I would like to let rip but.....

@p1kef1sh (45640)
March 13, 2009 6:14am CST
Have you ever read a response to a discussion that has made you really angry and annoyed? I read one this morning and actually wrote two replies but didn't post them as I don't really want to start a row, I simply needed to get my feelings off my chest. I'm calmer now. Do you sometimes write "angry" responses that you then don't post.
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• Romania
13 Mar 09
im here to lisen ..... please post them... im your myLot buddy :D take care
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
You might be, but not everyone is. Thank you.
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@jazzsue58 (2672)
14 Mar 09
Sorry - this ended up in the wrong spot. See post 70 for details.
@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 09
HahahaI know how you feel exactly & what you mean!~ Thank God I have my wife here with me as when I see such nonsense & tell her she'll help calm me down & it goes both ways. Sometimes I'll just tell her to move on & forget it & don't waste her time & energy on such moronic crap. When you see such discussion, maybe you can find a few of your friends' discussions & talk silly? Haha!~Maybe that might help!~ If I'm around you can look for me or just PM me as well, hahaha
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
That's what I usually do. I have to remind myself that I don't actually know these people and they usually live in a different country or continent so I shouldn't get too worked up. Thanks for the offer too. Much appreciated.
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@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 09
No probs. In fact, I just saw an idiotic response on one of the discussions I just responded to. It's about a guy who shoots 9 then kills himself in Alabama. Then this guy responded that how he wished he's the 1 getting shot as it's coolWhat an idiot!~ Oh well
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• United States
13 Mar 09
wow the guy that is wishing he was the one geting killed is kind of scarey. i dont really think i would say any thing to him. i just try to keep in mind that every one has diffrent thoughts and we are here reading and know we may come across these kinds of things .we just need to be mature and healthy enough to know how to deal with them.
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• United States
13 Mar 09
No I always post my real thoughts and feelings. I may regret it later but who the hell cares? Not me I feel much better after letting it all hang out.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
LOL. I am not someone that generally lets rip so I get cross with myself if I am tempted. Maybe I should let go more often.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
13 Mar 09
Yes I have, quite a few times, sometimes I read discussions that make my blood boil but I never make a response on them I just fume about it instead. I have reacted once to a discussion about something and put my feelings down about it but then I just ended up with people telling me off so I wont do it again!!!
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
That's what I want to avoid. I will argue when I feel the need. But frankly, not in someone else's discussion Gemini.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
13 Mar 09
Oh God yes! There has been many a time where I'll type a few paragraphs that are nothing short of scathing and I'll then hurriedly delete them and start all over again. I don't know, but maybe this act in itself is therapeutic! I do know that I usually feel a little calmer after typing my rant out in words, even if I don't actually post it. (This was my 27th attempt at a response to this discussion by the way. I deleted the first 26)
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
Only 26? I am insulted! LOL. I think that there is something in writing out a draft reply and then not sending it. Of course occasionally one had to let rip. Then it's new underpants time!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
13 Mar 09
You get to have new underpants after letting it rip??? Now THAT'S living the dream! Jeez, my own ripping pants are holier than the Pope!
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@mummymo (23707)
13 Mar 09
I'll pay - as long as James agrees to let me see! OH MY I am feeling a little bit faint now, just at the thought of it! Oh please James let me buy them for you - all the other girls will be so jealous xxxx
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@nannacroc (4049)
13 Mar 09
No I can't be bothered, if it makes me angry I shout at Mr Croc it takes less time. I used to post responses when things made me angry but now I don't think it's worthwhile and stay away from these discussions. I do think it's a good idea for some people to do as you did. It doesn't hurt others and helps you get rid of the anger.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
Mr Croc gets it in the ear again. You'll say that's what he's there for of course Nanna. I find it cathartic in a way to write an angry response and then not send it. Although there's a little part of me that would like to press the "post Comment" button!
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@nannacroc (4049)
13 Mar 09
The problem is that the resulting nastiness would upset you more than the other person and it's not worth the hassle.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
Exactemondo Nanna.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
I hope it's not mine P1ke? or is it? Yes, there were times but I tend to ignore than make a big fuss out of it. why don't you PM the person instead, so he/she will know what he /she has done.,sometimes , people tend to be insensitive to other's feelings. At times, I'm like that too, but I didn't intend any harm or misdeed. Cheers.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
It wasn't that kind of discussion, it was their arrogant attitude that annoyed me most. It wasn't one of yours Jen. I've never seen anyone take issue with anything that you''ve said.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Thanks P1ike for a while, I was worried. Sometimes, due to cultural differences we say and do things which may hurt some people. Cheers.
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
13 Mar 09
I worry too and not just about the cultural differences but just because we all see things differently. That and sometimes my illness makes my words come out differently then I mean them. Lucky for me, most know and understand this.
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@dashawk (275)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
Well, it really makes me angry, specially calling me with nice names, but I'm glad i have my girlfriend always telling me to cool down...
@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
Girlfriends have their uses don't they. LOL.
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@dashawk (275)
• Philippines
13 Mar 09
yah, but they're not just for that, they are also to be loved yah know... hehe
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@laglen (19782)
• United States
13 Mar 09
No - much to my detriment, I hit submit! This morning for instance, I have not been on much lately so I am zooming through discussions. But I am getting irritated and posting short (in both ways) answers.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
I nearly did, but held back. I'm quite pleased that I did I think.
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@novataylor (6572)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Just tell me whose butt I need to kick, sugar. And yes, I think writing them down and then deleting them is a very good way to get the anger 'out', without causing world war three. I've done that too. Sometimes, although rarely, I'll let rip, but thank goodness those occasions are few and far between. I do hope you really are feeling calmer now, p1key. But I'll give you the opportunity to rant a bit later, if you still feel angry, ok? xxx
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
I will tell you all about it later Nova my sweet. I am quite calm now. Just spent 90 minutes tackling the jungle that I call a garden! XXXX
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@dragon54u (31637)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Sometimes I will start to reply because someone has angered me but I usually don't hit the "submit" button. My rule is that if I'm responding to something in anger, I must get up and walk away from the computer for at least 5 minutes before I consider posting it. Anger never solved anything and certainly doesn't make someone consider your points valid.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
Agreed. I wrote two responses and posted neither. I asked myself if I was really that bothered and of course I am not.
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• United States
13 Mar 09
Yes, but usually after I type them up, I walk away for a few minutes then reread them and hit delete.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
That's what I did.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
13 Mar 09
Oh yes indeed I do and I've gotten myself into a lot of trouble for doing it. I once was a member on yahoo answers and they have a reality section, omg the bullying that went on, within that site was disgusting and supposedly between adults, so I had to have my say (this was over a year ago) it's a long story but I can't tell you how upset and angry I was getting with this particular group of people, to the point we took it on to yahoo's message boards, so everyone was tuning in to our online slanging match... me against the rtv section of Yahoo (makes me laugh now thinking back)bur all I got out of it was many lessons for myself, on how to behave on the net, needless to say it didn't make me look very good, I ended up looking the bully when in fact I was trying to defend a maturer lady from this particular groups bullying of her, this lady was ringing me and was very upset at the attacks on her so I felt I should defend her. So now yes I may type the reply to get it out of my system if I see something but I never post it, I'm very aware because of my previous experience on yahoo, not to. I'm very curious at what discussion made you feel this way p1kef1sh
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
I have to to remind myself that this is cyberspace. The people that are irritating me don't usually live in this country and couldn't give a scooby about me. I'll let you know who it was separately.
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Yep. All the time. (a lot to one person in particular so I know it's my own hang up) I also write letters to people that get neatly fold, put in an envelope and placed in a sealed box that has a Mail slot cut into it. Once a year I take out the box, open it, and burn the letters. It's amazing how well letting it all go, lets it all go. I deal with it and can let it pass. That's how I get by a lot of things.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
That's a good ploy. Maybe I need a letter box too.
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@mummymo (23707)
13 Mar 09
What a fantastic idea Chimes - I really like that and think I may give it a try! xxx
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
13 Mar 09
It works I swear. I even let (encourage) the kids to "mail" things. My 9 year old has drawn pictures and written things to her in and out parent. It helps her not be so mad at him when he does make his way around.
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@mummymo (23707)
13 Mar 09
I do that a whole lot honey! One of the things I love about this place is that I can vent all my anger and frustrations in a response and then sit back and read before hitting submit - realise how harsh it is and adjust it to a more balanced and thoughtful response. There have been a few times when I have had to just walk away from the discussion altogether or I might have said things that were just too nasty! Hugs and I hope I didn't make you angry! xxx
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
How could you ever make me angry Mummymo. Except by not looking after yourself. Have you been holding out on me? I saw a lady on the Antiques Roadshow tonight who looked just like you, even sounded like you too! Are you an art dealer in disguise! LOL.
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@mummymo (23707)
13 Mar 09
I didn't think I had said something stupid or arrogant but you never know what lac of sleep can do! lol Antiques roadshow? Nope haven't been on it! Had to go shopping too so didn't see it - was she fat and giggly? Wrinkly and daft? lol Only kidding Calm down. I should just have said yep it was me - that might have made your day! lol xxx
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@polachicago (19073)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Yes, I do. I was reading one discussion yesterday that made me angry. I don't want to start discuss anything with those people, because they are looking for reason to reply with anger. They can keep responding at least 30 times in one discussion and They never have enough. Some people need to get fresh air and walk at least 10 miles. Keep smiling, spring is almost there. HUGS
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
I worked in the garden instead! LOL.
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@polachicago (19073)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Lucky you, it is very cold in Chicago...I wish to work in my garden soon....
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@csrobins (1125)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Yeha it doe shelp to type it out and just pretend you wrote it. I must admit, this popularity thing definitely stops any flaming. Not that you would be flaming but you now.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
I know what you mean. I find it quite cathartic.
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@zahfran (851)
• Singapore
13 Mar 09
I've yet to encounter such a situation since I'm still new. I can remain really calm though. I hope I don't come across a situation where I really can't take it anymore cuz I'll pity my computer screen when that happens. Hahaha..
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
LOL. Nothing that is written on here is that important.
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13 Mar 09
Hi p1key, I can't imagine you being angry, but yes I don't blame you if you see something that really rile you up, I have read things that makes me see red but no I wouldn't post it either as it might get delted or some will give me a minus so I don't, I just skip it. Glad you did. Hugs. Tamara xxxxx
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
I don't often get wrked up Tamara. But I get annoyed when I see selfishness and arrogance. XXXX
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@elly_biz (65)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 09
no i don't, because i think it have no use to post an angry responses. it makes us looks ugly and make people aware of us.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
13 Mar 09
I understand that completely. Thank you.
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