How can I comfort my good friend?

By Alex
@venchaul (541)
China
March 10, 2009 9:03pm CST
Hi,everyone!I need your help! One of my friends broke up with her boy friend who is really handsome and attracting. In fact they are a perfect match. But He has to break up because of the far distance with my friend,which is one of the reasons.I know my friend really love him. So she is heart-broken now and she can't help paying all her attention to missing him and shed tears abundantly. As her classmates and good friend, I really sorry for that! So how can I comfort her? Could you please give me some advice? I really appreciate!
7 responses
@puchhua (30)
• China
12 Mar 09
people like us always suffer from such things,it never stop even though we are heartbroken.while it's the reality that often happen to us.and i think the best way to deal it is to face it.ask your friend to fight against the joke the life send to her and try to earn the things belong to her and get her boy friend back. i think if true love really exist.no matter how far the distance between them,they will fix it.while if she had done all her best to save their love,her boy friend still do nothing but refuse all the things she done.she should think about the whole thing thoroughly.life is short,should we spend too much sorrow on such things which seem not worthy.
@venchaul (541)
• China
12 Mar 09
It is wise of you to deal with the affairs of life! Thank you for your useful advice! Good luck to you!
• China
13 Mar 09
you are welcome
@pinetree (218)
• China
13 Mar 09
Maybe time is a good medicine ,and you can play with her ,invite her to go out for some activities ,and you can introduce some good friends to her ,then she may pull oue much easier ~~
@venchaul (541)
• China
13 Mar 09
Yeah,you are right, time is a good medicine! Thank you for your good suggestion!
@nvlusung (16)
• Saudi Arabia
12 Mar 09
For this kind of Heart problem, it is not easy to overcome the pain, and whatever you talk to her, for me there is nothing to change.You need only to be there with her,time pass and she will be alright
@venchaul (541)
• China
12 Mar 09
Yes,so we ofen say "time is the best medince to cure one's wound". I believe she will be better! Thank you anyway.
@Troy1987 (49)
• China
12 Mar 09
As Shakespear says:love and be silent.I think you needn't explain the reason.What you should do is to keep up listening...you can say sth humorous to make her laugh,and invite her to the park.seeing the beautiful scenery.just make her know that she is extremely lucky to have a friend who is conserned and looking out for her.
@venchaul (541)
• China
12 Mar 09
Good! I will try my best to be humorous and make her laugh! Love and be silent,how beautiful! Good day!
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
I feel so sorry for what happened to your friend. I find that shallow. If he loves her there is always a way to continue the relationship. What I can say is just be there and let her release what she feels. In time the wound will heal. I know it wont take a day to feel hurt. Cheer her up, and up lift her self esteem, like your pretty,your nice, your smart, what can a man look for, and you deserve a better man then him. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@venchaul (541)
• China
12 Mar 09
Yes,I believe the wound will heal and I am sure she will be better soon. Thank you! GOOD LUCK!
• United States
11 Mar 09
Just let her talk when she needs to. A lot of people just like to have someone to listen to them. It's not the end of the world. Plus, there's more to love than attraction. A lot more. She'll be ok though. Just show her you are there to listen and cater to her needs. :-)
@venchaul (541)
• China
12 Mar 09
Thank you for your advise and I will be there if she needs.
@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
be there for your friend when you feel she needs you because there would be times when she wants to be all alone. i believe, you should not overdo it. you know, pay a little more attention than usual but not too much. it's like a wound. you clean it, watch out for an infection but you don't spend too much time disinfecting it or else you'd just add pressure to the wound and it might bleed again. it'll heal. everybody experiences a breakup in their lives.
@venchaul (541)
• China
11 Mar 09
Yeah,I couldn't agree with you! Every time when she stay with us(our classmates),we daren't to say sth about love,we are afraid to hurt her again. Sometimes she need a private room,sometimes she need one to tell her story.I just don't know how to say words to comfort her when she pours out her heart to me. Thank you so much!