Advice please

she is 16 an been with this boy for over a year an she swears this is the one he seems like a nice boy he is always polite when he comes around But like I told my daughter she is 16 how dose she know he is the one an as far as my hubby's family is concern my daughter tries to ignore it she knows how they are

Of course he's the one! She is 16! You know how that goes. By 12 everything in life becomes high drama and at 16 kids think they are equal to adults and that they have learned everything and they are mature and their parents are just trying to spoil their fun... I think the more of an issue you and your husband make of ther seriousness of the relationship the more dramatic she will become. You have to back off a bit and let her figure out for herself that this relationship is neither permanent or serious. We're not living in little houses on the prairie where kids get married in their teenage years and start a family. As long as you are setting the example when it comes to respecting diversity on all fronts she can have a green boyfriend from another planet as long as he is respectful and treats her right, etc. The thing to concentrate on is making sure she has had a good foundation and that her choices reflect the values you have tried to instill in her. Teenagers break up constantly and make up and each new relationship is more serious than the previous one. Her priority right now is to make good grades, be a good person with good habits and get out of high school. Tell the family members to mind their own business and just be there for your daughter when she needs your support. Sometimes it is enough just to listen to kids vent and make very little comment about what they are going through because they really just need to vent and they are still learning how to figure out things for themselves.

My daughter knows I will stand by her no matter what an I so agree with you this is 2009 not 1809 thank you for your response