowers.everybody has different tastes and everyone has their own idea of what they are looking for therefore you are just as likely to get flowers as your friend does.
10 Mar 09
There is no stereotype... if a person is considerate enough and sweet enough to send you flowers, then it's hardly anything to do with who you are, in essence. It's to do with the other person's appreciation of you. I think that was a pretty mean thing of your friend to say unless she was joking, and would have just apologised for drawing attention to her as the "chief flower receiver" as her embarrassment is obvious in her retort. Then I would have walked away and let her get on with her flowers. Needless to say... no, nobody has told me this before! Let's face it, if there was no name on the flowers, your friend could even have staged the receipt of them! he he. Brightest Blessings.
12 Mar 09
No one has ever said that to me. I have received flowers from a guy I never met he just saw me in passing and then brought flowers than followed me to give them to me.. It was weird. I have been sent flowers for valentines day & birthday too.. You feel special.. As for your friends remark it sounds sycastic, I don't think it was a nice thing to say though regardless. I don't think there is a specific type really...
11 Mar 09
is she really a friend? if a friend says that in my face, i will not talk to her again, she does not seem like a good friend. excuse me, who does she think she is? maybe she thinks she's too pretty and wants her friends to envy her duh, it is better to have a good heart and loved by someone we also love than her who receives flowers from guys who hardly know her and might run away as fast as they could once they get to know her