How can you know if your BF/GF is a marrying type?

Philippines
March 12, 2009 6:28pm CST
have a lot of friends who always ask if how can they know if their boyfriend or girlfriend is a marrying type. i usually told them if he/she is faithful and he/she talks about your future together. but i know though you planned for the future if you're not really meant to be nothings gonna happen. is there any signs that a guy or a girl is really a marrying type? how can i know that he is just fooling around and not serious about it? hope to hear from you guys:)
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@coldmoon (1092)
• France
13 Mar 09
I think - a girl is a marrying type if she does well housework, goes well with the members in her boyfriend's family, she knows how to look after children and use the fund economically inspite of throwing all for shopping. -a guy is a marrying type if he's ready to leave the pub early and go home ontime. If he doesn't run the washing machine by himself, at least he shouldn't let his dirty stuff anywhere and play game while his partner cleans up all day long.
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• Philippines
14 Mar 09
its very important for a girl to know all the housework, she knows how to budget and especially she has to have a good relationship when it comes to the guys family. when it comes to guys it is very important that he knows all his responsibilities.thnaks.
@venmarz13 (735)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 09
ehmm..im not sure untill he mary me...heee...i have so many friend with marrying type..but the fact..their Boyfriend marry with another girl..although their relationship is more than 5 years or more and although she was introduced to the boy's family..so if the boy talk about marry or introduce to his family or u have engaged with him or ur relationship was more than 5 years.its not guranted u will marry with him..
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
in love there are no guarantees. i have friends also who do have plans to get married but it turned out they fall out of love after a long engagement. thanks:)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
Hmm.. in my opinion the marrying type is usually a person that has a feeling for you even though such a long time had passed. Recently I met my ex again... after 1 year. I can't believe that she hugged me and kissed me..The whole day she was staying close to me and I was hugging her while she was sitting on my lap. It's as if nothing ever changed. We got separated due to the fact that we study in two different colleges and they are really far from each other... but when we saw each other... I think we still like each other? or maybe love I guess. I'm planning to transfer to her college by trying out for the judo varsity.. I hope I get accepted.. If i do get accepted. I'll ask her to get back with me. She's my first love... I don't know if that means anything or something. so basically.. A person who is the type to marry is the one who loves you even though you were separated for a long time and by distance imo. Good luck man. Best wishes!
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@UK_Shree (3604)
12 Mar 09
I think there are so many factors involved. It also depends on how old the people involved are. For example if we are talking about 18 year olds then I think it is impossible to tell. Above 23-25 I guess there are certain things you could look out for. As in, how much do you really know about your partner? Do they trust you? Have you met their family (if you have been together a long time) and are they interested in what your future plans are as well as what their own plans are. Sometimes though it is better to be upfront and just ask so you can avoid future pain and problems
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• Philippines
14 Mar 09
Thanks for the reply yes i guess there are a lot of factors to be consider first. and it also depends on both of you if you will pursue all your plans for the future. And it really takes a lot of risk and pain sometimes.
@skysuccess (8881)
• Singapore
13 Mar 09
markroderick, How about using a crystal ball here? I think it would have all the answers and pretty fast too! Just kidding. First of all, I think you will agree with me here that without growth in a relationship, then, there's little to look forward in Love. Time change and people change; therefore needs change. True Love might be a constant, but our needs change as our inner self develops. Needs change because our self condition will not remain in the same state forever and/or for a matter of even a few days, months or years. So at the end of the day, Love may stay, but not the very us, humans. Surely there are reasons why two people ended up together years back, but when they spiritually and emotionally start to evolve subconsciously or consciously - whatever that first began the same, might one day diverge and grow differently. Why? Well, I think it will be because Love is truly not about looking at each other, but in one collective direction. The minute the relationship loses this vision, it loses its' soul to function. So, unless both parties could and want to discuss with each other as to whether there is a possibility of shared visions and they want the relationship to move in the future. If there isn't a common goal, common desire and a mutuality then perhaps, it might be beneficial for both parties to come to a mutual agreement to null the relationship and end amicably. Let alone marriage. Cheers.
• France
13 Mar 09
I don't think a person should consider marrying anyone who doesn't have a pretty good idea who they are and where they're going in life. You need to know you have a strong likelihood of being able to pay your bills and spend quality time together. And your family cultures should meld together without much effort. Do your values agree with one another? Talk, talk, talk together about everything. I advise patience - just enjoy the time together and let it flow, but don't let yourself be taken advantage of either. Spend this time to find yourself as well- you're own, independent self. It's important you know who you are too before thinking about marriage. Good luck!
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• United States
13 Mar 09
Well the one thing I learned you have to make sure your compatible,I just got married last year for second time I was divorced for ten years before remarrying because of the fear of marrying again and the same thing happens all over again.You need to at least date for five to six years due to the other person not showing they're true colors after getting married. If I had the time to go over again I would never marry because for me no matter how hard you try it seems to never work out due fact your never what the other person expects you to be.
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• United States
13 Mar 09
I think that if a guy is faithful and love you and wants to get married, then that is a step in the right direction. There are other qualities that I found that may make in impossible to live with him forever even if he truly loves you and wants to be with you. For one, insecurity and jealousy is a real relationship killer. If your man doesn't trust that you are faithful then you will spend the rest of your life trying to explain stupid incidences and trying to prove your faithfulness. Also, if he a real jealous type, then you may be forced to cut off your friends and maybe even your family. And you can forget about having any type of male friends. If you work in an environment where there are other men, then he may give you a hard time. In short, you will eventually grow tired of constantly explaining and arguing in order to prove your innocence. He also will always believe what he wants anyway.
@srganesh (6348)
• India
13 Mar 09
To me,marrying type friends will like to learn about your background,family members and the relationships you have.He/she will like to guide you in all aspects.Thinking of the future,planning the life,sharing intimate secrets,etc are all signs of ready to go hand in hand towards marriage.Cheers!
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Mar 09
I think this is simple. Just ask the guy how he feels about marriage. Depending on his answer you should be able to make a judgement. Fooling around is indeed the norm but there are quite a few ways to get around that.
@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
i think you will know this if your relationship has strong foundation, like good friendship, you accept each other's weaknesses, not picking faults, not concentrating on blaming. You will also know is he or she is a marrying type when she talk about marriage, the plans, the dreamhouse, the kids, what will you do when you old together. I like a guy with plans. I dont want someone who is just fooling around. I think a guy love a girl so much if he really think of the future with her.
• Australia
13 Mar 09
Just figure out myself or.. why dont you ask
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@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
I haven't meet a marrying type bf...but one thing is for sure if he/she has this strong faith in God, a true believer and a christian, who is a very responsible person with a good job and of course, someone who loves you and accepts you for who you are and have been. He/she must be faithful in your relationship and respect it. A person who know how to wait patiently and let the relationship has a good foundation that is friendship. If someone is fooling around, he/she is not true to his/her words, remember action speaks louder than words.(^_^)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I think it is hard to tell sometimes. You might think a person is a marrying type, but as you get to know them things change, or you change your mind. And i think it all depend on what you looking for in a ideal man/woman, and also depends on how that person make you feel when you around. Soemone who would stuck by you through thick and thin, and who could be your best friend no matter what.
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• United States
13 Mar 09
I don't think there is anyway to really tell; I think it's a type of feeling that you get that lets you know that he or she is the one for you. Also , the signs that you mention are a good indicator if he or she is really serious about you. Plus you would see a difference on how the person treats you. Again I just feel that you'll know if the person is right for you, and if your not meant to be all the right signals could be there and nothing will happen life is strange like that.
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@coldmoon (1092)
• France
13 Mar 09
I think -a marring typed girl must know doing housework, going well with her relatives in-law, looking after children, and using the family fund economically inspite of throwing for her shopping. -a marrying-typed guy must be ready to leave the pub early and go home ontime. If he doesn't run washing machine by himself, he shouldn't put his dirty stuff anywhere then playing games while his partner clean up all day long. If someone can't qualify this criterion, he (or she) had better hold the relationship as partner.
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• Philippines
13 Mar 09
i still don't if my boyfriend is really the one i would marry. we've talked about marrying but not now. we don't really put closure that we are really meant for each because we still don't know what will happen tomorrow. but as of now, what we do is enjoy being together, and make every moment precious. one thing's for sure, that i wanted to be with him as long as it takes even forever. happy mylotting!
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• United States
13 Mar 09
Assuming the couple are old enough to even think of getting married, I would say 25 or older, there are several things to concider. Does the partner care about your feelings? Is the parnter alwasy there for you, or is their job (or other thing) more important? Does the partner have drive and ambition, or do they accept mediocrity? Does the partner spend money like water, or are they financially stable (and no, I do not mean are they rich). This also goes along with... ...Do they buy something or a service (like car repair) right then and there, or do they shop around for the best price? Does your partner often make intelligent decisions, or do they fly by the seat of their pants, where the decision they made often kicks them in the butt? Does your partner share the same beliefs as you? Does your partner have the same views on child rearing - heck, do they even want kids? Is your partner supportive of the things you want (like going back to school) or do they feel threatened? Is your partner insecure - in ANY area? Does your partner start fights and arguments about stupid, trivial things? Does your partner ask you questions about your past that are none of his or her business? Does your parnter have plans and goals for their future, and are you included in any of those plans? if you are included, how are you included? Does your partner put your friends down - or worse do they put you down with little comments here and there?