How hard to ignore your lover when he/she's angry?

Philippines
March 12, 2009 11:43pm CST
Everytime, my boyfriend and I arguing, i always feel different...i don't know, yes, it hurts but to tell you honestly,my love for him never change and it multiplies every now and then. it's really hard for me to ignore him most especially when he's really mad eventhough i feel the same madness to him, it eases, to think that any minute he wud break me of. there's nothing i want to do but to please him and say not to leave me. wel, obviously, im so much in love with him and i'm afraid "ending" wud come to us.i don't know how to handle such thing. what wil i do? can you help me? please share me your stories... or your opinions. More tnx guyz... CELLYNE..
23 responses
@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
when we have a fight, he wants "self time", he always tell me he needs this so he wont scream in my face and get so mad. I think its one good idea, but everytime we fight, i always want to talk, explain everything, i never realized that its hard for him to talk because he control his angry emotion thinking he dont really want to scream and get mad at me. I Cant control myself not talk and go blah blah, so i just feel upset too, but i always want to talk because i want to resolve it fast, i dont want to sleep without resolving a fight because it will just end up to sleepless nights.
• India
13 Mar 09
Your whole story depends upon the kind of relationship you share with other person.It may happen many times that you love vigorously the other person and also are in the illusion that same is the the feeling with the other.If your lover is angry and in not in a mood to listen to you i suggest you to jut ignore to him insted of giving unnecessary importance to such a person who is not in a situation to think.If you try to convince him it may happen that it will send a wrong signal ,he might think that you are very much depen dent on him.
@makingpots (11928)
• United States
13 Mar 09
It is hard for me to ignore anyway having extreme feelings toward me, be it anger, excitement, whatever. I am far too sensitive a person. If someone in my life is having extreme emotions it WILL affect me. But do or say anything to keep them from leaving my life.... I am also far too independent a person. It is important to maintain who you are as a person or what would you be left with if this person ever did leave your life?
@makingpots (11928)
• United States
13 Mar 09
typo any'ONE' having extreme feelings....
• United States
15 Apr 09
Well Cellyne for me it depends on the reason why we argue to something. If i know i am on the right track i would surely express what i feel and let him know that. I wont let it pass coz once you brush off things, he will continue doing same thing again and again. So, i think mutual respect is needed in a relationship. I cant ignore his mistakes just because i dont wanna loose him.
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
There is only one thing I could say about this. It is very hard to ignore the person I love because, because it really pains me and I miss things. That is why sometimes, when I know it is not my fault I apologize first. I know it is weird. But, for me, if you really love the person and all, you have to do something. But hey. You have to be tough when it is done.
13 Mar 09
its very hard to ignore him infact i try to get him to talk and i think that only makes him even madder
• Singapore
13 Mar 09
every time having argument some people tent to say break off. but after sometime let him cool down things will change. i just married last two year and i use to argue with my boyfriend ,we had said so many time break off.. but end up we married , so no worry . don't think so much. even now we still argue sometime ,i still say that work divorce some time .but end up we are still loving. if you both are true love nothing can break you two. if touch wood ,you two really decided to break off ,it not really a bad thing too it mean ether one may thing not suitable. find a suitable one ,don't just please him,he might think you can't live him ,and keep hunting you. you must try ignore him sometime ,and love him some time ,like playing kite give and take . All the Best
@elly_biz (65)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 09
my advice don't give your 100% love to your boyfriend, because someday if you are broken with him you will feel very very sad and maybe you can't get up again. i thinks its common when a couple have a problem in their relationship, if both of them can grow up and handle their emotional i think all will be alright.
@Jezebella (1447)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I could never ignore my boyfriend when I get angry at him. I mean I get quiet and may not talk for a while, but he would do or say something that would just make me less angry.
• India
13 Mar 09
I don't get this. If she is picking up the tab I'll tell the waiter. No need to pretend. If she thinks the guy is rude then she can talk to the manager
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
for the record, my boyfriend and i havent fight for once yet..though we argue,like debating on little stuffs often for fun and see who'll win..it's like the childish thing we love to do when we are running out of topic to talk about.. but i dont deny the fact that i ignore him sometimes for nothing (mood swing) but it doesnt last for a day though..and i also read in a certain article that it's healthy to do this with your lover at times(not the mood swing,i mean), being hard to get even you're very into him because it's like making him crave for you more.. sorry, im off the topic..just sharing..lol
@wesley_lu (379)
• China
13 Mar 09
you need more patience and should understand your prince. when you quarrel with him about some little things , sometimes we need to think by ourselves,because maybe we make the mistake. you can try to have a talk with him. if he absolutely love you,he can change his bad manner. give more time to him.
• India
13 Mar 09
Try to avoid arguing with your boyfriend or anybody whom you love from heart, because arguements spoil relations and if hard words are said,it will stay forever and a person who get hurt,he or she will never forget it lifetime.Remember that good words and bad words are always been remember so if you use good words with anybody then relation becomes more close and more strong.
@bamrahkirti (1819)
• India
13 Mar 09
When me and my partner have difference of opinions ,we do not argue much and keep silent.We both take our time and try to evaluate where we went wrong and thankfully My husband always makes up and forgets the argument.We both are not the kind of persons who will hold on to an argument for long and we always try to start our next day afresh and without any hard feelings towards each other.We follow the rule"silence is golden."[u][/u]
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
It's really hard to ignore the person you love if he's mad at you. Me and my boyfriend had our share of misunderstandings. When we're mad at each other and we share the same intense anger, we let things cool down. I know it's hard to ignore it but letting it cool down will make talking a lot easier. My boyfriend sleeps it off and I on the other hand find something else to do to keep my mind out of the quarrel (most of the time we quarrel while we're worlds apart and he hates it). After sometime, he'll ring my phone or I ring his, depending on who gives in first (by the way, when you love someone, you'll learn to eat your pride out). Then we'll talk things out. I tell him why he shouldn't be mad or why I got mad and he'll do the same. And whether its my fault or his, I still say sorry. I know he'd feel bad the same way as I did, so I say sorry. And that keeps our relationship going.
• Indonesia
13 Mar 09
Everytime i arguing with babe,i just try to take more patient.Try to remember how hard we've through so far.We will end our arguing by hug and forget it.And our love become more and more.
• India
13 Mar 09
well when you are in love with some one its hard to forget him if there is any arguments also again after some time he will come back to you as he loves you so well there is nothing to fear but only see to it that he docent start avoiding you , because once there is a difference and he starts avoiding you means then you should look in to the matter why he is avoiding you and come to the conclusion.
• India
13 Mar 09
I think its very natural thing in such beautiful relationship love, yes its very hard to get away from whom you love so much, but true love never ends up with the problem. Often argument occurs in our relationship but if we are true to each other then there will also be a true solution. If there is a problem like then don't let it collide with the duo head otherwise it will burst or break up your relationship, if your are really true to your relationship then you must take the first step to solve the prob and you must put your head down.
@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Arguments in a relationship are normal. It adds up spices to a sweet relationship. What is not normal is when such argument ends up with abuse, which on that case needs separation. When arguments arises, you need to think of the cause and who caused the argument. If your bf caused it, then it is ok for you to ignore it and make him realize his fault. Let him cool down because when you are both angry and mad, both of you are in the wrong path and cannot think properly. On the other hand, if you caused it, then it is also proper to swallow your pride and say sorry for what you did. Guys are sometimes egoistic and think that they are always right. They tend to be more superior than we are. So, never show him that you should always please him when it is his fault. Tolerating his faults will lead to abuse. Every confrontations would lead to arguments. If you won't end it, it will lead to a fight. So, at least one of you must be conscious and able to tone down. As for my experience, my bf and I for four years never fight. We argue, yes and that is normal because we have different views. But, as long as there is understanding and respect, it ended well and healthy. Most of all, one has to learn "to listen" and knows when "to stop".
• China
13 Mar 09
I always quarrel with my boyfriend for trivial matters.Sometimes I was so angry that I want to say goodbye to him(several times I do),but finally I have to comprise to him result of I really love him although he is not handsome and rich.The relationship between us just live relatives,if he is not behind me,I'll be feel upset.Thus,I think if he love you,he'll be not leave you.Come on!